Dealing with Jealousy
Alexander
Berzin
March 2004
Disturbing Emotions
We all experience disturbing
emotions (nyon-mongs, Skt. klesha, afflictive emotions) - states of mind that
when we develop them cause us to lose our mental peace and incapacitate us so
that we lose self-control. Common examples are greed, attachment, hostility, anger,
and jealousy. They trigger various mental urges (karma) to arise, usually ones
that lead to destructive behavior. The urges may be to act destructively toward
others or to act in some self-destructive way. The result is that we create problems
and suffering for others and, inevitably, for ourselves.
There is a vast range
of disturbing emotions. Each culture mentally draws some arbitrary line around
a set of common emotional experiences that most people in its society experience,
decides on some defining characteristics that describe it as a category, and then
give the category a name. Of course, each culture chooses different sets of common
emotional experiences, different defining characteristics to describe them, and,
in this way, makes up different categories of disturbing emotions.
Categories
of disturbing emotions specified by different cultures usually do not exactly
overlap, because the definitions of the emotions are slightly different. For example,
Sanskrit and Tibetan each have one word for "jealousy" (phrag-dog, Skt.
irshya), while most Western languages have two. English has "jealousy"
and "envy," while German has "Eifersucht" and "Neid."
The distinction between the two English terms is not precisely the same as that
drawn between the two German words, and the Sanskrit and Tibetan do not correspond
exactly to any of the terms in either language. If, as Westerners, we experience
emotional problems in this general category, designated by the categories formulated
by our own cultures and languages, and we wish to learn Buddhist methods for overcoming
them, we may need to analyze and deconstruct our emotions, as we conceptualize
them, into a combination of several disturbing emotions as defined in Buddhism.
"Jealousy" as Defined by Buddhism and "Envy" as Defined
in English
The Buddhist abhidharma texts classify "jealousy" (phrag-dog)
as a part of hostility. They define it as "a disturbing emotion that focuses
on other peoples' accomplishments - such as their good qualities, possessions,
or success - and is the inability to bear their accomplishments, due to excessive
attachment to our own gain or to the respect we receive."
Attachment,
here, means that we are focused on some area of life in which others have accomplished
more than we have, and we exaggerate its positive aspects. In our minds, we make
this area one of the most important aspects of life and base our sense of self-worth
on it. Implicit is an inordinate preoccupation with and attachment to "me."
Thus, we are jealous because we are "attached to our own gain or to the respect
we receive" in terms of this area. For example, we may fixate on the amount
of money we have or on how good-looking we are. As an aspect of hostility, jealousy
adds to this attachment a strong element of resentment at what others have achieved
in this area. It is the opposite of rejoicing and feeling happy at what they have
accomplished.
In English, one of the definitions of jealousy is "hostility
toward someone believed to enjoy an advantage." It has only part of the Buddhist
definition; it omits the factor of attachment to the area in which the other person
has the advantage. The definition only implies that the advantage may be true
or not, but does not question the actual importance of the area or the preoccupation
with "me."
Furthermore, jealousy, as defined in Buddhism, covers
part, but not all of the English word envy. Envy adds a little more. It adds what
Buddhism calls "covetousness" (brnab-sems). Covetousness is "the
inordinate desire for something that someone else possesses." Thus, the definition
of "envy" in English, is "a painful or resentful awareness of an
advantage enjoyed by someone else, joined with the desire to enjoy the same advantage."
In other words, in addition to the inability to bear others' accomplishments in
an area of life that, as Buddhism points out, we exaggerate the importance of,
envy is the wish to have these accomplishments ourselves. We might be poor or
lacking in this area, or we may already have an adequate or even above average
measure of it. If we are envious and want even more, our covetousness has grown
into greed. Often, although not necessarily, envy entails the further wish for
others to be deprived of what they have achieved, so that we can have it instead.
In this case, there is an ever further ingredient to the emotion, spite.
Envy,
as a combination of jealousy and covetousness, leads to competitiveness. Thus,
Trungpa Rinpoche discussed jealousy as the disturbing emotion that drives us to
become highly competitive and to work fanatically to outdo others or ourselves.
It is connected with forceful action - the so-called "karma family."
Because of being jealous and envious of what others have accomplished, we push
ourselves or we push others under us to do more and more, like with extreme competition
in business or sports. Thus, Buddhism uses the horse to represent jealousy. It
races against other horses because of jealousy. It cannot bear that another horse
is running faster.
[See: Five Buddha-Family Traits in Daily Life: Gelug Anuttarayoga
Tantra and Karma Kagyu Mahamudra Presentations.]
Jealousy and Competitiveness
It
is true that, in Buddhism, jealousy is closely related to competitiveness, although
the former does not necessarily lead to the latter. Someone could be jealous of
others, and with low self-esteem, not even try to compete. Similarly, being competitive
does not necessarily entail jealousy. Some people like to compete in sports simply
for fun, to enjoy themselves and the company of others, without ever wishing to
keep score.
Buddhism connects jealousy and competition differently. For example,
in Engaging in Bodhisattva Behavior (sPyod-'jug, Skt. Bodhicharya-avatara), Shantideva
puts together in one discussion jealousy toward those in higher position, competitiveness
with equals, and arrogance toward those who are lower in status. His discussion
is within the context of learning to view all beings as equal.
The problem
Buddhism is addressing here is the feeling that "I" am special, which
underlies all three disturbing emotions. For example, if we think and feel that
"I" am the only one who can do a specific task well or correctly, like
teaching our friend to drive a car, we become jealous if anyone else teaches him
or her. That does not necessarily lead to competitiveness. If, on the other hand,
we think and feel that "I" am the only one who deserves to do a specific
thing, such as get ahead in life, and we are envious if someone else succeeds,
we become competitive. We have to outdo the other person, even if we are already
moderately successful. In both examples, underlying jealousy and envy is a strong
feeling of "me" and a strong preoccupation with us alone. We do not
consider others in the same way as we do ourselves. We consider ourselves special.
The
remedy Buddhism offers to the problems and unhappiness caused by these types of
jealousy, envy, competitiveness, and arrogance is to treat the underlying fallacy
concerning "me" and "you." We need to realize and view everyone
as equal. Everyone has the same basic abilities, in the sense that everyone has
Buddha-nature. Everyone has the same wish to be happy and to succeed, and not
to be unhappy or to fail. And everyone has the same right to be happy and to succeed
and the same right not to be unhappy or to fail. There is nothing special about
"me" in these regards. Buddhism also teaches love - the wish for everyone,
equally, to be happy.
When we learn to view everyone as equal, in terms of
Buddha-nature and love, then we are open to see how to relate to someone who has
either succeeded more than we have or who has succeeded when we have not. We rejoice
in his or her success, since we want everyone to be happy. We try to help our
equals also succeed, rather than competing with them and trying to outdo them.
Toward those who are less successful than we are, we try to help them do well,
rather than gloat and arrogantly feel better than they are.
Cultural Reinforcement
of Jealousy and Competitiveness
These suggested Buddhist methods are extremely
advanced and particularly difficult to apply when our automatically arising jealousy
and competitiveness are reinforced, strengthened and even rewarded by certain
Western cultural values. After all, almost all children automatically like to
win and cry when they lose. But, on top of that, many Western cultures teach capitalism
as the naturally best form of a democratic society. Underlying it is the theory
of the survival of the fittest, which sets competition as the basic driving force
of life, rather than, for instance, love and affection. Further, Western cultures
reinforce the importance of success and winning with an obsession with competitive
sports, and their glorification of the best athletes and the richest people in
the world.
In addition, the whole political system of democracy and voting
entails competition - offering and then selling ourselves as candidates, by publicizing
how much better we are than our rivals for office. As commonly practiced in the
West, campaigning adds to this an intense effort to find out every possible weak
point in the rival candidates, even in terms of their private lives, and inflating
them out of proportion and widely publicizing them in order to discredit him or
her. Many people even view such type of behavior, based on jealousy and competition,
as praiseworthy and just.
Tibetan society, on the other hand, frowns on anyone
who depreciates others and claims he or she is better than they are. These are
considered negative character traits. In fact, the first root bodhisattva vow
is never to praise ourselves and belittle others to people in positions lower
than ourselves - which would include, here, advertising such words to the voting
public. The motivation is specified as desire for profit, praise, love, respect,
and so on from the persons addressed, and jealousy of the persons belittled. It
makes no difference whether what we say is true or false. In contrast, when speaking
about ourselves, extreme modesty and saying "I have no good qualities; I
don't know anything" is considered praiseworthy. Thus, democracy and campaigning
for votes are totally alien and do not work in Tibetan society if practiced in
the usual Western form.
Even just to say that we want to run for office is
taken as a suspicious sign of arrogance and of a nonaltruistic motive. The only
possible compromise may be for representatives of the candidates - and never the
nominees themselves - merely to speak to others about their candidates' good qualities
and accomplishments, without comparing them to those of the rivals for the office
or saying anything bad about them. This, however, is hardly ever done. Usually,
candidates who are well known, such as from noble families or incarnate lamas,
are nominated, without even asking them if they wish to run. If they say they
do not wish to run for office, this is taken as a sign of modesty, since immediately
to say "yes" indicates arrogance and greed for power. It is almost impossible
for someone nominated to refuse. Voting is then done, without campaigning. People
usually vote for the candidate who is most well known.
Thus, the Buddhist method
of rejoicing in the victories of others - and the even stronger one of giving
the victory to others and accepting defeat for ourselves - may not be the most
suitable first remedy to try for Westerners who are strongly convinced of the
virtues of capitalism and of the Western electoral system of campaigning. As Westerners,
we might need first to reevaluate the validity of our cultural values and deal
with the doctrinally based forms of jealousy and competition that arise from accepting
those values, before addressing the automatically arising forms.
An example
that may help us to see the relativity of Western culturally based jealousy and
competitiveness is an Indian market. In India, there are cloth markets, jewelry
markets, vegetable markets, and so on. Each has row after row of stalls and shops,
right next to each other, all selling almost exactly the same goods. Most of the
shopkeepers are friends with each other and often sit drinking tea together outside
their shops. Their attitude is that it is up to their karma whether or not their
shops do well.
Jealousy in the Western Sense
While the discussion of jealousy
in Buddhism primarily addresses, although does not overlap with, the disturbing
emotion of what English defines as "envy," English specifies another
similar disturbing emotion that it calls "jealousy." For most Westerners,
this type of jealousy gives them even more suffering than the types that Buddhism
discusses.
Rather than focus on what another has person received that we have
not, this form of jealousy focuses on someone who gives something to someone else,
rather than to us. Thus, in English, the first definition of jealousy we find
in the dictionary is "an intolerance of rivalry or of unfaithfulness."
For example, we feel jealous if our partners flirt with other men or women or
spend a lot of time with others. Even a dog feels this type of jealousy when a
new baby arrives in the house. Thus, like jealousy in Buddhism, it has elements
of resentment and hostility. But, in addition, it has strong elements of insecurity
and mistrust.
If we are insecure, then when a friend or partner is with someone
else, we are jealous. This is because we are unsure of our self-worth, insecure
of the other person's love for "me," and thus we do not trust our friend.
We fear that "I" will be abandoned.
To deal with this type of jealousy,
we also need to learn the equality of everyone. But here, our problem is not doctrinally
based on cultural values, so perhaps it is easier to go directly to trying the
Buddhist insight. The heart has the capacity to love everyone - this is an aspect
of Buddha-nature. Reaffirming this fact is a way to overcome jealousy. In other
words, everyone's heart has that capacity, including our friend or lover. If they
are so closed that they have no room in their hearts for me, we can develop compassion
for them. They do not realize their Buddha-nature capacities and, consequently,
are depriving themselves of some of the greatest joys in life.
We ourselves
need to become open to everyone. With open hearts, we can have love for friend,
partner, child, pet, parents, country, our people, Nature, God, hobby, job, etc.
There is room in our hearts for love for all of them. Love is not exclusive. We
are perfectly capable of dealing with and relating to all these objects of our
love, expressing our feelings in manners appropriate to each object. We do not
express our love and affection to our dogs in the same way as we express it to
our wives or husbands, or to our parents. We do not have sexual relations with
all of them.
The issues of monogamy and sexual unfaithfulness are extremely
complex and bring in many further issues. They are not the topics here. In any
case, if our sexual partners, especially our marital spouses and especially when
we have young children together, are unfaithful or spend a great deal of time
with others, jealousy, resentment, and possessiveness are never helpful emotional
responses. We need to deal with the situation in a more sober manner. Yelling
at our partners or trying to make them fell guilty can hardly ever succeed in
making them love us.
Also, these disturbing emotional responses are, in part,
culturally influenced. For example, a traditional Japanese or Indian wife does
not expect her husband to spend his social time with her after work, rather than
to follow the norms of his society and go out with his male friends. Thus, in
most cases, she will be content to lead her social life with her women friends,
separately from that of her husband.
Further, when we think that love and
having a close friendship can be only with one person exclusively, and if he or
she has a friendship with someone else, there is no room for "me," this
is jealousy. It is based on the feeling of a solid "me" who must be
special, and a solid "you" who is so special that we want only this
person's love. Even if there are many others who love us and whom we love, we
tend to ignore that fact and think, "That doesn't count."
Continually
opening our hearts to as many others as possible and acknowledging the love that
others - friends, relatives, pets, and so on - have for us now, have had in the
past, and will have in the future helps us to feel more emotionally secure. This,
in turn, helps us to overcome any fixation we may have on anyone being a special
object of love, not even ourselves.
Omniscience and all-loving both imply
having everyone in our minds and hearts. Nevertheless, when a Buddha is focused
on or with one person, he or she is 100% concentrated on that person. Therefore,
having love for everyone does not mean that love for each individual is diluted.
Therefore, we need not fear that if we open our hearts to many people, our personal
relations will be less intense or fulfilling. We may be less clinging and less
dependent on any one relation to be all-satisfying, and we may spend less time
with each individual, but each is a full involvement. The same is true in terms
of others' love for us when we are jealous that it will be diluted because they
also love someone else.
Also, it is an unrealistic expectation that any one
person will be our special perfect match, like our "other half," who
will complement us in all ways and with whom we can share every aspect of our
lives. Such an expectation is based on the ancient Greek myth told by Plato that
originally we were all wholes, who then were split in two. Somewhere "out
there" is our other half; and true love is when we find and reunite with
our other halves. Although this myth has become the foundation for Western romanticism,
it does not refer to reality. To believe in it, like believing in the beautiful
prince who will come to rescue us on a white horse, is an acquired, culturally
specific phenomenon.
The Deceptive Appearances Underlying Jealousy and Envy
As
we have seen, jealousy is the inability to bear someone else's achievement in
an area that we exaggerate the importance of, for instance his or her financial
success. Envious of it, we wish that we could achieve it instead. We also have
seen the variation of this, which occurs when someone receives something from
someone, such as love or affection. We wish that we could receive it instead.
This disturbing emotion derives from two deceptive appearances that, because
of confusion and just not knowing how things exist, our minds create and project.
The first is the dualistic appearance of (1) a seemingly concrete "me"
who inherently deserves to achieve or receive something, but did not, and (2)
a seemingly concrete "you" who inherently did not deserve to get it.
Unconsciously, we feel that the world owes us something and it is unfair when
others get it instead. We divide the world into two solid categories: "losers"
and "winners," and imagine that people truly exist and are findable
inside the boxes of these seemingly solid true categories. Then we put ourselves
in the solid permanent category of "loser" and we put the other person
in the solid permanent category of "winner." We might even put everyone
in the winners' box, except ourselves. Not only do we feel resentment, we feel
doomed. This leads to fixation on the painful thought, "poor me."
Naivety
about behavioral cause and effect usually accompanies jealousy and envy. For example,
we do not understand and even deny that the person who received a promotion or
affection did anything to earn or deserve it. Moreover, we feel that we should
get it without having to do anything to bring it about. Alternatively, we feel
that we did do a lot, but still did not get the reward. Our minds thus create
a second deceptive appearance and project it. Our confused minds make things appear
to happen for no reason at all, or for only one reason: what we alone did.
Deconstructing
Deceptive Appearances
We need to deconstruct these two deceptive appearances.
Our cultures might have taught us that the driving principle inherent in the world
of living beings is competition: the drive to win, survival of the fittest. But
that premise might not be true. Nevertheless, if we have accepted it, we then
believe that the world is inherently divided, by its very nature, into an absolute
dichotomy of winners and losers. Consequently, we perceive the world in the fixed
conceptual categories of winners and losers, and of course view ourselves with
the same conceptual framework.
Although these concepts of winners, losers,
and competition may be useful for describing evolution, we need to realize that
they are only arbitrary mental constructions. "Winner" and "loser"
are only mental labels. They are convenient mental categories used to describe
certain events, such as coming in first in a race, getting a promotion at work
instead of someone else getting it, or losing a client or student to someone else.
We could just as easily divide people into the categories of "nice persons"
and "not nice persons," depending on how we define "nice."
When we see that all such dualistic sets of categories are merely mentally
constructed, we start to realize that there is nothing inherent on the side of
"me" or "you" that locks us into solid categories. It is not
that we are basically losers, inherently, and, in thinking of ourselves as losers,
we have finally discovered the truth - the real "me" is a loser. Poor
"me." Rather, we have many other qualities besides losing a client to
someone else, so why dwell on that one as if that were the real "me."
Furthermore,
it is only because of our limited minds and preoccupation with thinking "poor
'me'" and "you bastard 'you,'" that it seems like success and failure,
gain and loss, happen for no reasons at all, or for irrelevant reasons. That is
why we think that what happened to us was unfair. What happens in the universe,
however, happens because of a huge network of cause and effect. So many things
affect what happens to us and to others, it is beyond our imaginations to include
every factor.
When we deconstruct these two deceptive appearances (winners
and losers, and things happening for no good reason) and stop projecting them,
we relax our feelings of injustice. Beneath our jealousy is merely awareness of
what has been accomplished, what has happened. We lost a client to someone else
and now someone else has this client. This makes us aware of a goal to achieve.
If we do not begrudge someone else for achieving or receiving it, we can perhaps
learn how the person accomplished the feat. This enables us to see how to accomplish
it ourselves. We only feel jealous because of overlaying this awareness with dualistic
appearances and concrete identities.
Conclusion
Thus, Buddhism offers a
variety of methods to deal with the disturbing emotions of jealousy and envy,
whether we define them in the Buddhist manner or in Western ways. When we are
troubled with a disturbing emotion in these general categories, the challenge
is to recognize correctly the defining characteristics and our cultural backgrounds.
When, through meditation practice, we have trained ourselves in a variety of methods,
we can choose an appropriate one to help us work through any emotional difficulties
we may be experiencing.
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Equalizing
and Exchanging Our Attitudes about Self and Others
Tsenzhab
Serkong Rinpoche
translated by Alexander Berzin
Dharamsala, India, June
4, 1983
There are two traditions
for how to develop bodhichitta, a heart fully dedicated to others and to attaining
enlightenment in order to benefit them as much as is possible - the seven-part
cause and effect tradition and the tradition of equalizing and exchanging our
attitudes toward self and others. Each has a separate or distinct way of developing
equanimity beforehand as a preliminary. Although each has the same name, equanimity,
the type of equanimity developed is different.
1. The equanimity that comes
before recognizing everyone as having been our mothers in the seven-part cause
and effect meditation involves visualizing a friend, an enemy, and a stranger
and is the equanimity with which we stop having feelings of attachment and repulsion.
One of its names, in fact, is "the mere equanimity with which we stop having
attachment and repulsion toward friends, enemies, and strangers." The word
mere here implies that a second method exists that entails something further.
Another name for this first type of equanimity is "the mere equanimity
that is the way of developing equanimity in common with the shravakas and the
pratyekabuddas." Shravakas (listeners) and pratyekabuddhas (self-evolvers)
are two types of practitioners of the Hinayana (Modest Vehicle) of the Buddha's
teachings. Here, mere implies that with this type of equanimity, we do not have
and are not involved with a dedicated heart of bodhichitta.
2. The equanimity
that we develop as a preliminary for equalizing and exchanging our attitudes toward
self and others is not merely the above type of equanimity. It is the equanimity
with which we have no feelings of close or far in the thoughts or actions involved
in our benefiting and helping all limited beings and eliminating their problems.
This is the especially distinguished, uncommon Mahayana (Vast Vehicle) way of
developing equanimity.
Mere Equanimity
If we ask what is the way of developing
the equanimity that comes before recognizing everyone as having been our mothers
in the seven-part cause and effect method, it involves the following steps.
Visualization
of Three Persons
First, we visualize three persons: a totally nasty and unpleasant
person whom we dislike or whom we consider our enemy, a very dearly cherished
loved one or friend, and a stranger or someone in between toward whom we have
neither of these feelings. We visualize all three of them together.
What kind
of attitude ordinarily arises when we subsequently focus on each in turn? A feeling
of unpleasantness, uneasiness, and repulsion arises with respect to the person
we dislike. A feeling of attraction and attachment arises toward the dearly cherished
friend. A feeling of indifference, wanting neither to help nor to harm, arises
toward the one who is neither, since we find the stranger neither attractive nor
repulsive.
Stopping Repulsion from Someone We Dislike
[For ease of discussion
in English, suppose all three people we visualize are women.] First, we work with
the person we dislike, the one whom we might even consider an enemy.
1. We
let the feeling of finding her unpleasant and repulsive arise. When it has arisen
clearly,
2. We notice that a further feeling arises, namely that it would be
nice if something bad happened to her, or if she experienced something she did
not want to happen.
3. We then examine the reasons for these bad feelings
and wishes to arise. Usually we discover that it is because she hurt us, did us
some harm, or did or said something nasty to us or to our friends. That is why
we want something bad to happen to her or for her not to get what she wants.
4.
Now, we think about that reason for wanting something bad to happen to this woman
we dislike so much and we check to see if it really is a good reason. We consider
as follows:
" In past lives, this so-called enemy has been my mother
and father many times, as well as my relative and friend. She has helped me very
much, uncountable times.
" In this life, it is not certain what will
happen. She can become of great help and a good friend later in this life. Such
things are very possible.
" In any case, she and I will have infinite
future lives and it is completely certain that she will at some time be my mother
or father. As such, she will help me a great deal, and I shall have to place all
my hopes on her. Therefore, in the past, present, and future, since she has, is,
and will help me in countless ways, she is ultimately a good friend. This is decided
for sure. Because of that if, for some small reason such as she hurt me a little
in this life, I consider her an enemy and wish her ill, that will not do at all.
1.
We think of some examples. For instance, suppose a bank official or some wealthy
person with the power to give me a lot of money and who had the desire and intention
to do so, and had done so a little bit in the past, were to lose his temper and
become angry one day and slap me in the face. If I were to become angry and hold
on to my rage, it might cause him to lose his intention to give me any more money.
There would even be the danger that he would change his mind and decide to give
the money to someone else. On the other hand, if I were to bear the slap, keep
my eyes down, and my mouth shut, he would become even more pleased with me later
that I did not become upset. Maybe, he might even want to give me more than he
originally intended. If, however, I were to become angry and make a big scene,
then it would be like the Tibetan saying, "You have food in your mouth and
your tongue kicks it out."
2. Therefore, I have to consider the long
run with this person I dislike, and the same is true with respect to all limited
beings. Their help to me in the long run is a hundred percent certain. Therefore,
it is totally inappropriate for me to hold on to my anger for some slight, trivial
harm that anyone might do.
3. Next, we consider how a scorpion, wild animal,
or ghost, at the slightest poke or provocation immediately strikes back. Then,
considering ourselves, we see how improper it is to act like such creatures. In
this way, we defuse our anger. We need to think that no matter what harm this
person does to me, I shall not lose my temper and become angry, otherwise I am
no better than a wild animal or a scorpion.
4. In conclusion, we put all of
this in the form of a syllogism of logic. I shall stop getting angry at others
for the reason that they have done me some harm, because
" in past lives,
they have been my parents;
" later in this life, there is no certainty
that they will not become my dearest friends;
" in the future, they will
at some time or other be reborn as my parents and help me a great deal, so in
the three times they have been helpful to me;
" and if I get angry in
return, then I am no better than a wild animal. Therefore, I shall stop getting
angry for the small harm they may do to me in this life.
Stopping Attachment
for Someone We Like
1. We focus on our friend or loved one in the group of
enemy, friend, and stranger that we initially visualized.
2. We let our feeling
of attraction and attachment arise toward her.
3. Letting ourselves feel even
stronger how much we want to be with this person, we then
4. Examine our reasons
for having such infatuation and attachment. It is because she gave me some small
help in this life, did something nice for me, made me feel good, or something
like that, and so I feel drawn to her and am attached.
5. Now, we examine
whether this is a proper reason for having such a feeling. It is also not a good
reason, because
" undoubtedly in past lives, she has been my enemy, hurt
me, and even eaten my flesh and drunk my blood.
" Later on in this life,
there is no certainty that she will not become my worst enemy.
" In future
lives, it is decided for sure that she will hurt me or will do something really
nasty to me at some time.
1. If, for the small reason of her doing something
nice, but trivial, for me in this life, I become infatuated and attached to her,
then I am no better than the men who are enticed by the songs of siren cannibal
women. These sirens take on a pretty appearance, lure men with their ways, and
then later gobble them up.
2. In this way, we decide never to become attached
to anyone for some small nice thing he or she does for us in this life.
Stopping
Indifference toward Someone Neutral
Thirdly, we follow the same procedure
with the person who is in between - the stranger who is neither a friend nor an
enemy.
1. We focus on such a person from our visualization,
2. Let ourselves
feel nothing, neither the wish to harm nor to help, neither to get rid of nor
to be with this person,
3. and feel further the intention to ignore her.
4.
We examine our reason for feeling this way. It is because she has not done anything
either to help or to hurt me, and so I have no relation with her.
5. When
we examine further whether this is a valid reason to feel this way, we see that
she is not ultimately a stranger, because in countless previous lives, later in
this life, and in future lives she will be close, she will be a friend, and so
on.
In this way, we will be able to stop all feelings of anger, attachment,
or indifference toward enemies, friends, and strangers. This is the way to develop
the mere equanimity that is in common with that of the shravakas and pratyekabuddhas
and which is developed as a preliminary to recognizing everyone as having been
our mothers in the seven-part cause and effect method for developing a dedicated
heart of bodhichitta.
Distinguished Mahayana Equanimity
The way to develop
equanimity in terms of equalizing and exchanging our attitudes with respect to
self and others is divided into two:
1. the way to actualize the equanimity
that depends on the relative point of view,
2. the way to actualize the equanimity
that depends on the deepest point of view.
The way that depends on the relative
point of view is divided into two:
1. the way to actualize the equanimity
that depends on our own points of view,
2. the way to actualize the equanimity
that depends on the points of view of others.
The Way to Actualize the Equanimity
that Depends on Our Own Points of View
This involves three points.
1.
Since all limited beings have been our parents, relatives, and friends in countless
lives, it is improper to feel that some are close and others far, that this one
is a friend and that one an enemy, to welcome some and to reject others. We need
to think that, after all, if I have not seen my mother in ten minutes, ten years,
or ten lives, she is still my mother.
2. It is possible, however, that just
as these beings have helped me, sometimes they have also harmed me. Compared to
the number of times they have helped me and the amount they have helped me, however,
the harm they have done is trivial. Therefore, it is improper to welcome one as
close and reject another as distant.
3. We shall definitely die, but the time
of our death is completely uncertain. Suppose, for example, we were sentenced
to be executed tomorrow. It would be absurd to use our last day to become angry
and hurt someone. By choosing something trivial, we would be missing our chance
to do anything positive and meaningful with our last day. For example, once there
was a high official who became furious with someone and thought to punish him
severely the next day. He spent all that day planning it out and then the next
morning, before he could do anything, he himself died suddenly. His anger was
completely absurd. The same is true if the other person were to be condemned to
die the next day. It would be pointless to hurt him today.
The Way to Actualize
the Equanimity that Depends on the Points of View of Others
This is also divided
into three points.
1. We need to consider, as for myself, I do not want to
suffer, even in my dreams, and no matter how much happiness I have, I never feel
it is enough. The same is true with absolutely everyone else. All limited beings,
from a tiny bug upwards, wish to be happy and never to suffer or to have any problems.
Therefore, it is improper to reject some and to welcome others.
2. Suppose
ten beggars came to my door. It is totally improper and unfair to give food to
just some and not to the rest. They all are equal in their hunger and need for
food. Likewise, as for happiness untainted with confusion - well, who has that?
But even happiness that is tainted by confusion - all limited beings lack a sufficient
supply. It is something that everyone has keen interest in finding. Therefore,
it is improper to reject some as far and welcome others as close.
3. As another
example, suppose there were ten sick people. They are all equal in being miserable
and pathetic. Therefore, it is unfair to favor some, to treat only them, and to
forget about the others. Likewise, all limited beings are equally miserable with
their specific individual troubles and with the general problems of uncontrollably
recurring existence or samsara. Because of that, it is unfair and improper to
reject some as far and welcome others as close.
The Way to Actualize the Equanimity
that Depends on the Deepest Point of View
This also involves three rounds
of thought.
1. We think about how, because of our confusion, we label someone
who helps us or is nice to us as a true friend and someone who hurts us as a true
enemy. However, if they were established as truly existing in the ways that we
label them to be, then the Tathagata (Accordingly Transformed) Buddha himself
would need to have seen them like that as well. But, he never did. As Dharmakirti
has said in A Commentary on (Dignaga's "Compendium of) Validly Cognizing
Minds" (Pramanavarittika), "The Buddha is the same toward someone applying
scented water to one side of his body and someone else slicing him with a sword
on the other."
We can also see this impartiality in the example of how
Buddha treated his cousin, Devadatta, who was always trying to harm him out of
jealousy. Therefore, we too need to avoid being partisan and taking sides with
people out of thinking with confusion that they exist truly in the categories
in which we label them. No one exists that way. We need to work on stopping our
grasping for true existence. This grasping comes from our confused minds making
things appear to us in ways that are not true.
2. Furthermore, if limited
beings were established as truly existing in the categories of friend and enemy,
just as we grasp at them to be, they would always have to remain like that. Consider,
for instance, a watch that we feel always has the correct time. Just as it is
possible for its condition some time to change and for it to run slow, so likewise
the status of others does not remain fixed, but can also change. If we think about
the teachings concerning the fact that there is no certainty in the uncontrollably
recurring situations of samsara, it helps here, as with the example of the son
eating his father, hitting his mother, and cradling his enemy. This example comes
in the instructions for developing an intermediate level motivation in the graded
stages of the path to enlightenment (lamrim).
Once, the arya (highly realized
being) Katyayana came to a house where the father had been reborn as a fish in
the pond and his son was eating him. The son then hit the dog, which had been
his mother, with the fish bones of his father and cradled the child in his arms
who had been his enemy. Katyayana laughed at the absurdity of such changes in
the status of beings wandering in samsara. Thus, we need to stop holding on to
or grasping at people to exist in the fixed and permanent categories of friend
or enemy, and then on that basis, welcoming the one and rejecting the other.
3.
In A Compendium of Trainings (Shikshasamuccaya), Shantideva has explained how
self and others depend on each another. Like the example of far and near mountains,
they depend on or are relative designations to one another. When we are on the
close mountain, the other seems to be the far one and this one the near. When
we go to the other side, this one becomes the far mountain and that one the near.
Likewise, we are not established as existing as "self" from our own
sides, because when we look at ourselves from the point of view of someone else,
we become the "other". Similarly, friend and enemy are just different
ways of looking at or regarding a person. Someone can be both one person's friend
and another's enemy. Like the near and far mountains, it is all relative to our
points of view.
The Five Decisions
From having thought like this about
the above five points, we need to make five decisions.
I Shall Stop Being Partisan
Whether we look from the relative or deepest point of view, there is no reason
for considering some people or beings as close and others as far. Therefore, we
need to make a firm decision: I shall stop being partisan. I shall rid myself
of feelings of partiality with which I reject some and welcome others. Because
hostility and attachment harm me both in this and future lives, both temporarily
and ultimately, in both the short and the long runs, they have no benefits. They
are the roots for hundreds of kinds of suffering. They are like guards that keeping
me circling in the prison of my uncontrollably recurring problems of samsara.
Think of the example of those who stayed behind in Tibet after the uprising
in 1959. Those who were attached to their monasteries, wealth, possessions, homes,
relatives, friends, and so on, could not bear to leave them behind. Consequently,
they were interred in prisons or concentration camps for twenty or more years,
because of their attachment. Such feelings of partiality are the slaughterers
who lead us into the fires of the joyless hell-realms. They are the festering
demons inside us that prevent us from sleeping at night. We must root them out
by all means.
On the other hand, an equal attitude toward everyone, with which
we wish all limited beings to be happy and to be parted from their problems and
sufferings, is important from any point of view, both temporarily and ultimately.
It is the main thoroughfare traveled by all Buddhas and bodhisattvas to reach
their attainments. It is the intention and innermost wish of all the Buddhas of
the three times. Therefore, we need to think that no matter what harm or help
any limited beings do to me from their sides, from my side I have no alternative.
I shall not get angry or be attached. I shall not consider some as distant and
others as close. There can be no way or method to handle situations other than
that. I am definitely decided. I shall have an equal attitude in terms of how
I think and act toward everybody, since everyone wants to be happy and never to
suffer. This is what I shall make as much effort as possible to do. O spiritual
mentor, please inspire me to do this as best as is possible. These are the thoughts
we need to have when we recite the first of the five stanzas in An Offering Ceremony
for the Spiritual Masters (Lama Chopa, Guru Puja) that are associated with this
practice:
Inspire us to increase others' comfort and joy,
By thinking that
others and we are no different:
No one wishes even the slightest suffering,
Nor
is ever content with the happiness he or she has.
Thus, with this first verse
we pray to develop an equal attitude of having no feelings of close or far in
our thoughts or actions with respect to bringing about the happiness and eliminating
the suffering equally of everyone. Such an attitude of equality fulfills the definition
of the type of equanimity or equalized attitude with which we concern ourselves
here. We make the firm decision to develop and achieve that attitude, in the same
way as when we see some wonderful article in a store and decide to buy it.
I
Shall Rid Myself of Self-Cherishing
Next, we think about the faults of having
a self-cherishing attitude. Because of the selfish concern of a self-cherishing
attitude, we act destructively, commit the ten negative actions, and consequently
bring ourselves hellish rebirths. From there, all the way up to an arhat's (liberated
being's) not attaining enlightenment - such selfish concern causes the loss of
all happiness and peace. Although bodhisattvas are close to enlightenment, some
are closer than are others. The differences among them come from the amount of
self-cherishing they still have. From disputes in countries to discord between
spiritual masters and disciples, within families, or among friends - all come
from self-cherishing. Therefore, we need to think that if I do not get rid of
this festering mess of selfishness and self-cherishing inside me, there is no
way that I shall ever enjoy any happiness. Thus, I shall never let myself come
under the sway of self-cherishing. O spiritual mentor, please inspire me to rid
myself of all selfish concern. These are the thoughts with the second verse:
Inspire
us to see that this chronic disease of self-cherishing
Is the cause giving
rise to our unsought suffering,
And thus, begrudging it as what is to blame,
To destroy the monstrous demon of selfishness.
Thus, with the second verse,
we make the firm decision to rid ourselves of our self-cherishing attitudes of
selfish concern.
I Shall Make Cherishing Others My Main Practice
Next,
we think about the benefits and good qualities that follow from cherishing others.
In this life, all happiness and everything going well; in future lives, birth
as humans or gods; and in general, all happiness up to the attainment of enlightenment
come from cherishing others. We need to think a great deal about this in terms
of many examples. For instance, a well-liked official's popularity is due to his
cherishing and being concerned with others. Our ethical self-discipline of restraining
from taking the life of another or from stealing derives from our cherishing of
others, and this is what can bring us rebirth as humans.
His Holiness the
Dalai Lama, for example, always thinks about the welfare of everyone everywhere,
and all his good qualities come from this cherishing of others. The bodhisattva
Togmey-zangpo could not be harmed by Kama, the god of desire, who set out to cause
him interference. This great Tibetan practitioner was the type of person who,
if an insect flew into a flame, would break into tears. He was sincerely concerned
about all others and so even ghosts and such interferers could not bring themselves
to harm him. This was because, as the spirits themselves said, he has thoughts
only of benefiting and cherishing us.
In one of Buddha's previous lives when
he was born as an Indra, a king of the gods, there was a war between the gods
and the anti-gods. The anti-gods were winning and so Indra fled in his chariot.
He came to a spot on the road where many pigeons had congregated, and feared that
he would run some of them over, he halted his chariot. Seeing this, the anti-gods
thought he had stopped his chariot to turn back and attack them, and so they fled.
If we analyze this, we see that their flight was due to Indra's attitude of cherishing
others. In such ways as these, we need to think about the advantages of cherishing
others from many points of view.
When a magistrate or any official sits very
elegantly in an office, his position and everything about it are due to the existence
of others. In this example, the kindness of others consists simply in the fact
that they exist. If no people existed other than himself, he could not be a magistrate.
He would have nothing to do. Moreover, even if people exist, if no one ever came
to him, this magistrate would just sit back and do nothing. On the other hand,
if many people came before him, looking to him to settle their affairs, then in
dependence upon them, he would sit up nicely and serve them. The same is true
for a lama. In dependence on others, he sits nicely and teaches. His entire position
is due to there being others for him to help. He teaches Dharma to benefit them
and thus his help comes from his depending on others, such as through his remembering
their kindness.
Likewise, it is through love and compassion, from cherishing
others, that we can quickly become enlightened. For instance, if an enemy hurts
us and we develop patience, and thereby we come closer to enlightenment, this
has come about due to our cherishing of the other. Thus, since limited beings
are the basis and root of all happiness and welfare, barring none, we need to
decide that regardless of what they might do or how they might harm me, I shall
always cherish others. Other beings are like my spiritual mentors, Buddhas, or
precious gems in that I shall cherish them, feel a loss if anything were to go
wrong with them, and never reject them, no matter what. I shall always have a
kind and warm heart toward them. Please, inspire me, O my spiritual mentor, never
to be parted for even a moment from such a heart and feeling for others. This
is the meaning of the third verse:
Inspire us to see that the mind that cherishes
our mothers
and would secure them in bliss
Is the gateway leading to infinite
virtues,
And thus to cherish these wandering beings more than our lives,
Even
should they loom up as our enemies.
In this way, we decide to take as our central
focus the practice of cherishing others.
I Definitely Am Capable of Exchanging
My Attitudes Regarding Self and Others
By relying on the gateway of thinking
about the many faults of cherishing ourselves and about the many qualities of
cherishing others, when we feel that we must change our values of whom we cherish,
and then we wonder whether we really can change them, we definitely can. We can
change our attitudes because before he became enlightened, the Buddha was just
like us. He too was similarly wandering from rebirth to rebirth in the uncontrollably
recurring situations and problems of samsara. Nevertheless, the Able Buddha exchanged
his attitudes about whom he cherished. By holding fast to cherishing others, he
reached the summit of being able to fulfill his own and others' aims.
In contrast,
we have cherished only ourselves and ignored all others. Putting aside accomplishing
anything of benefit to others, we have not accomplished even the slightest benefit
for ourselves. Cherishing ourselves and ignoring others have made us totally helpless,
unable to accomplish anything of real significance. We cannot develop a true renunciation
or determination to be free from our problems. We cannot even prevent ourselves
from falling to one of the worst states of rebirth. In these ways, we think about
the faults of cherishing ourselves and about the benefits of cherishing others.
If Buddha was able to change his attitude and he started out like us, we can change
our attitude as well.
Not only that, but with enough familiarity, it is even
possible to cherish the bodies of others the same as we would take care of our
own. After all, we took drops of sperm and egg from other people's bodies, namely
our parents, and now we cherish them as our own bodies. Originally, they were
not ours. Therefore, we need to think it is not impossible to change my attitude.
I can exchange the attitudes I have toward self and others. Therefore, however
I think about it, it will not do unless I exchange the attitudes I hold toward
self and others. It is something that I can do, not something I cannot do. Therefore,
inspire me, O my spiritual mentor, to do it. This is the thrust of the fourth
stanza.
In brief, inspire us to develop the minds that understand
the
distinctions between
The faults of infantile beings slaving for their selfish
ends alone
And the virtues of the Kings of Sages working solely for the sake
of others,
And thus, to be able to equalize and exchange our attitudes
concerning others and ourselves.
Thus, the decision we make here is that we
definitely can exchange our attitudes concerning the cherishing of self and others.
I
Shall Definitely Exchange My Attitudes Regarding Self and Others
Again, we
think about the faults of self-cherishing and the benefits of cherishing others,
but this time we do it in an alternating fashion, mixing the two together. In
other words, we go through the ten destructive and the ten constructive actions,
one by one in turn from each list alternatively, and see their results in terms
of self-cherishing and cherishing others. For instance, if I cherish myself I
will not hesitate to take the lives of others. As a result, I will be reborn in
a joyless hell realm and even when born later as a human, I will have a short
life full of sickness. On the other hand, if I cherish others, I will stop taking
the lives of others and, as a result, I will be reborn in a better state, have
a long life, and so on. Then, we repeat the same procedure with stealing and refraining
from stealing, indulging in inappropriate sexual behavior and refraining from
such action, and so on. In short, as the fifth stanza says:
Since cherishing
ourselves is the doorway to all torment,
While cherishing our mothers is the
foundation for everything good,
Inspire us to make our core practice
The
yoga of exchanging others for ourselves.
The fifth decision, then, is that
I definitely shall exchange my attitudes toward self and others. This does not
mean, of course, to decide that now I am you and you are me. Rather, it means
to exchange the points of view with respect to whom we cherish. Instead of cherishing
ourselves and ignoring others, now we shall ignore our selfish concerns and cherish
everyone else. If we fail to do this, there is no way we can attain anything.
But if we make this exchange in our attitudes, then on that basis we can go on
to train with the visualizations of giving away our happiness to others and taking
on their sufferings, as a way to develop sincere caring love and compassionate
sympathy. On that basis, we will be able to develop the exceptional resolve to
alleviate the problems and sufferings of everyone and bring them happiness, and
the dedicated heart of bodhichitta with which we strive for enlightenment in order
to be able to do so as much as is possible.
The source for these teachings
is Engaging in Bodhisattva Behavior (Bodhicharyavatara) by Shantideva, the teachings
of the Kadampa masters, and of course An Offering Ceremony to the Spiritual Masters
by the First Panchen Lama. They appear in this form with numbered sections in
The Collected Works of Kyabjey Trijang Dorjechang, the Late Junior Tutor of His
Holiness the Dalai Lama. However, to be too interested in the outline and the
numbers within it is like when we have a plate of seven momos (dumplings) in front
of us and instead of eating them, we want someone to attest to how many there
are, what the source was for their shape, and so on. Just sit down and eat!
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Existent
Phenomena
Static and Nonstatic
Phenomena
Alexander Berzin
Freiburg, Germany, March 15, 2002
According
to the Buddhist analysis, existent phenomena (yod-pa) comprise everything validly
knowable. If something exists, it is validly knowable and, in fact, the existence
of something can only be established in relation to its being validly knowable.
Otherwise, we cannot even discuss an item or consider whether it is existent or
not.
What exists and can be known, however, may be either the establishment
of something (an affirmation) (sgrub-pa), such as a table, or the absence of something
(a nullification) (dgag-pa), such as the absence of a table.
Anything that
cannot be validly known does not exist. "Prince" or "Princess Charming"
on a white horse, for example, does not exist. Something representing "Prince
Charming" or "Princess Charming" can be known, such as a fairy
tale story, a cartoon image, or merely the words "Prince" or "Princess"
and "Charming." However, an actual Prince or Princess Charming cannot
be validly known, since there is no such thing.
Although there are no such
things as nonexistent phenomena (Prince or Princess Charming), yet the nonexistence
of something (the nonexistence of a Prince or Princess Charming) is a validly
knowable nullification and is therefore an existent phenomenon. Thus, no matter
how much we may seek the perfect partner, we will never find a Prince or Princess
Charming. With deep understanding of reality, we may come to know there is no
such thing and accept our partners as they are.
Static Phenomena
Existent,
validly knowable phenomena include both static (rtag-pa) and nonstatic (mi-rtag-pa)
phenomena, usually translated as permanent and impermanent phenomena. The distinction
between the two, however, is drawn not in terms of how long a phenomenon exists.
Rather, it is drawn in terms of whether or not the phenomenon changes from moment
to moment while it exists, no matter for how long that might be.
Static phenomena
include facts about something. These facts are abstractions imputed about something
and they only exist and can be known so long as the basis for their imputation
last. When the basis for imputing a static fact ceases to exist, the static fact
about it no longer exists and is no longer the case. Moreover, so long as a static
fact exists and is the case, it does not change or do anything.
An example
is a voidness - an absence of something existing in an impossible way. An impossible
way for something to exist might be, for example, in a vacuum, all by itself,
totally independently of anything else, as if with solid lines around it as in
a coloring book. The absence of a table, for instance, existing with a solid line
around it exists only so long as the table exists. When the table no longer exists,
we can no longer cognize or speak about the absence of it existing with a solid
line around it. We can only speak of the absence of a solid line around the past
table, but not around the present table, because there is no present table. On
the other hand, the absence of anything knowable existing with a solid line around
it exists forever, because knowable phenomena exist with no beginning and no end.
A
more down-to-earth example is the absence of my partner existing as Prince or
Princess Charming. That is an impossible way of existing, because there is no
such manner of existence. This fact is true about my partner for as long as my
partner exists. It is never going to change. Therefore, there is no hope that
my partner will change some time in the future and become Prince or Princess Charming.
Moreover, it was never the case that he or she existed as Prince or Princess Charming
before meeting me, but now has changed into the Monster. Further, the absence
of all people existing as Prince or Princess Charming is a static fact that is
true and is the case forever. No one will ever exist as the Prince or Princess;
therefore, it is best to give up false hopes and expectations of ever meeting
someone who exists as that.
The static fact of the absolute absence of anyone
existing as Prince or Princess Charming is a neutral fact, neither good nor bad.
Therefore, there is no need to become upset about it. We need to accept it, whether
we like it or not. Moreover, the fact itself cannot do anything; it cannot produce
any effect. However, knowing and accepting the fact can do something: it can help
us avoid frustration and problems. Confusion about it can also do something: it
can cause us to create problems in our relationships. Therefore, it is important
to learn and try to remain mindful of the facts of reality.
Four Types of
Nonstatic Phenomena
Nonstatic phenomena are those things that
" arise
from or are supported by causes and conditions,
" change from moment
to moment,
" produce effects.
There are four types of nonstatic phenomena.
Those that
1. have a beginning and an end - such as our gross bodies, a relationship
with someone, or an episode of anger;
2. have no beginning and no end - such
as our mental continuums;
3. have no beginning, but have an end - such as the
presence of unawareness (ignorance, confusion) accompanying our mental continuums;
4. have a beginning, but no end - such as the death of a loved one, or the
functioning of our mental continuums as omniscient minds of Buddhas.
Gross
Impermanence
Nonstatic phenomena that have a beginning and an end undergo
both gross and subtle impermanence.
Gross impermanence is the final destruction
of something. For example, a relationship with someone will have an end. Such
things last only so long as the causes and conditions that support and give rise
to them are gathered together and continue. Once the supporting causes and conditions
are gone, these things come to an end.
If we fail to accept this fact, we
delude ourselves and suffer greatly. We cling to a relationship or to our youthful
vigor, for example, as if they could last forever, and our attachment and confusion
cause enormous pain when these things inevitably end. If we accept the fact of
gross impermanence, we are able to enjoy a relationship or our youthful vigor
for as long as they last.
It is like the example of a beautiful wild bird
that comes to our window. The bird will of course fly away, and if we grasp at
it and try to catch it, it will either fly away sooner or die in captivity. If
we accept that it will inevitably leave, we enjoy the moment. We may be sad when
the bird flies away, but the sadness does not overwhelm us. It too will pass.
Subtle Impermanence
Subtle impermanence is not merely the moment to moment
changing of a nonstatic phenomenon that has a beginning and an end. It is not
merely the fact that the phenomenon is drawing closer each moment to its ultimate
end, like a time bomb. It is also the fact that the cause for the phenomenon's
final disintegration or end is its coming into being, its arising.
For example,
the fact that we enter a relationship with someone and start living together is
the cause for it eventually to end. An argument or death is only the circumstance
for it to end, but not the deepest cause. This does not mean that the relationship
cannot grow and develop into something beautiful. It does not mean that is doomed,
and so we cannot enjoy it while it lasts. Rather, it means that we do not blame
the other person or ourselves for making the relationship end. Of course, it will
end, simply because it began.
Moreover, each moment of living together is
one moment closer to the arrangement ending. This aspect of subtle impermanence
is not so obvious. Thus, although we might understand and accept gross impermanence
- that some day we shall part our ways - still we might think that while we are
living together, our situation is remaining stable and static. Under such a delusion,
we are caught by surprise when gross impermanence strikes and our living together
comes to an end. With awareness of subtle impermanence, we appreciate more the
fragility of the situation and cherish it more deeply.
The Problem of Change
The so-called "worldly happiness" - the usual happiness with which
we are all familiar - is problematic. Every small period of it ends; we never
know when that will happen; the experience of it doesn't rid us of all our suffering
and problems; and we have no way to know how we will feel next. Thus, in a relationship
with someone, we need to be realistic about the happiness that we experience and
not inflate it into something impossible. The nature of samsara, and thus the
nature of any relationship, is that it goes up and down.
Nonstatic Phenomena
with No Beginning and No End
Our individual mental continuums, which are the
continuities of our individual subjective experiencing of things, have no beginning
and no end. They are eternal; they last forever. It is illogical for them to have
an absolute beginning at which they arise
1. from no cause,
2. from causes
that are of a different category of phenomena, such as physical matter,
3.
from another being's subjective mental activity, or
4. from the power of a
creator.
Similarly, it is illogical for them to have an absolute end, without
generating, by the laws of behavioral cause and effect, a next moment of continuity.
Consider the case of the continuity of our living together with someone. Living
together with someone has a beginning, because the causes and conditions for its
arising - each party being a certain age, being in the same location, having certain
emotional needs, and so on - come together at a specific moment. The circumstances
and conditions for our living together to begin were not gathered together before.
Because the conditions for it arising come together newly at some moment and are
not naturally together, the conditions will fall apart at some later moment. At
that moment, the continuity of our living together will end.
The situation
is quite different with the continuity of our individual subjective experiencing
of things. Although our experiencing of something specific, such as of a specific
event, arises newly when that event occurs, our experiencing things in general
is not created newly at any specific moment. It is the characteristic feature
of our mental continuums and is always together with our continuums, regardless
of the causes and conditions affecting the contents of what we experience at any
given moment. Thus, a continuity of experiencing is not coming closer each moment
to its ultimate end.
In summary, the fundamental nature of experiencing things
does not change; nevertheless, experiencing itself changes from moment to moment.
This is because experiencing must have contents and, because the contents change
each moment and because experiencing arises dependently on contents as its condition,
the experiencing also changes from moment to moment. Nevertheless, the continuity
of individual subjective experiencing of things does not undergo gross impermanence.
It will not come to a final end. Although it changes from moment to moment, it
also does not undergo subtle impermanence - either in the sense of it approaching
closer, every moment, to its final demise or in the sense of its arising being
the cause of its ending.
Even if we do not think in terms of past and future
lives, still, if we realize that the continuity of our individual, subjective
experiencing of things goes on in this life, we do not suffer so greatly when
something within our lives comes to an end, such as living with someone. We understand
that life goes on, experience continues, without a break, and so new relationships
can arise in the future.
Nonstatic Phenomena with No Beginning, but with an
End
The unawareness (of how everything actually exists) that accompanies a
continuum of individual, subjective experiencing of things has no beginning, as
is the case with the continuum itself. However, unlike that continuum, it can
have an end. Thus, it can undergo gross impermanence. The unawareness, however,
does not undergo subtle impermanence. Because it has no absolute beginning, it
is not slowly falling apart and approaching closer, each moment, to its ultimate
end.
Unawareness and awareness are mutually exclusive. In the same moment,
we cannot both know and not know how everything exists, nor can we know how everything
exists both correctly and incorrectly. Moreover, correct understanding can be
validated. It withstands the force of analysis, whereas unawareness or confusion
falls apart the closer we scrutinize it. Therefore, unawareness can come to an
end because it can be replaced by awareness.
Moreover, once the continuity
of correct understanding can be maintained without a break, unawareness ends forever.
As the great Indian Buddhist master Shantideva explained, unawareness is not like
an external enemy. Once it is definitively banished from the mental continuum,
it cannot go anywhere. When we turn on the light in a room, the darkness doesn't
go somewhere and hide.
In terms of a relationship, then, the unawareness that
no one exists as a Prince or Princess Charming, which accompanies our interaction
with a partner either consciously or unconsciously, will not weaken and go away
by itself. With correct understanding, however, that there is no such thing as
a partner who exists in this impossible manner, the unawareness can come to an
end.
Nonstatic Phenomena with a Beginning, but No End
The continuity of
an individual's correct understanding of everything (the functioning of an individual
mental continuum as the omniscient awareness of a Buddha) has a beginning, but
no end. It begins with the attainment of enlightenment, and continues forever.
The first moment of the continuity, however, is not created anew from the gathering
of causes and conditions that were not previously together. The situation resembles
that of a mirror covered with dirt.
A mirror covered with dirt does not function
to reflect objects. The removal of the dirt marks the beginning of the mirror
reflecting, but it does not create the mirror functioning to reflect. The functioning
of the mirror is a natural characteristic of the mirror. It was simply blocked
by the dirt.
Similarly, unawareness blocks the functioning of our mental continuums
as omniscient awarenesses reflecting everything. The removal of the unawareness
signals the start of our continuums functioning omnisciently, but does not create
that functioning. Reflecting everything, as a mirror does, is a natural feature
of our mental continuums.
Therefore, although an omniscient awareness changes
from moment to moment as its focus and contents change, it undergoes neither gross
nor subtle impermanence. This is because, although its functioning omnisciently
has a beginning, its functioning is not created by causes and conditions coming
together anew. Knowing this helps us to gain the self-esteem and self-confidence
that allows us to work on removing our confusion in a healthy manner.
In terms
of a relationship, our mental continuums, like mirrors or cameras, have always
taken in the factual information of the other person - how he or she has looked,
acted, and spoken. The removal of our confusion and projections does not create
that camera-like ability. It was already there and will continue forever.
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Holistic
healing
By Ding Ying, Selected
From Beijing Review, Dec 21, 2004
It was a cold November afternoon in Beijing.
A senior lama was surrounded by scores of people in a small hall. They expressed
their great respect by presenting him with white hada, long silk scarves used
as a greeting gift among Tibetan and Mongolian ethnic groups. This was not a Buddhist
ceremony, but a Tibetan medicine lecture by Venerable Lama Zhaxi Rinpoche, hosted
by the Buddhist Association of Beijing.
Zhaxi Lungdor Dainqu Gyamco Rinpoche
(photo, left), was born in 1936, the Year of Fire Mouse of Tibetan calendar, in
a village near Tar Monastery in Qinghai. The monastery, one of the famous Tibetan
monasteries in the country, is located in Huangzhong County, Qinghai Province's
capital Xining, and was built in 1577 in memory of Master Zongkapa, founder of
the Gelug Sect of Tibetan Buddhism.
When he was three years old, Zhaxi Rinpoche
was recognized as the reincarnation of the previous Zhaxi Lama, who passed away
in 1934. In 1943, the seven-year-old Zhaxi Rinpoche formally entered the monastery.
Rinpoche is the title given to venerable lamas who are recognized from a previous
incarnation.
After 15 years studying Tibetan language and sutras, Zhaxi Rinpoche,
began his medical study. "I wanted to do something down-to-earth for my people,"
he recalls.
"Being a Buddhist, I may not have to understand ordinary people"s
joy and happiness, but firstly I must know their pain and sorrow. I feel I have
the responsibility to heal their pain, not only by spiritual healing, but also
in the way of medical treatment," he explained.
By studying traditional
Tibetan medical classics, such as the Four-Volume Medical Tantras, and after decades
of medical practice, Zhaxi Rinpoche became a well-known Tibetan doctor. Between
1965 and 1980, he was often found collecting herbs in the hills around the monastery,
which he would later use to make medicine for people suffering from various diseases
in the area. In 1980, he built the Kumbum Tibetan Medicine Hospital of Tar Monastery,
and during his tenure as the hospital"s president, it became known as one
of the leading Tibetan medicine research centers in China.
Tibetan medicine
is a holistic healing system in which the human body is considered based on the
five elements of space, air, fire, water and earth. These are manifested in the
human body by the three factors or the "three humors," wind, bile and
phlegm, which govern the functions of the body. In Tibetan these are known as
lung, chipa and paigen. Each of these three is considered to be a sort of energy
or force, which circulates through the centers of the body. "To cure the
disease, we doctors need to rebalance these three factors," explained Zhaxi
Rinpoche.
One of the outstanding characteristics of Tibetan medicine is its
connection with Buddhist tenets. Zhaxi Rinpoche said, "Lung is like a wind,
concentrating at the lower portion of the body, while chipa affects middle, and
paigen the upper part of the body. As people get older, lung in the body increases.
When people pass away in old age, we say that the wind inside them has blown away."
He believes the secret of a longer and healthier life is to live by the principle
of moderation. "For example," he explained, "if one drinks or eats
too much, he will suffer from liver disease, stomachache and even heart disease.
On the contrary, if he eats or drinks too little, he might be in danger of malnutrition.
Anyway, people cannot do anything without proper self control, and being excessive
is against nature."
Making Diagnosis: Traditional Tibetan healing involves
mind, body and spirit
Zhaxi Rinpoche leads a very simple life. Every morning,
he gets up at 5:30. After a short sutra chant and meditation, he eats a simple
breakfast of zanba, a bowl of fried barley flour, and a bowl of water. This is
followed by sutra chants. "I usually recite one sutra 1,000 or 2,000 times
every day, a habit I have had for many years," he noted.
The other important
part of his daily routine is teaching disciples. Being an eminent and learned
Rinpoche, both on Buddhist sutras and medical research, he always has a lot of
followers, both from within China and foreign countries. Presently he teaches
two or three disciples every year. His senior student Sanggyi, a 16-year-old from
one of Mongolia"s ethnic groups, has been studying with him for five years,
beginning his study of Tibetan medicine two years ago. Talking about Sanggyi brings
great joy to Zhaxi Rinpoche and he sounds more like a grandfather than a venerated
lama. "Sanggyi is a very clever and docile. He is working very hard on medicine
study and when I treat patients, he is always watching. I hope he will be a good
doctor."
As a famous research unit on Tibetan medicine, Tar Monastery
has opened Tibetan medical clinics throughout the country, including Beijing.
Every year, senior lama doctors from the monastery"s Kumbum Tibetan Hospital
pay regular visits in these clinics, as part of their medical practice. During
his duty in the clinic in Beijing, Zhaxi Rinpoche diagnoses and give treatments
to about 200 patients, most of them are from out of town and have been attracted
by his reputation. For a 68-year-old, it is a very long and exhausting workday.
But he never refuses any patient who comes and asks for his help. "I am just
an ordinary doctor, and my responsibility is to reduce their pain," he said.
Because of geographic and climatic reasons, Tibetan medicine is particularly
effective in treating chronic diseases, such as heart and cardiovascular diseases,
hepatitis and apoplexy. Since 1988, Zhaxi Rinpoche"s hospital has carried
out thorough research on traditional Tibetan prescriptions, and successfully produced
them commercially. Feedback has shown the medicine is working effectively on both
Chinese and foreign patients.
"Today, our Tibetan medicine is made up
from many resources, some from India and Nepal, some from Han Chinese medicine
and the rest gathered from our Qinghai-Tibetan Plateau," he said.
Traditional
Tibetan medicines are divided into four categories: Liquid medicine, medicine
powder, pills and plasters. "In recent years, most Tibetan medicines are
made into pills, because the patients want a better taste and convenience. But
such a reform reduced the efficiency of medicines, because pills cannot be the
best medicine for all diseases. So, I suggested that we should resume some of
our traditional treatments, for example, using phlebotomy on treating apoplexy,"
he added.
Another worry for him is that mass production might damage the environment
of the plateau. "It usually takes nature decades of years to cultivate some
medical plants, which grow only on the plateau. But industrial production causes
an excessive consumption of these material, including plants, animals and minerals,"
he stressed. "The best way to protect the environment is to find substitutions
in a precondition of assuring the medicine"s qualities."
On medical
research, Zhaxi Rinpoche has an open mind. As he speaks fluent Tibetan, Mongolian
and Chinese, he keeps up to date with other medical developments, like works on
Han Chinese medicines and Western medical theory. "Other medical systems
also have their advantages and specialties. As long as it can cure disease and
reduce people"s pains, it is good," he concluded.
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Homepage
features Jun 02, 2003
Antibacterial qualities of tea
Not only did researchers
at Sheffield University recently identify the benefits of green tea for the prevention
of osteoarthritis, now researchers at the University of Illinois at Chicago have
identified that as well as inhibiting the growth of pathogens in the mouth, black
tea and its polyphenols may benefit human oral health by suppressing the bad-smelling
compounds that these pathogens produce.
And, according to research by US microbiologist,
Milton Schiffenbauer, of the independent Pace University, green tea is better
at fighting viruses. "Our research shows tea extracts can destroy the organism
that causes disease,' he told a conference in Washington DC. "If we can stimulate
the immune system and at the same time we are destroying the organisms, then it
makes sense to drink more tea."
Probiotic supplements in pregnancy
Researchers
have found that women taking probiotic supplements during pregnancy can protect
their children from eczema for up to four years. The study found that women and
babies taking the supplements reduced the risk of eczema by 40 percent in at-risk
four-year-olds. There was also the suggestion of a reduction in asthma rates.
The study, carried out in Finland and published in The Lancet in the UK, studied
132 children who had taken part in an earlier probiotics investigation. Their
mothers were given capsules of a probiotic or a placebo for four weeks before
giving birth. After birth, capsules were given to the breast-feeding mother or
the child for six months. Of 53 children exposed to lactobacillus 14 had developed
eczema after four years, compared with 25 of 54 who did not get the supplement.
Concentrations of exhaled nitric oxide, a marker for the lung inflammation associated
with asthma, were significantly higher in children not exposed to the lactobacillus.
Back pain - all in the mind?
Researchers at the Metropolitan University
in Manchester, UK have been studying the treatment of patients with chronic lower
back pain, at the North Manchester General Hospital. Here they found that patients
benefited from a combination of exercise and psychological support. The researchers
suggest psychological support could reduce the number of people being put onto
waiting lists for scans and conventional therapy.
Researchers evaluated the
hospital's programme which has been running since 1999, and which has treated
more than 250 people. The hospital's eight-week scheme encourages people to exercise,
and also addresses their concerns about their back pain.
Patients are exposed
to actions they may have a fear of, to break their pattern of avoidance and inactivity
which can lead to further back problems. They found that psychological factors
such as depression, fear and low confidence were more important in prolonging
patients' conditions than their physical incapacity.
One woman in her 40s
had been off work for two years and had a fear of carrying office files, so doctors
taught her the fear was irrational and showed her how to lift objects without
anxiety about her back. She has now been able to go back to work.
Happy
Buddhists
US scientists have proved that Buddhists really do hold the key to
happiness. Research at the University of Wisconsin-Madison has shown that in experienced
Buddhists, the brain's 'happiness centre' is constantly alive with electrical
signals. The positive effects are seen all the time, not only during meditation,
which suggests that the Buddhist way of life may affect the way their brains work.
These findings may eventually allow researchers to develop meditation techniques
as treatments for depressive illnesses.
The University of Wisconsin-Madison
study team scanned the brains of people who had been practising Buddhists for
several years, looking particularly at areas important for emotion, mood and temperament.
They found that the left side - the happiness centre - was consistently and highly
active in Buddhists.
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How
I became a Buddhist
- Jigme
Kunzang
When I was growing up, I
spent a good deal of my time reading about the occult, witchcraft and magic. I
always harbored the dream that someday I would be initiated into a coven of Witches.
I actually was initiated about ten years ago here in California. For about ten
years, I was relatively content with the Craft as my primary spiritual identification.
About two or so years ago, this began to change.
Just about four years ago,
I became seriously involved with a man who was to become my life partner and spouse.
He was, as was I, an initiate of the Craft, but was also a Vajrayana Buddhist,
and had studied under both Nyingma and Kagyu masters. I stayed clear of Buddhism,
having always thought that it was a negative path that sought to renounce the
world and to retreat from worldly pleasures. What I had learned of the meditative
techniques of Vajrayana (Tibetan) Buddhism captivated my imagination, but I didn't
think this was sufficient reason to embrace that path.
I understood that one
of the entryways into the Buddhist path was the taking of refuge declaiming that
one renounced worldly happiness and took refuge from the world in the figure of
the Buddha, His teachings and specifically the Buddhist congregation. I had felt
that as long as this rite was so firmly delimited to a Buddhist scope, I couldn't
enter into it with good conscience, since I didn't feel a resignation about worldly
concerns (in fact, I was rather optimistic generally) nor did I feel that The
Buddha's teachings were alone sufficient for my own spiritual explorations (being
interested in magick, etc.).
Meanwhile, my life in the Craft was becoming less
satisfying for me. I cannot attribute it to my relationship, since my partner
was also in the Craft and we had ample chance to practice our spirituality both
together and separately. I guess it was more due to changes within myself than
to anything external, even if the constant ego battles, infighting and bickering
that goes on in Craft traditional communities was beginning to wear on me. My
partner, Michael, was a quiet Buddhist, and wasn't really all that interested
in proselytizing, a trait I tend to admire in people of any faith.
Finally,
my partner brought up in a conversation an upcoming empowerment (wang) to be held
by the lineage holder of the Shangpa Kagyupas, Bokar Rinpoche, together with the
Yangsi Kalu Rinpoche (the young reincarnation of the previous Khyab Je Kalu Rinpoche).
He asked if I wanted to attend with him. This necessitated that I think through
my misgivings about Taking Refuge, a rite that up till that point I had been unwilling
to consider, and which would be a prerequisite for receiving empowerment from
a Lama.
Buddha, I was beginning to understand, was that potential for enlightened
intent and behavior inherent in all of us, that guiding principle that allows
us to learn and accumulate wisdom. Dharma was in fact all teachings that helped
one to attain some level of spiritual realization. And my Sangha was all of the
human community in its striving for peace and harmony. Finally, looking at the
broader interpretations of Buddha, Dharma and Sangha in this way, I was able to
genuinely take refuge, and participated in the wangkur, on this particular evening
to a practice of Vajrakilaya according to the teachings of Sangthik Nyingpo. I
was unaware of the changes this event was to bring about in my life.
I began
to actively seek out chances to practice, to attend teachings and empowerments,
and to meet other practitioners. Some of my former friends have found my increased
interest in Buddhist practice less interesting, and no longer remain as close.
On the other hand, I have chosen to reduce contact with other acquaintances with
whom my friendships were already tenuous. Others of my Craft friends have expressed
an openess and curiousity about Buddhism that has been really heartwarming. My
body has undergone changes, and I've now stopped drinking alcohol, a task I had
been attempting unsuccessfully for the previous ten years. I enjoy practice, and
find that it is affecting my entire life -- life is becoming a meditation.
One
lesson that frequently comes up in teachings is the idea of faith in the lama
and faith in the path. I guess I'm not a very good Buddhist, since so little of
my practice is based on faith at all. Rather, I find myself experimenting a lot,
while I try to suspend any disbelief or judgement. This gives me the chance to
learn about a technique or teaching first, and acquire faith in it only after
trying and proving it. Thus far, this has been a most rewarding way of working
in the Vajrayana and I believe that it has resulted in much swifter changes in
my life than I might have otherwise experienced.
I crave self-control. I often
consider myself a weak personality, lazy and essentially powerless to change those
things about myself that I detest. The mind training of Buddhism lets me know
that my feelings are empty of any inherent existence, and that the real issue
is how I *think* about myself. If I believe myself incapable of change, I am incapable
of change. If I change my mind, purify it of its negative karma and introduce
the idea of capability, then I am on the road to healing myself of my own self-imposed
paralysis.
All phenomena arise from a cause, That cause the tatagata has taught.
That which stops the cause the tatagata has explained. Do no nonvirtue, Practice
virtue thoroughly. Completely tame your own mind. This is the Buddhas teaching.
PHAT!
Nowadays, I remain active in a practice of sorcery, of mind-changing,
of Vajrayana meditation. I am a much more discerning practitioner, I feel, for
having come into contact with the Mahayana, and my subtle body is being trained
in a new way of being. In a way, I have found a more authentic "Witchcraft"
in my practice of Vajrayana than I ever did before, and I see the two as intricately
intertwined, and both informing each other. I feel more whole in my spirituality
than I can remember being before, and encourage questioning perhaps more than
I did previously. Now as I enter my third year practicing the Vajrayana path,
I still may not have any ultimate answers, but I'm much more comfortable asking
the questions.
Blessings, Jigme Kunzang (Tom Johnson)
Clarification
on what "witchcraft" is:
Witchcraft is a magico-spiritual tradition
that survives in many parts of the world, but the type I practice is primarily
from northwestern Europe (Britain, Scandinavia, Northwest continent). It is rather
like shamanism, so I tend to call it shamanistic, rather than shamanic, which
*is* shamanism. Most Witches I know tend to look to pre-Christian imagery for
their liturgies, and some also call themselves "pagan," "heathen,"
or "wiccan." It has always interested me that so much of a pre-Christian
spiritual aesthetic has survived throughout Europe, in spite of the all-pervasiveness
of the Church. The Witchcraft Traditions seeks to recreate a religio-magico-mystical
spiritual practice based on those survivals.
The aim of Witches vary with the
Witch, and with the tradition to which they belong. The tradition I follow places
a very heavy emphasis on the kind of purification of socially normalized obscurations
that Vajrayana also seeks to purify one of. And in that a practice of Vajrayana
has been more effective in performing that purification than Witchcraft ever was,
I can say that I've found more and better of what I was looking for when I began
Dharma practice. For example, in Vajrayana, we have a practice of purification
in the meditation on Vajrasattva in which karmic seeds are purified, ripened as
it were, and one can use these extraordinary means to purify karma from past lifetimes
in this single lifetime. It's difficult sometimes, but helpful in the long run.
I have found the same to be true in some of the practices of Witchcraft as well.
Just to clarify some often encountered misconceptions, Witchcraft is *NOT*
satanism or evil magic. There are some satanists who call what they do Witchcraft,
and there are Witches who *do* perform evil magic, but the *system itself* is
not defined that way -- rather, it is a system that is neither good nor bad, and
depends entirely upon the practitioner as to its ethical content. I have always
tried to temper *my* Craft with Compassion.
Witchcraft uses a type of utterance
called a charm or spell, and this is not unlike the mantra of Vajrayana, which
is, as Ngagpa Chogyam has said, an "Awareness Spell." Strange phenomena
have been attributed to the utterance of charms as well as to mantra recitation.
Words are powerful, and the more so when supported by empowerment and lineal transmission.
Witchcraft
includes ritual performance, and uses mudra in its ritual, much like the tantric
sadhakas, ngakpas, or yogis. It sees the mind in a similar fashion, and has a
dual understanding of method/wisdom, just as Vajrayana does. It has an idea of
three souls or spirit parts -- Unihipili, Uhane and Aumakua -- just as Vajrayana
has the Nirmanakaya, Sambhogakaya and Dharmakaya. It posits a subtle structure
of the body as well as a more dense physical manifestation.
The only difference
is I think in intent -- Witchcraft does not seek to escape Samsara, the endless
cycle of repeating obscurations, whereas this is paramount in the Dharma. In this,
the Dharma is more powerful than any other path to me. It helps me live a life
devoted to the wellbeing of all those around me, and simultaneously works to free
me of my veils and obscurations, making me happier in the long run.
So you
see, in spite of the similarities, I still see Dharma as a superior path -- it
contains all of the truths of Witchcraft, while its intent and its aim are both
vastly superior and informed with compassion and wisdom. I do not doubt that there
are those who are solely Witches who are also engaged in the process of meditation,
and seeking wisdom and enlightenment, but they are few and far between. In the
Dharma, that is one of the foundations.
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How
to be with a Dying Person
by Renuka
Potter
Although we seldom seek to be with someone who is dying, helping
somebody to die well is one of the most generous and courageous acts of love that
we can perform. Let me tell you some of the ways I have found to be with people
who are dying.
My first experience of death was with my father, who died of
a massive heart attack in 1991. For almost a week the hospital staff had sought
to resuscitate Dad. I had been there for about 36 hours of this when Mum and I,
growing concerned that the resuscitation process was simply increasing his trauma,
approached one of the doctors. We discovered that he had been about to approach
us to explain that Dad's heart seemed irrevocably damaged by his ordeal and that
perhaps it was now time to let him die in peace. We accepted this option gratefully,
and the doctor found my Dad a bed in another ward. While nurses came every two
hours to turn Dad and give him more morphine, we took over his care, gathering
by the side of his bed, talking and even singing.
After about 30 hours of this,
my cousin and I were alone with Dad and his breathing was showing obvious signs
that he was close to death. I was sitting on the edge of the bed holding his hand
and encouraging him to relax and let go. I told him what I felt was likely to
be ahead in terms of lights and guides and that there was nothing to fear. Time
and again I thought the breath just taken would be his last, but he always started
breathing again. I had an image of my Dad as a little boy trying his hardest to
do the right thing so as not to attract attention and so I said to him: "you
can make as much noise as you like."
His next breath was really big and
noisy and I watched as his airways filled with phlegm. I was looking directly
into his eyes while sitting on the bed. I felt a flicker of fear from him, but
knew that as long as I could keep fear at bay, so could he. So, I drew upon my
inner courage and kept my gaze steady and my feeling positive. I saw the light
in his eyes slowly become smaller and smaller until it was a tiny dot. Then it
disappeared altogether and my Dad was gone - painlessly, without effort and very
intimate.
During those last few minutes with my Dad, I felt awe that I was
able to be involved so closely in someone's dying moments, even to share these
moments in some way. I felt energised by the process, but it also felt like it
was an experience I could tell only a few people about - after all, hadn't my
suggestion that Dad make more noise lead to his dying then and there? I started
feeling guilty and doubted that what I had done was OK, feeling selfish. Some
of my friends had done absolutely everything humanly possible to keep their parents
alive, and yet I had encouraged my father to let go of life. I had something to
think about.
Already a psychologist with 25 years of daily meditation practice,
I started to read the little there was available on the subject of dying. I remember
what a welcome relief it was to read Sogyal Rinpoche's Tibetan Book of Living
and Dying, and I began to think that this was an area in which I'd like to specialise.
I read the transpersonal psychology literature - such authors as Stanislav Grof,
Ken Wilbur, Marie-Louise Von Franz, Rudolph Steiner - more deeply. To gain hands-on
experience, I trained as a volunteer hospice worker and came to know more people
who were dying.
Over the years, I have become close to many people in their
dying days. It has felt like a wonderful privilege to come into their lives at
a time when their perspective on life is changing. Ordinarily we know we are going
to die some day, but we always live as though this day will be a very long time
in the future. When doctors tell their patients that they will be dying within
the next six months or sooner (this is the criterion for inclusion in the program
at the hospice I work through), it changes their relationship to their mortality.
Often this is very scary. No one likes to think of death waiting for them round
the corner, and most people are reluctant to talk about death and our relationship
to this journey out of this reality we share.
Talking to people about this
taboo subject can be a time of wonderful intimacy. It tends to open up topics
of conversation such as values and beliefs, regrets and forgiveness. It often
awakens in people a desire to tell the story of their life. All these conversations
can be very healing for someone facing death, and often it's easier to talk in
these ways to people like me, who are not part of their network of family or friends.
People close to the person are often too personally affected by the likely impact
of their friend or relative's death to be able to provide the sort of reflective
surface a person can benefit most from at this crucial time. Sometimes it's necessary
for the dying person to work through feelings that are not very positive before
they can see how much someone close to them actually means to them, and it's helpful
to work through the ambivalence before talking to that person face to face.
One
of the women I came to know was convinced that she was still in love with someone
with whom she had an affair years earlier, rather than her husband who was now
taking such good care of her. Often a person's deep feelings of unworthiness can
make them feel guilty for receiving loving care from someone when they feel they
don't deserve it. This woman showed me photos of her earlier lover and told me
stories of this time in her life that had been so difficult for all involved.
Through talking it over with me, she was able to come to a position from which
she could understand and forgive herself. This forgiveness allowed her to open
up, accept her husband's loving care, and feel fortunate to be with a man who
loved her so. They shared precious final days together in a state of deep appreciation,
and they both told me separately how lucky they were to have this time together.
It
is usual for a person at the end of their life to be anxious about the dying process.
Their anxieties may take the form of fear of death itself, guilt that they have
not done enough to prevent their death at this time, shame that people will know
about their failure to recover, as well as denial, anger and bargaining (as outlined
by Kubler-Ross). These feelings can cause a lot of pain, even though the person
may realise they are irrational, especially when someone has been putting a lot
of effort on their behalf to stem the course of their disease. Often they can
talk about these things, especially if they are not part of a spiritual or religious
community to very few people. I worked with one young couple with young children
who had been to see every healer they could find in an effort to combat her cancer.
It was unsuccessful, however, and their lack of success confused them. They saw
it as not having done enough and as divine punishment, a phrase that I see as
a contradiction in terms, for the divine is only supportive in my view.
If
a person wishes to talk about their fear of death, then I usually tell them about
features of the near-death experience, which appear to be so widespread and are
very reassuring. I make no claims about correctness, but just mention the features
that seem appropriate. Things like having an opportunity to see back over their
life (a life review), feeling themselves going down a tunnel and maybe being drawn
towards a light. I usually say that a relative who has died before them may meet
them and/or they may be met by someone who represents spiritual attainment to
them, and that these beings are there to help them. I also tell them that they
may find that they are surrounded by love and light.
When I first visit a person
who is dying, I always ask what they would like me to do. One way I find very
helpful in relating to people who are dying is through gentle massage. No training
is necessary for the type of massage I do. Most people would call it gentle stroking
or even holding hands. The important ingredient seems to be touch, as many people
who are dying have little opportunity to touch others and be touched by them.
One man who was quite disfigured by his disease with ugly scarring and hard, alien
growths, found that having me gently touch his wounds or press firmly where he
felt restricted, helped him come closer to accepting his body as it was. Many
people find touch soothing and relaxing, and touching relieves the anxiety that
many people feel when told that they have a terminal disease. Many people fall
asleep with gentle touch on their hands, feet or head, and I always feel gratified
by this response and continue, assuming they are benefiting in unconscious ways.
After all, the body works very efficiently when we are able to get out of its
way.
I usually offer to take people through the process of deep relaxation,
too. If the person wants this, I always go through the same process each time
so that people can learn how to do it themselves. I start with the toes, going
up the legs into the body, up to the shoulders, to the hands, up the arms to the
neck and into the head. A systematic approach helps people learn how to do it
themselves, so that if they are lying in bed awake at anytime, they can go through
the routine themselves and at least feel they are relaxing and resting efficiently.
When
fully relaxed, I guide the person into meditation. This can be any kind of healing
meditation, or deep concentration within. I find imagery helps to let a person
drop into a deep state, like imagining their awareness starting on the surface
of a lake and dropping slowly like a flat stone down to the bottom of the lake.
Then the person can be encouraged to take their consciousness to any part of their
body that needs healing and spread healing through light or love. Alternatively,
I may guide them into an inner space from where they receive guidance as to how
to help the healing process. Sometimes the inner space yields presents or loved
ones. The important ingredient seems to be that the person feels deeply relaxed,
alert and comfortable.
One great being, when asked by a dying person how to
prepare, said: "Die a little every day." If the person I'm with is comfortable
with this idea, I talk about some of the different ways we have of letting go.
We can let go of our good and bad memories of our early life. We can let go memories
of people we rarely see. We can let go our memories of places we are unlikely
to see again, or unfulfilled desires. This can be done very slowly - just "a
little every day". Looking deeper, we can become aware of emotional unfinished
business and try to come to terms with it through acknowledgment and expressions
of the feelings involved, and allow integration to occur. We can examine any regrets
and disappointments and hold these gently in our awareness until we can heal.
Holding things in our awareness allows our deeper parts, which know what to do,
to work on them.
All this work is deep and the person themselves should only
work on a little at a time. They can choose whatever comes up for them at the
time. If you are working with them on this, encourage a positive perspective,
help them construct a narrative of their life that shows how their experiences
have resulted in their growth or expansion. Mental concepts of what is right and
wrong, good and bad, as well as the possibility of judgement arise at this time.
Allow the person to feel their fear, regret, anger, guilt and shame or whatever,
but point out that this idea of judgement is a concept we've been brought up with
that may not be true. Great beings tell us that God/consciousness is love and
supports whatever we do. We can know more about the effects of what we've done
without undergoing direct punishment, without there being a vengeful God.
If
the person is very close to death, I tend to simply touch them very softly and
gently, speak very little, if at all, and concentrate on generating love in my
heart and having it extend out to surround the dying person with love. Love and
fearlessness are the most helpful feelings at this important time. When we feel
love and concentrate on that feeling (I usually feel love for the beings of light
who I'm sure flock to the side of dying ones to guide them through the experience)
then we keep fear at bay. I have only once been with a person as they died (my
father) but I have been with several people in the last few hours of their life
and feel convinced that the practice of love at this time could transform their
dying experience from fear to love.
Through being with someone before they
die, we can help them reach the unconscious parts of themselves that already know
how to die. With an attitude of confidence in them, humility before the mystery
that is death, and love for the dying person and their family, we can help instil
an atmosphere of strength and dignity into the dying process. We can help people
call on the wisdom they have accumulated in their lives and put it to good use
through powerful engagement with the great transformation that is death.
Renuka
Potter is a Transpersonal Psychologist with a practice in Box Hill and Clifton
Hill, Victoria. She is a trained spiritual development counsellor, a spiritual
healer and does Body Transformation.
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Buddhist
views on marriage
In Buddhism,
marriage is regarded as entirely a personal, individual concern and not as a religious
duty. Marriage is a social convention, an institution created by man for the well-being
and happiness of man, to differentiate human society from animal life and to maintain
order and harmony in the process of procreation. Even though the Buddhist texts
are silent on the subject of monogamy or polygamy, the Buddhist laity is advised
to limit themselves to one wife. The Buddha did not lay rules on married life
but gave necessary advice on how to live a happy married life. There are ample
inferences in His sermons that it is wise and advisable to be faithful to one
wife and not to be sensual and to run after other women. The Buddha realized that
one of the main causes of man's downfall is his involvement with other women (Parabhava
Sutta). Men must realize the difficulties, the trials and tribulations that he
has to undergo just to maintain a wife and a family. These would be magnified
many times when faced with calamities. Knowing the frailties of human nature,
the Buddha did, in one of His precepts, advise His followers to refrain from committing
adultery or sexual misconduct.
The Buddhist views on marriage are very liberal:
in Buddhism, marriage is regarded entirely as personal and individual concern,
and not as a religious duty. There are no religious laws in Buddhism compelling
a person to be married, to remain as a bachelor or to lead a life of total chastity.
It is not laid down anywhere that Buddhists must produce children or regulate
the number of children that they produce. Buddhism allows each individual the
freedom to decide for himself all the issues pertaining to marriage. It might
be asked why Buddhist monks do not marry, since there are no laws for or against
marriage. The reason is obviously that to be of service to mankind, the monks
have chosen a way of life which includes celibacy. Those who renounce the worldly
life keep away from married life voluntarily to avoid various worldly commitments
in order to maintain peace of mind and to dedicate their lives solely to serve
others in the attainment of spiritual emancipation. Although Buddhist monks do
not solemnize a marriage ceremony, they do perform religious services in order
to bless the couples.
Divorce
Separation or divorce is not prohibited
in Buddhism though the necessity would scarcely arise if the Buddha's injunctions
were strictly followed. Men and women must have the liberty to separate if they
really cannot agree with each other. Separation is preferable to avoid miserable
family life for a long period of time. The Buddha further advises old men not
to have young wives as the old and young are unlikely to be compatible, which
can create undue problems, disharmony and downfall (Parabhava Sutta).
From:
'What Buddhists Believe' by Venerable K. Sri Dhammananda Maha Thera
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Dharma
in daily life
Alexander Berzin
Morelia,
Mexico, June 6, 2000
Dharma as Preventive Measures
I have been asked
to speak about the practice of Dharma in daily life. We need to know what we mean
by Dharma. Dharma is a Sanskrit word that literally means "a preventive measure."
It is something that we do in order to avoid problems. To have any interest in
practicing the Dharma, we need to see that there are problems in life. That actually
takes a lot of courage. Many people do not take themselves or their lives seriously.
They work very hard all day long and then distract themselves with entertainment
and so on in the evenings because they are tired. They don't really look inwardly
to the problems in their lives. Even if they do look at their problems, they do
not really want to acknowledge that their lives are not satisfactory because it
would be too depressing. It takes courage to really check the quality of our lives
and to admit honestly when we find it unsatisfactory.
Unsatisfactory Situations
and Their Causes
Of course, there are levels of unsatisfactoriness. We could
say, "Sometimes I have bad moods and sometimes things go well, but that's
okay. That's life." If we are content with that, fine. If we have some hope
that we can make things a little bit better, it leads us to look for a way to
do so. In order to find methods to improve the quality of our lives we need to
identify the source of our problems. Most people look externally for the source
of their problems. "I am having difficulty in my relationship with you because
of you! You are not acting the way I would like you to act." We may also
blame our difficulties on the political or economic situation. According to some
schools of psychology, we can look to traumatic events in our childhood as what
led us to have the problems that we have. It is very easy to blame our unhappiness
on others. Placing the blame on other people or social or economic factors does
not really lead to a solution. If we have this conceptual framework, we might
be forgiving and it may have some benefit, but most people find that only doing
this much has not relieved them of their psychological problems and unhappiness.
Buddhism says that although other people, society, and so on contribute to
our problems, they are not really the deepest source of them. To discover the
deepest source of our difficulties we need to look within. After all, if we feel
unhappy in life, it is a response to our situation. Different people respond to
the same situation differently. Even if we just look at ourselves, we find that
we respond differently to difficulties from one day to the next. If the source
of the problem were just the external situation, we should respond in the same
way all the time, but we do not. There are factors that affect how we respond,
such as having a good day at work, but these are only superficial contributing
factors. They do not go deeply enough.
If we look, we start to see that our
attitudes toward life, ourselves, and our situations contribute very much to how
we feel. For example, we don't feel sorry for ourselves all the time, like when
we are having a good day; but when we are not having a good day, the feeling of
self-pity recurs. The basic attitudes that we have toward life very much shape
how we experience life. If we examine more deeply, we find that our attitudes
are based on confusion.
Confusion as the Source of Problems
If we explore
confusion, we see that one aspect of it is confusion about behavioral cause and
effect. We are confused about what to do or say and about what will happen as
a result. We can be very confused about what type of job to get, whether to get
married, whether to have children, etc. If we get into a relationship with a person,
what will the result be? We do not know. Our ideas of what will follow from our
choices are really just fantasies. We might think that if we get into a deep relationship
with a certain person, we will live happily ever after, like in a fairy tale.
If we are upset in a situation, we think that yelling will make it better. We
have a very confused idea about how the other person is going to respond to what
we do. We think that if we yell and speak our minds, we will feel better and everything
will be all right, but everything will not be all right. We want to know what
will happen. We desperately look at astrology or throw coins for The Book of Changes,
the I Ching. Why do we do things like that? We want to be in control of what happens.
Buddhism says that a deeper level of confusion is confusion about how we and
others exist and about how the world exists. We are confused about the whole issue
of control. We think that it is possible to be totally in control of what happens
to us. Because of that, we get frustrated. It is not possible to always be in
control. That is not reality. Reality is very complex. Many things influence what
happens, not just what we do. It is not that we are totally out of control or
manipulated by external forces either. We contribute to what happens, but we are
not the sole factor that determines what happens.
Because of our confusion
and insecurity, we often act destructively without even knowing that it is destructive
behavior. This is because we are under the influence of disturbing emotions, disturbing
attitudes, and the compulsive impulses that come up from our habits. Not only
do we act destructively toward others; we primarily act in self-destructive ways.
In other words, we create more problems for ourselves. If we want fewer problems
or liberation from our problems, or even further, the ability to help others to
get out of their problems as well, we need to acknowledge the source of our limitations.
Ridding Ourselves of Confusion
Let us say that we can recognize that the
source of our problems is confusion. This is not too difficult. Many people reach
the point of saying, "I am really confused. I am messed up." Then what?
Before we go and spend money on this course or that retreat, we need to consider
very seriously whether we really are convinced that it is possible to get rid
of our confusion. If we don't think it is possible to get of confusion, what are
we trying to do? If we go only with the hope that it may be possible to get rid
of our confusion, it is not very stable. It is wishful thinking.
We might
think that freedom could come about in several ways. We might think that somebody
will save us. It could be a higher, divine figure, such as God, and so we become
born-again believers. Alternatively, we may look to a spiritual teacher, a partner,
or someone else to save us from our confusion. In such situations, it is easy
to become dependent on the other person and to behave immaturely. We are often
so desperate to find someone to save us that we are indiscriminate in whom we
turn to. We might choose someone who is not free from confusion himself or herself
and who, because of his or her own disturbing emotions and attitudes, takes advantage
of our naïve dependence. This is not a stable way to proceed. We cannot look
to a spiritual teacher or a relationship to clear up all our confusion. We have
to clear up our own confusion.
A relationship with a spiritual teacher or
with a partner can provide helpful circumstances, but only when the relationship
is a healthy one. When it is unhealthy, it just makes it worse. It leads to more
confusion. In the beginning, we can be in a deep state of denial, thinking that
the teacher is perfect, the partner is perfect, but eventually our naiveté
wears off. When we start to see the weaknesses in the other person and that the
other person is not going to save us from all our confusion, we crash. We feel
betrayed. Our faith and our trust have been betrayed. That is a terrible feeling!
It is very important to try to avoid that from the beginning. We need to practice
the Dharma, preventive measures. We need to understand what is possible and what
is not. What can a spiritual teacher do and what can a spiritual teacher not do?
We take preventive measures to avoid crashing.
We need to develop a state of
mind that is free of confusion. The opposite of confusion, understanding, will
prevent confusion from arising. Our work in the Dharma is to be introspective
and attentive to our attitudes, our disturbing emotions, and our impulsive, compulsive,
or neurotic behavior. That means being willing to see things in ourselves that
are not so nice, things we would rather deny. When we notice things that are causing
our problems or are symptoms of our problems, we need to apply opponents to overcome
them. All of this is based on study and meditation. We have to learn to identify
disturbing emotions and attitudes and where they come from.
Meditation
Meditation
means that we practice applying the various opponents in a controlled situation
so that we become familiar with how to apply them and can then do so in real life.
For example, if we get angry with others when they don't act the way we would
like them to, in meditation we think of these situations and try to look at them
from a different point of view. The other person is acting in disagreeable ways
for many different reasons. He or she is not necessarily acting out of spite because
he or she doesn't love us. In meditation, we try to dissolve such attitudes: "My
friend doesn't love me anymore because he or she didn't call me."
If
we can practice going through this type of situation with a state of mind that
is more relaxed, understanding, and patient, then if the person doesn't call us
for a week we don't get so upset. When we start to get upset, we remember that
this person is probably very busy and it is egocentric to think that we are the
most important person in his or her life. This helps us to cool our emotional
upset.
Dharma Is a Full-time Occupation
Dharma practice is not a hobby.
It is not something that we do as a sport or for relaxation. We do not just go
to a Dharma center to be part of a group or to be in a social atmosphere. It may
be very nice to go there, but that is not the purpose. Also, we don't go to a
Dharma center like a addict getting a fix - a fix of inspiration from a charismatic,
entertaining teacher who makes us feel good. If we do, we go home, soon feel blah,
and then we need another fix. Dharma is not a drug. Teachers are not drugs. Dharma
practice is a full-time job. We are talking about working on our attitudes toward
everything in our lives. If we are working on developing love for all sentient
beings, for example, we need to apply it in our families. Many people sit in their
rooms meditating on love, but cannot get along with their parents or their partners.
This is sad.
Avoiding Extremes
In trying to apply the Dharma to our real
life situations at home and at work, we need to avoid extremes. One pole of the
extreme is putting the whole blame on others. The other extreme is putting the
entire blame on ourselves. What happens in life is very complex. Both sides contribute:
others contribute; we contribute. We can try to get others to change their behavior
and attitudes, but I am sure we all know from personal experience it is not very
easy - especially if we come on in a self-righteous, holy way and accuse the other
of being a sinner. It is much easier to try to change ourselves. Although we can
make suggestions to others, if they are receptive and if they will not become
more aggressive because of our suggestions, but the major work is on ourselves.
In working on ourselves, we have to watch for another pair of extremes: being
totally preoccupied with our feelings and not being aware of them at all. The
first is narcissistic preoccupation. We are only concerned about what we feel.
We tend to ignore what others are feeling. We tend to think that what we feel
is far more important than what other people are feeling. On the other hand, we
may be totally out of touch with our feelings or feel nothing at all, as if our
emotions were shot with Novocain. Avoiding these extremes requires a delicate
balance. It is not so easy.
If we are always watching ourselves it creates
an imagined duality - ourselves and what we are feeling or doing - and so we are
not really into relating to someone or being with somebody. The real art is to
relate and act in a natural and sincere way, while part of our attention is on
our motivation and so on. We need to try to do this, however, without having it
be such a fractured way of acting that we are not present with the other person.
I should also point out that if we are checking our motivation and feelings during
the process of relating to someone, sometimes it is helpful to tell the person.
However, it is very narcissistic to feel that we have to tell the person. Often,
other people are not interested in what we are feeling. It is very self-important
to feel that they want to know. When we notice that we are starting to act selfishly,
we can just stop it. We don't have to announce it.
Another set of two extremes
is that we are all bad or all good. If we put too much emphasis on our difficulties,
our problems, and our disturbing emotions, we could start to feel that we are
bad persons. That very easily degenerates into guilt. "I should practice.
If I don't, I am a bad person." This is a very neurotic basis for practice.
We also need to avoid the other extreme, which is putting too much emphasis
on our positive sides. "We are all perfect. Just see your Buddha-natures.
Everything is wonderful." This is very dangerous, because it can imply that
we don't need to give up anything, we don't need to stop any negativities because
all we need to do is see our Buddha-natures. "I am wonderful. I am perfect.
I do not have to stop my negative behavior." We need a balance. If we are
feeling too down on ourselves, we need to remind ourselves of our Buddha-natures;
if we are feeling a little bit too blasé, we need to emphasize our negative
sides.
Taking Responsibility
Basically, we need to take responsibility
ourselves: for our development and for getting rid of our problems. Of course,
we need help. It is not easy to do this by ourselves. We can get help from spiritual
teachers or from our spiritual community, people who are like-minded and who are
working on themselves and not blaming each other for their problems. That is why
in a partnership, it is important to share the same type of attitude, particularly
that of not blaming the other for any problems that arise. If both partners are
blaming each other, it does not work at all. If only one partner is working on
himself or herself and the other is just blaming, it doesn't work either. If we
are already in a relationship in which the other person is accusing, but we are
looking into what we might be contributing, it does not mean that we need break
off the relationship, but it is more difficult. We have to try to avoid being
the martyr in this relationship. "I am enduring all of this! It is difficult!"
The whole thing can be very neurotic.
Receiving Inspiration
The form of
support that we can get from a spiritual teacher, from a like-minded spiritual
community and friends is sometimes called "inspiration." The Buddhist
teachings place a lot of emphasis on receiving inspiration from the Triple Gem,
from teachers, and so on. The Tibetan word is "jinlab" (byin-rlabs),
usually translated as "blessings," which is an inappropriate translation.
We need inspiration. We need some sort of strength to go on.
The Dharma path
is not an easy one. It is dealing with the ugliness of life. We need stable sources
of inspiration. If the source of our inspiration is teachers telling fantastic
stories of miracles and all these sorts of things - about themselves or about
others in Buddhist history - it will not be a very stable source of inspiration.
It certainly can be very exciting, but we have to examine how this is affecting
us. In many people, it reinforces a fantasy world in which we are wishing for
salvation through miracles. We imagine that some grand magician is going to save
us with his or her miracle powers, or that we will suddenly be able to develop
these miraculous things ourselves. We have to be very cautious with respect to
these fantastic stories. They may inspire our faith and so on, and that can be
helpful, but it is not a stable basis of inspiration. We need a stable basis.
A perfect example is that of the Buddha. Buddha did not try to "inspire"
people or impress them by telling fantastic stories. He did not put on airs by
going around and blessing people and stuff like that. The analogy that Buddha
used, repeated throughout the Buddhist teachings, is that a Buddha is like the
sun. The sun does not try to warm people. Naturally, from the way the sun is,
it spontaneously brings warmth to everyone. Although we may get high from hearing
a fantastic story or by being touched on the head with a statue or getting a red
string to tie around our necks, it is not stable. A stable source of inspiration
is the way the teacher spontaneously and naturally is as a person - his or her
character, the way he or she is as a result of practicing the Dharma. This is
what is inspiring, not some act that the person puts on to entertain us. Although
this may not be as exciting as a fantastic story, it will give us a stable sense
of inspiration.
As we progress, we can get inspiration ourselves from our
own progress - not from gaining miraculous powers, but from how our characters
slow change. The teachings always emphasize rejoicing in our own positive acts.
It is very important to remember that progress is never linear. It does not just
get better everyday. One of the characteristics of samsara is that our moods go
up and down until we are completely free from samsara, which is an unbelievably
advanced state. We must expect that we will sometimes feel happy and sometimes
unhappy. We will sometimes be able to act in positive ways and other times our
neurotic habits will be overpowering. It is going to be up and down. Miracles
do not happen, usually.
The teachings on avoiding the eight worldly concerns
emphasize not getting a swollen head if things go well and not becoming depressed
if they do go well. That is life. We need to look at the long-term effects, not
the short-term effects. If we have been practicing for five years, for example,
compared to five years ago there is a lot of progress. Even though we sometimes
get upset, if we find that we are able to handle situations with calmer, clearer
minds and hearts, that indicates that we have made some progress. This is inspiring.
It is not dramatic, although we would like it to be dramatic and we get high on
dramatic shows. It is stable inspiration.
Being Practical
We need to be
quite practical and down to earth. When we do purification practices, like Vajrasattva
practice, it is important not to think of it as Saint Vajrasattva purifying us.
It is not some external figure, a great saint who will save us and bless us with
purification. That is not the process at all. Vajrasattva stands for the natural
purity of the clear light mind, which is not inherently stained by confusion.
Confusion can be removed. It is by recognizing the natural purity of the mind
through our own efforts that we can let go of guilt, negative potentials, and
so on. That enables the purification process to work.
Further, in doing all
these practices and trying to put Dharma into our daily lives, we need to recognize
and acknowledge the level we are on. It is crucial not to be pretentious or to
feel that we must be at a higher level than we are on now.
Approaching Dharma
from a Catholic Background
Most of us here come from a Catholic background.
As we approach the Dharma and start to study, we do not need to feel that we need
to give up Catholicism and convert to Buddhism. However, it is important not to
mix the two practices. We don't do three prostrations to the altar before sitting
down in a church. Likewise, when we do a Buddhist practice, we don't visualize
the Virgin Mary, we visualize Buddha-figures. We practice each individually. When
we go to church, we just go to church; when we do a Buddhist meditation, we do
a Buddhist meditation. There are many common features, such as the emphasis on
love, helping others, and so on. There is no conflict on the basic level. If we
practice love, charity, and helping others, we are both a good Catholic and a
good Buddhist. Eventually, however, we will have to make a choice, but that is
only when we are ready to put our full effort into making tremendous spiritual
progress. If we are going to go to the top story of a building, we cannot go up
two staircases at the same time. I think that is a very helpful image. If we are
just functioning on the basic ground level, in the lobby, fine. We don't have
to worry about it. We can benefit from both.
Avoiding Misplaced Loyalty
In
applying Dharma to our lives, we have to be careful not to reject our native religions
as bad or inferior. That is a big mistake. Then we could become a fanatic Buddhist
and a fanatic anti-Catholic, for example. People do that with communism and democracy
too. A psychological mechanism called misplaced loyalty takes over. There is a
tendency to want to be loyal to our families, our backgrounds, and so on, so we
want to be loyal to Catholicism although we have rejected it. If we are not loyal
to our backgrounds and totally reject them as bad, we feel we are completely bad.
Because this is extremely uncomfortable, we unconsciously feel the need to find
something in our backgrounds to which we can be loyal.
The tendency is unconsciously
to be loyal to certain less-beneficial aspects of our backgrounds. For example,
we may reject Catholicism, but we bring a strong fear of hells into Buddhism.
A friend of mine was very strongly Catholic, turned strongly to Buddhism, and
then had an existential crisis. "I gave up Catholicism so now I will go to
Catholic hell; but if I give up Buddhism and go back to Catholicism, I will go
to Buddhist hell!" Although it might sound funny, it was really quite a serious
problem to her.
We often unconsciously bring certain attitudes from Catholicism
into our Buddhist practice. The most common ones are guilt and looking for miracles
and for others to save us. If we don't practice, we feel that we should practice,
and if we don't, we are guilty. These ideas are not at all helpful. We need to
recognize when we are doing this. We need to look at our backgrounds and acknowledge
the positive aspects so that we can be loyal to the positive rather than to the
negative features. Rather than thinking, "I have inherited guilt and miracle-seeking,"
we can think, "I have inherited the Catholic tradition of love, charity,
and helping the unfortunate."
We can do the same thing regarding our
families. We might reject them and then be unconsciously loyal to their negative
traditions, rather than consciously loyal to their positive ones. If we acknowledge,
for example, that we are very grateful for the Catholic backgrounds they have
given us, then we can go on our own paths without conflict about our past and
without negative feelings constantly jeopardizing our progress.
It is important
to try to understand the psychological validity of this. If we think of our past
- our families, our religions of birth, or whatever - as negative, we tend to
have negative attitudes toward ourselves. On the other hand, if we can acknowledge
the positive things in our backgrounds and our past, we tend more to have positive
attitudes toward ourselves. That helps us to be much more stable in our spiritual
paths.
Concluding Remarks
We need to proceed slowly, step-by-step. When
we hear very advanced teachings, go to tantric empowerments, and so forth, although
great masters of the past have said, "As soon as you hear a teaching, immediately
put it into practice," we need to determine whether something is too advanced
for us or if it is something that we can put into practice now. If it is too advanced,
we have to discern the steps we will need to take to prepare ourselves to be able
to put it into practice, and then follow those steps. In short, as one of my teachers,
Geshe Ngawang Dhargyey, said, "If we practice fantasy methods, we get imaginary
results; if we practice practical methods, we will get practical results."
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How
to release stress and anger by healing the mind
by
His Eminence Garchen Rinpoche
translated by Tashi Jamyangling
October 16,
2003
Ratnashri Meditation Center, Sweden
II would like to wish
you all Tashi Delek, in Tibetan, that means wish you well, good evening and everything
is included in that. We come from different places. Although we belong to different
countries and different ethnicities, none of us has not been each other's parent
before in former lives. This is the Buddhist's view. From the beginningless samsara,
we have taken many, many life forms in the past. Therefore, it is not just lip
service when I say Tashi Delek or wish everyone of you well.
I would
like to begin this evening's topic by saying that on this planet, there are two
systems. One is the secular system and the other is the spiritual system. Both
systems are to benefit sentient beings because we human beings have intelligence
and none of us desire pain and suffering. We all desire happiness and peace. These
two systems are meant to benefit us towards that end. Of the two systems, the
first one is the secular system. The secular system is in place because of human
intelligence. Whether we are walking or sitting or whatever we are doing, the
secular system is in place so that mankind will lead a decent life. All the civilization
and all the organization everywhere are put together after tremendous sacrifice
and efforts. For example, scientists have worked so hard to come to where we are
right now. Statesmen and leaders have worked hard. Many people have made lots
and lots of sacrifices to bring us to the level where we are right now. And today
on this planet, we have many different kinds of secular systems. We have come
a very, very long way in modernization and development. However, what we find
as an end result is that none of these material progresses have made us completely
satisfied or solved our problems. Therefore, we have a spiritual system which
is beyond the materialistic system. Within this spiritual system, we also have
many denominations and forms. Different religions have different teachings - some
are very far-sighted and some are not so far-sighted. All these aim at eradicating
pain and suffering. I am here to talk a little bit about Buddhism - the system
put in place by Gautama Buddha.
Basically, Buddha teaches the two truths.
Buddha teaches us how to find the root cause of pain and suffering. Buddha teaches
us the nature of this pain and suffering. Buddha teaches us the essence of this
pain and suffering. Buddha teaches us that unless we find out the root cause of
pain and suffering in samsara, we will not be able to bring about the cessation
of this pain and suffering. Buddha teaches us that all this pain and suffering
come not from outside but from within. It comes from one's own state of mind.
Therefore, Buddhism has to do with the inner mind
rather than the outer
materialism. When we aspire to have peace and happiness, peace and happiness come
from virtuous deeds. What is virtue? Virtue is love. What is love? Love is a mind
set that is willing to benefit others rather than yourself. What is suffering?
Suffering is self, selfishness. From where does this pain and suffering come?
All this pain and suffering is due to these physical bodies of sentient beings
who are born in the six realms of existences. The six realms of existences are
the creation of one's own mind due to the six afflictive emotions. Once you release
or unleash the six afflictive emotions, you create karma, a variety of karma.
As a consequence of the creation of this variety of karma, one is born either
as a human or any specie of the other five realms of existence. This takes us
to the idea of cause and effect relationship.
Cause and effect or action
and reaction is absolutely infallible. Because once you unleash the negative emotion
like strong anger, what you have to face is one of the six realms of existence.
When you have anger, it is negative from the beginning. When anger arises in one's
mind stream, unhappiness starts. So from the very beginning, it is negative. When
you unleash it, obviously, it is negative to whom-so-ever you show it, it is mutually
destructive. Finally, it is negative at the end because you have to face the consequence
of having unleashed that negative emotion. All together, there are 84 000 different
kinds of afflictive emotions which can be categorized into five classifications
- which are called five poisons. Five poisons can be grouped into three classes
- which are called three poisons. Three poisons are really boiled down to one
thing that is self-cherishing attachment and clinging. In order to dismantle this
attachment and clinging, we ought to have the antidote weapon to fight it. The
antidote to self-cherishing attachment and clinging is a mind set that is willing
to benefit other beings. That mind set is the sublime Dharma or the teachings
of the Buddha. When you think of the pain and suffering of others, you are sharing
the pain and suffering of others. To liberate yourself from pain and suffering
means that you want to free the mind from being bound into immobility. You are
in that kind of bondage because at all times with we humans, something is always
wrong with "I" or something is always wrong with "my" or "mine".
So if you want to do away with that bondage, the only way to free yourself from
that is to have the mind set that is willing to benefit others. When you do not
understand this and when you do not have this altruistic mind, then it worse case
scenario, there are cases of committing suicide. All because of far too much attachment
to oneself. So Buddha taught us in order to free ourselves from this bondage,
we have to benefit others. We need to have the willingness to benefit others.
In order to do that, we need to understand that the root cause is the self-cherishing
attachment and clinging. The root cause of suffering is attachment and aversion.
We have a tendency to have attachment to the one who is close to us or to the
things that appeal to us, but we are averse to those who are not our friends or
things that do not appeal to us. If you have a mind set that is always willing
to benefit others, you will not have this attachment or aversion. But if you then
ask, would it be possible for me to generate the mind set that is willing to benefit
others. For example, in the case of a stranger, the Buddhist view is that, from
the beginningless time, we all have taken countless number life forms. Therefore,
we all have been each other's parents. Friends, boyfriends, girlfriends and keeping
that in view, we have every reason to be kind and gentle to each other. If one
have belief in Buddha's view, then it is easy to generate love and kindness towards
all sentient beings. Of course, in this very life, we have those who are very
negative towards us. But if you understand that, in many life forms we all have
been each other's parent, then you will understand that certain beings are negative
to you or harsh to you cause pain and suffering to you because you yourself have
caused pain and suffering to those who love you in former lives. Or you have an
outstanding debt owing to those who have to close and dear to us in former lives.
With that kind of view, you will have the willingness to benefit others. And when
you have this willingness to benefit others, it will automatically do away with
attachment and aversion which are responsible for the self-cherishing, clinging
and attachment. If you do not understand this cause and effect relationship, even
if you aspire to do virtuous deeds, it will not be possible. Even if you want
to do something which is according to Dharma teachings, sometimes, it will not
work out and when it does not work out, you will feel very dejected and sad about
it. What you have to understand is, if you do not accomplish something, that is
because of your past karma. Whatever kind of person you had been in former lives
is reflected on who you are right now. If you conclude that, all the accomplishment
will result from your diligent effort only, it will not work out like that at
all because many things are predetermined because of past karma. There is no telling
what you had been doing in former lives and if you are feeling rejected and going
through a deep depression and feel sad, you should like at your own mind state.
If you are poor, instead of feeling bad about it, you should understand that being
poor is the result of some actions in the past. Perhaps, you have taken things
from others that did not belong to you. If you are suffering from mental or physical
pain, perhaps you have inflicted pain on others in former lives. But the real
cause of pain and suffering is negative emotions like anger, hatred, jealousy
etc. So, if you understand these things, then you will not be totally overwhelmed
by the kind of predicament or challenges that you face in this life. And at the
same time, you will know how to prevent this same occurrences for the rest of
your life. The recognition of what you might have done in former lives and refraining
from repetition of what you could have very well done by the five poisons. If
you are facing challenges etc and if there is nothing you can do about it, think
that this is a payment of outstanding debt that you owe in former lives. We have
a mixture of pain and suffering on the one hand and happiness and peace on the
other. Some people have this notion that, if one is blessed with prosperity, one
would be necessarily happy. That does not happen. If you have tons of money for
example, hundreds and hundreds of thousands, it is not necessarily going to bring
you happiness and peace. Instead, it is going to bring you lots of pain and suffering.
In your effort to make more money, there will be competition, jealousy and all
kinds of negative emotions associated with this. Prosperity is not the solution
to the problem of having pain and suffering. All the pain and suffering are within
the mind. It is a matter of thinking, how you take it. If you think that you are
the only one who is going through all this pain and suffering, what you are going
through will be really hard to bear. On the other hand, if you say to yourself,
"I am not the only person who is going through pain and suffering, but there
are plenty of such people who are going through even worse than my pain and suffering",
then immediately, you will feel that your own pain and suffering is not so great.
You have to say to yourself, what I am facing is nothing compared with the pain
and suffering of other beings. Understand that virtue brings about happiness and
nonvirtue brings about pain and suffering.
Milarepa teaches us this way.
Milarepa said that rich people have rich people's suffering and poor people have
poor people's suffering. Have and have not both suffer. If you do not understand
the nature of the mind, there is nothing but suffering. But if you do have an
understanding of the nature of the mind, there is nothing but peace and happiness
whether you are rich person or poor person or sick person or whatever. If you
know how to cope with different situations, make an example of someone who is
rich, who has a true understanding of the nature of mind. He would say, "I
am blessed with prosperity. I am a very happy person. It has been the result of
my virtuous deeds in former lives. It is a result of my having purified obscurations
and accumulated merits. I further desire to reinforce and replenish my accumulation
of merits by making offerings to the Buddha, Dharma and Sangha and by giving charity
to sentient beings." He or she understands that prosperity like everything
else is impermanent. He or she knows that there is a possibility that he or she
could lose everything that he or she possesses. But if he or she does loss everything,
it is because of karma, so there is no pain and suffering associated with that.
A poor person who has the understanding of the nature of mind would say, "Yes,
indeed I am poor but nonetheless I am a human being. I am not hungry and I am
not cold. I have the Bodhicitta, the enlightened mind. I have the understanding
of the cause and effect relationship." That person would happily recite the
mantra OM MANI PADME HUNG. Such a person does not have a burden to carry. A sick
person who has the understanding of the mind, he or she would say, "Yes,
I am inflicted with this terrible disease, but it is because of my past karma.
Once karma is created, it has ripen as it has ripen and I have to face the consequences
and no one else would. Because I have to face the consequences sooner or later,
it is far better to face it sooner than later. The fact that I am sick now is
a repayment of my karmic debt." So, with that kind of mind set, the pain
and suffering is gone. You can transform, it is just a matter of thinking. You
can transform pain and suffering into peace and happiness. So one would say, "Yes,
I am a human being. I know the cause and effect relationship. Therefore, I have
the ability to transform pain and suffering into peace and happiness." You
know that every single activity in samsara is a result of one's driving force
of afflicted emotions. Whatever pain and suffering you are facing right now is
because of the five poisons. Having recognized that, you will ensure that you
will not repeat the same kind of mistakes. Loving kindness, compassion and treating
all living beings as equal which calls for equanimity. And these are possible
when you understand the nature of your mind and cause and effect relationship.
When you have loving kindness and compassion in your heart, it is always good.
It is good in the beginning when you generate it, it will give you a good feeling
that is why it is good. When you show your love and compassion to others, express
it when you are talking to others for example in a kind and gentle manner. It
is good, mutually good. Result of course is good because it is positive, it is
virtuous. At all times, try to have a kind heart. When you have a kind heart,
it is the sublime Dharma. That is love. We talked about the two truths, relative
truth and absolute truth. Up to this point, we have talked about the relative
truth. By the practice of relative truth, by having the understanding of the cause
and effect then you can definitely alleviate the pain and suffering of yourself
and others. That is not the only truth. There is absolute true. When we talked
about absolute truth, it is higher than what we have discussed as far. In the
absolute truth, there is neither pain or suffering nor peace and happiness as
such. It is because the true nature of the mind is beyond happiness and suffering,
beyond attachment and aversion. True nature of mind does not have attachment.
If you have attachment, then attachment is going to bring about pain and suffering.
A state of mind which is completely free from or beyond anything that can be conceptualized
is the true nature of the mind. In this state of the mind, you do not have to
focus on the cause and effect relationship. And when one is in mediation, the
true nature of mind, at that time you are completely free from both pain and pleasure.
These are such some verbal teachings on happiness versus pain and suffering. But
you really have to experience it yourself. If you experience it yourself, then
you will understand what happiness is. In order to be able to experience real
happiness, you have to experience real pain and suffering. If you have never experience
winter then summer is nothing special. In Tibet, winter is extremely cold and
harsh, therefore, when spring comes when the flower blooms, people feel so glad.
Questions: What is emptiness?
Rinpoche: It is the profound emptiness,
emptiness as in all phenomena. The very cosmos as well as all sentient beings
including human beings, the real experience and understanding that all of us are
composite and not inherently or independently existing and therefore it is empty
of an absolute identity. It is empty or devoid of an independent existence. If
all phenomena do not have an independent existence to support itself, that is
not so real. That is emptiness. It is not just that emptiness, but not having
attachment because of that understanding. With complete clarity and yet we proceed
on and do our day to day activities. When you have an experiential understanding,
not academic understanding of profound emptiness, then you will see the futility
of both pain as well as suffering because it does not have a reality.
Question:
How to generate compassion?
Rinpoche: In order to generate compassion, first,
you have to have loving kindness. Bodhicitta consists of loving kindness and compassion.
In order to generate loving kindness and compassion, first you have to have the
Buddhist view established, that is, all mother beings are sentient beings. When
you see a tiny insect or a human being, both have been our parents. The famous
Nymapa teacher would take groups of monks to a slaughter house and make the monks
meditate and think of the animals being slaughtered as one's own parents. The
teacher will ask the monks, "How do you feel?" Some of the monks would
say, "I do not feel a thing." They do not feel that their own mother
is being slaughtered. The teacher then said, "Now, try to mentally visualize
that the head of your mother on the animal. The animal is now attached with the
mother's head. The teacher asks again, "And now, what do you feel?"
The monk replies, "Now, I do not like it very much." So, like this,
it trains the mind the Buddhist view. Once the view is established, then wishing
everything well to generate all sentient beings' loving kindness and compassion.
Once you wish well and then you want to do something to actually help to alleviate
the pain and suffering of all sentient beings, that is compassion. You do not
only want to wish them well, but you would want to do everything you can to put
an end to pain and suffering. That is how compassion is generated. Loving kindness
and compassion complement each other. Like when you have a son or daughter always
wishing him or her well and that is loving kindness. Whenever your son or daughter
needs your help, actually giving that help is compassion. It is difficult to generate
loving kindness and compassion. But you have to understand that without generating
bodhicitta, loving kindness and compassion, there is absolutely no way to reach
enlightenment. That is given. There is way to go around it. Without the two, loving
kindness and compassion, it is totally and completely impossible to reach enlightenment.
Yes, you can liberate yourself from your rebirth in samsara by doing other virtuous
things but enlightenment, absolutely not. Because it is difficult, you have to
train the mind to first wish everybody well and then gradually get a little bit
deeper than that. And then actually applying that loving kindness and transforming
it into compassion by thinking of all suffering sentient beings big and small,
meditate three times during the day and three times during the night. Because
back home in Tibet, just about the suffering of all sentient beings, one would
meditate on for one hundred days. You have to be convinced of the fact that all
sentient beings are your parents. If parents are not exactly the closest to you,
then whoever is the closest to you, whoever you love the most, then all sentient
beings have been like that in the former live times. If you did not generate loving
kindness and compassion, you must see with certainty that loving kindness and
compassion are absolutely indispensable. If you have anger and jealousy, for example,
when you pass away from this life, this would be imprinted in the mind stream
and the result is that you will be born surely either in the realm of hell or
hungry ghost because of what is imprinted in your mind stream. If you have loving
kindness and compassion imprinted on your mind stream, it is entirely different
story. If you want to be reborn as a human being, loving kindness and compassion
are indispensable. You must have loving kindness and compassion in your mind stream,
otherwise, it is not possible to be reborn as a human being. When you generate
loving kindness and compassion toward all sentient beings, you have to really
start with whoever is closest to you. Loving kindness and compassion must start
at home. Showing your loving kindness and compassion toward your family members
and gradually extends to others. It is important to generate your loving kindness
and compassion toward your mother and think of all the sacrifices she made. When
you generate this kind of loving kindness and compassion, it is yours. You are
not parting from it. Having loving kindness and compassion is like a wish-fulfilling
jewel. It is your mother who have giving you birth, it is your mother who have
given you love. Secondly, generate loving kindness and compassion toward your
teacher. Without teacher's help, you will be ignorant and ignorant person cannot
really fully enjoy peace and happiness. Teachers are extremely kind to all of
us. Thirdly, generate loving kindness and compassion toward your nation, your
government and all those who are responsible for bringing this country to the
level that it is in t now. Without the nation, without the government, without
the civilization, just imagine for a minute what it will be like. There will be
thieves, robbers and muggers everywhere. The roads will not be as they are today.
So one's nation is indeed important to oneself, whether or not one is going to
have peace and happiness is also dependsupon what kind of nation and government
you have. A good nation means happiness and a bad nation means suffering. We all
need to have some kind of association with the country or government, without
which we cannot really live. What if you live in a country just like a ghost town,
therefore one should be grateful and express your gratitude to all those former
statesmen who are responsible in building the nation. When you have this kind
of appreciation, you will be able to generate loving kindness and compassion toward
them. Always when you generate loving kindness, generate toward your mother, your
teachers, toward the nation and government and gradually you can extend it to
all of us on the planet and everybody in samsara etc. When you have loving kindness
and show it to your parent, then that loving kindness and compassion that you
show would be imprinted on your mind stream. This is something that you build
on and it is something you carry forward. Besides, if you are kind, gentle and
caring to your parents, when they are going to pass away, they are leaving everything
they have to you. You can inherit it. If you are kind, gentle and showing your
love and compassion toward your teachers, you will be able to get all their knowledge.
When you show your love and compassion to your nation and government, when you
abide by the law, pay your dues and pay your taxes and in your life, who know,
you may even become a leader and that will amount to satisfaction, fulfillment
and happiness. And when you pass away, you will carry forward of course love and
kindness imprinted on your mind stream. Therefore, gradually, you will think of
all mother sentient beings. When you have this kind of attitude, then you would
become someone who could make an positive impact on all sentient beings and in
your own country. Conversely, if you only focus on yourself, be selfish, over
indulge in alcoholic beverages and abuse drug etc all because of self-centered
and attachment and result would be self-destruction and you will be born as an
animal. You should have that kind of attitude toward your nation and government.
All the law and order is in place in order to serve its citizen. The good civilization,
the law and order, the police, for example, think of all these qualities, not
the faults, then you will be able to generate love and kindness. But if you do
just the opposite, that is do everything against the rules, against the law, black
marketing, breaking the law and one day, you will be caught. It is you who will
be the loser, in this life as well as in the next because when you do these kind
of activities, you have no loving kindness and compassion. Not only your nation,
but your spouse, for example, whether husband or wife, always find qualities rather
than faults. None of us are fully enlightened, all of us have faults. Do not dwell
in the faults. Capitalize on the qualities. If you capitalize on the qualities,
you will be able to generate love and kindness. Cast your mind back many years
when you and your spouse have the most wonderful time, when you exchange love
and kindness, relive those moments and if you did this, you will then live together
till you die. In all likelihood, you will meet again in your next life. All because
of love and kindness.
Rinpoche: Generating love and kindness is like a
telephone call, the minute you generate love and compassion, then you are sending
that to the other end whether it is an animal or a human being who pass away.
Whenever you generate loving kindness and compassion, it will reach the other
end. Loving kindness and compassion is the only thing that links beings together.
If you are a lama who is asked to pray for a deceased person, if you do not loving
kindness and compassion, no amount of prayer is going to have any effect at all.
So when you generate loving kindness toward a deceased person or an animal, think
of all sentient beings and send out your love and compassion to them. If you do
that, the deceased will derive the benefit from it because loving kindness and
compassion is the antidote of attachment. When you have loving kindness and compassion,
it will benefit whosoever you are praying to. For example, when you hear the news
of a major disaster, whether it is train-collision or something, immediately,
you will feel it and when you feel that you are touched, you will have a genuine
desire to send out your love and compassion. When you have a genuine desire to
send out your love and compassion, it will benefit the one that is struck by the
disaster. That is how all bodhisattvas benefit sentient beings. Bodhisattvas are
the enlightened one with heroic mind. Heroic mind because they have love and kindness
in abundance.
Question: Can you talk about compassion from the ultimate
point of view?
Rinpoche: At the absolute level, this compassion is called untargeted
compassion. That is to say, at the relative level, you need to see, to hear the
news of the train disaster. It has to touch you and then you generate the loving
kindness and compassion and think of what may have happened to those people. So
there is subject and object. You have to have those people toward whom you are
directing your compassion and your feeling. At the absolute level, you do not
have subject and object. It is the union of emptiness and compassion. That compassion
is all pervading compassion. It is at all times there, it pervades all. Dharmakaya
state of Buddhahood is intangible, just like the space. From the Dharmakaya state,
which is the untargeted compassion manifests as Sambogakaya and Nirmanakaya. These
are possible only because of the untargeted compassion which pervades all.
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Handling
Fear
Alexander Berzin
March 2002
Emergency Methods for Dealing
with Fear
In Tibetan Buddhism, the female Buddha-figure Tara represents the
aspect of a Buddha that protects us from fear. Tara actually represents the energy-winds
of the body and the breath. When purified, she also represents the ability to
act and to accomplish our aims. This symbolism suggests several emergency methods
of working with the breath and with the subtle energies for handling fear.
The
emergency methods derive from preparatory practices (preliminaries) that we do
before meditating, studying, or listening to teachings. In and of themselves,
these practices help to calm us down in emergencies, when we are extremely frightened
or begin to panic. They also serve as the first steps to take before applying
deeper methods.
1. Counting the cycles of breathing with eyes closed, taking
as the cycle the in and out-breaths, and focusing on the sensation of the breath
coming in, going down, the lower abdomen rising, then falling, and the breath
going out.
2. Counting the cycles of breathing with eyes half-opened, loosely
focused, looking down at the floor, taking as the cycle the out-breath, a pause,
and the in-breath, with the same focus as above, and after a while, adding awareness
of the sensation of our bottoms touching the chair or floor.
3. Reaffirming
the motivation or goal of what we wish to achieve (becoming more calm) and why.
4.
Imagining that the mind and energy come into focus like the lens of a camera.
5.
Without counting the breath, focusing on the lower abdomen rising and falling
while breathing and feeling that all the energies of the body are flowing harmoniously.
[See:
Preliminaries for Meditation or Study: The Seven-Limb Practice.]
What Is Fear?
Fear is a physical and emotional uneasiness felt about something known or
unknown, over which we feel we have no ability to control, handle, or bring to
the result that we wish. We want to be rid of what we fear, and thus there is
a strong repulsion. Even if the fear is a general anxiety, without a specific
object that we fear, still there is a strong wish to be rid of an undefined "something."
Fear
is not simply anger. Nevertheless, similar to anger, it entails an inflation of
the negative qualities of the object we fear and an inflation of "me."
Fear adds to anger the mental factor of distinguishing ('du-shes, recognition)
that we cannot control or handle the situation. We then pay attention (yid-la
byed-pa) to what we fear and to ourselves in terms of that way of distinguishing.
That way of distinguishing and paying attention may be accurate or inaccurate.
Fear Is Accompanied by Unawareness
Fear is always accompanied by unawareness
(ignorance, confusion) of some fact of reality - either not knowing it or knowing
it in a manner that contradicts reality. Let us consider six possible variations.
(1)
When we fear that we cannot control or handle a situation, our fear may be accompanied
by unawareness of cause and effect and how things exist. The conceptualized objects
(zhen-yul, implied object) of our fearful way of paying attention to ourselves
and what we fear are
" a solidly existing "me" who, by its
own power alone, should be able to control everything, such as our child not getting
hurt,
" a solidly existing thing, existing on its own and not influenced
by anything else, that we should be able to control by our own efforts alone,
but we are unable to do so because of some personal inadequacy.
These are
impossible ways of existing and impossible ways in which cause and effect work.
(2) When we are afraid that we cannot handle a situation, the accompanying
unawareness may be of the nature of the mind and impermanence. We fear that we
cannot handle our emotions or the loss of a loved one, we are unaware that our
experiences of pain and sadness are merely the arising and cognizing of appearances.
They are impermanent and will pass, like the pain of a dentist drilling out teeth.
(3) Our fear of being unable to handle a situation may be fear that we cannot
handle it by ourselves. It may also entail the fear of being alone and loneliness.
We think that we can find someone else who can alleviate the situation. The conceptualized
objects here are
" a solidly existing "me" who is incompetent,
inadequate, not good enough, and who can never learn,
" a solidly existent
"someone else" who is better than me and who can save me.
This is
another form of unawareness of how others and we exist and unawareness of cause
and effect. It may be accurate that we do not have sufficient knowledge now to
be able to handle something, such as our car breaking down, and someone else may
have that knowledge and be able to help us. However, that does not mean that,
through the workings of cause and effect, we cannot learn.
(4) When we are
afraid of someone, for instance our employers, we are unaware of their conventional
natures. Our employers are human beings, with feelings just as we have. They want
to be happy, not unhappy, and want to be liked and not disliked. They have lives
outside the office and these affect their moods. If we can relate to our employers
in human terms, while remaining mindful of our respective positions, we will have
less fear.
(5) Similarly, when we are afraid of snakes or insects, we are
also unaware that they are sentient beings, just like ourselves, and want to be
happy and not be unhappy. From a Buddhist point of view, we may be unaware of
them as the current manifestation of an individual mental continuum that does
not have an inherent identity as one species or another. We are unaware that they
could even have been our mothers in previous lives.
(6) When we are afraid
of failure or sickness, we are unaware of our conventional natures as limited
samsaric beings. We are not perfect and of course we will make mistakes and sometimes
fail or fall sick. "What do you expect from samsara?"
Feeling Safe
From a Buddhist perspective, to feel safe does not entail
" turning
to an omnipotent being who will protect us, since omnipotence is impossible;
"
even if a powerful being could help us in some way, needing to please that being
or make an offering or sacrifice in order to receive protection or help;
"
becoming omnipotent ourselves.
To feel safe, we need
1. to know what we
fear and to recognize the confusion and unawareness underlying it;
2. to have
a realistic idea of what it means to handle what we fear, especially in terms
of ridding ourselves of the underlying confusion;
3. to evaluate our abilities
to handle what we fear, both at the moment and in the long-run, without under
or overestimating ourselves, and accepting the present stage of our development;
4. to implement what we can do now - if we are doing it, rejoice; and if we
are not doing it, resolve to do it to the best of our present abilities and then
actually try to do it;
5. if we cannot handle it completely now, to know how
to develop to the point at which we can handle it completely;
6. to aim and
work for reaching that stage of development;
7. to feel that we are going in
a safe direction.
The above seven steps describe what Buddhism calls "taking
safe direction" (taking refuge). It is not a passive state, but an active
one of putting a safe direction in our lives - the direction of working, in a
realistic manner, on ridding ourselves of our fears. Consequently, we feel safe
and protected because we know that we are going in the positive and correct direction
in life that will enable us eventually to be rid of all problems and difficulties.
A
Realistic View of How to Handle Frightening Situations
We need to remember
"
Whatever happens to our loved ones or us is the ripening of a huge network of
individual karmic forces, as well as historical, social, and economic forces.
Accidents and other unwished for things will happen and we cannot protect our
loved ones from them, no matter how careful we may be and how much we advise them
to be careful. All we can do is try to give sound advice and wish them well.
"
To overcome accidents and fear, we need to gain nonconceptual cognition of voidness.
Remaining totally absorbed in voidness, however, is not like sticking our heads
in a hole in the ground. It is not running away from fear, but is a method for
eliminating the unawareness and confusion that cause our karma to ripen into unwished
for things and that cause us to have fear.
" In working with the nonconceptual
cognition of voidness to purify ourselves of our karma, we will still experience
accidents and fear all the way up to the stage of liberation from samsara (arhatship).
This is because the nature of samsara is that it goes up and down. Progress is
not linear; sometimes things go well and sometimes they do not.
" Even
once we attain liberation as an arhat, we will still experience accidents and
things that we do not want to happen. However, we will experience them without
pain or suffering and, because we are free from all disturbing emotions and attitudes,
without fear. It is only at the stage of arhatship that we can fully handle all
our fears in the deepest manner.
" Only when we reach enlightenment do
we no longer experience accidents or anything unwished for happening. Only a Buddha
is fearless in proclaiming
" his or her own realizations, of all good
qualities and skills,
" his or her own true stoppings of all obscurations
preventing liberation and enlightenment,
" the obscurations that others
need to rid themselves of to attain liberation and enlightenment,
" the
opponent forces that others need to rely upon to rid themselves of them.
Provisional
Methods for Dealing with Fear
1. Reaffirm going in a safe direction of life,
through the seven steps outlined above.
2. When facing a frightening situation,
such as a test for cancer, imagine the worst scene happening and imagine what
would happen then and how we would handle it. This helps to dispel the fear of
the unknown.
3. Before undertaking something, such as reaching the airport
on time to catch a plane, have several solutions prepared so that if one fails,
we are not left with the frightening scenario of having no other way to achieve
our goal.
4. As Shantideva taught, if there is a frightening situation and
we can do something about it, why worry, just do it. If there is nothing we can
do, then why worry, it won't help.
5. Since we will experience fear and unhappiness
all the way to liberation, we need to focus on our minds as being as deep and
vast as the ocean and, when fear or unhappiness arises, let it pass like a swell
on the ocean. The swell does not disturb the calm and quiet depths of the ocean.
6. If we have built up sufficient positive karmic force (merit) from our constructive
actions, we can be confident of continuing with a precious human body in future
lives. The best protection from fear is our own positive karma, although we need
to bear in mind that the nature of samsara is that it goes up and down.
7.
In the face of a frightening situation, we may commission or perform ourselves
a ritual requesting the aid of a Dharma-protector or a Buddha-figure such as Tara
or the Medicine Buddha. Such figures are not omnipotent beings who can save us.
We request and open ourselves to their enlightening influence ('phrin-las), so
that it may act as a circumstance to ripen the karmic forces from our previously
committed constructive actions that might not otherwise have ripened. A more secure
effect is for their enlightening influence to act as a circumstance to ripen into
trivial inconveniences the karmic forces from our previously committed destructive
actions that might otherwise have ripened into serious obstacles preventing success.
Thus, instead of being frightened of difficulties, we welcome them as "burning
off" negative karmic forces.
8. Reaffirm our Buddha-natures. We have the
basis levels of deep awareness to understand difficult and frightening situations
(mirror-like deep awareness), to recognize the patterns (equalizing deep awareness),
to appreciate the individuality of the situation (individualizing deep awareness),
and to know how to act (which may include realizing there is nothing we can do)
(accomplishing deep awareness). We also have the basis level of energy actually
to act.
9. Reaffirm that having Buddha-nature means that we have the basis
for all good qualities complete within us. In Western psychological terms, these
qualities may be conscious or unconscious (we may be mindful of them or not, and
they may be developed to different degrees). Often, we project the unconscious
qualities as a "shadow." Because the unconscious is the unknown, the
tension of being unaware of it manifests as fear of the unknown and thus fear
of our unknown unconscious qualities. Thus, we may identify with our conscious
intellectual side and ignore or deny our unknown, unconscious, emotional feeling
side. We may project the emotional feeling side as a shadow and be frightened
of others who are very emotional. We may be afraid of our own emotional side and
have anxiety about being out of touch with our feelings. If we identify with our
conscious emotional feeling side and deny our unconscious intellectual side, we
may project the intellectual side as a shadow and be intimidated by those who
are intellectual. We may be afraid to try to understand anything and feel anxiety
about being intellectually dull. Thus, we need to reaffirm both sides as complete
within us, as aspects of our Buddha-natures. We may visualize the two sides embracing
each other in the form of a couple, as in a tantra visualization, and feel that
we are the complete couple ourselves, not just one member of the pair.
10.
Reaffirm another aspect of our Buddha-natures, namely that the nature of the mind
is naturally free of all fears and so experiencing fear is merely a fleeting superficial
event.
11. Reaffirm yet another aspect of Buddha-nature, namely that we can
be inspired by others to have the courage to face frightening situations.
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Hurt
not others with that which pains yourself
Buddhism
ONENESS: Great Principles
Shared by All Religions
by Jeffrey Moses
360
million worldwide followers
By Tonia Shoumatoff Tonia is a Writer, Producer
and Media Specialist. She has served as a Communication Director for a range of
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Tonia lives in Wassaic, NY.
Email: toniashou@aol.com
"If
your mind and heart are filled with love and compassion for all sentient beings
you don't have time to indulge in selfish thought or feelings of depression. I
see this as the ultimate method for realizing no self. No-self makes one compassionate
toward others and compassion toward others negates self." - Evelyn Ruut,
Dharma Practitioner
"Are you a good Christian? Then you're a good Buddhist."
--Thich Nat Han
"Human life, lasting an instant, like a dream--it might
be happy, it might be sad. Not wishing for joy, not avoiding sadness, may I truly
practice the sublime teachings." ---His Holiness Dudjom Rinpoche
The word
for Buddhist in Tibetan is "nagpa" which means someone who looks inward.
All Buddhist practices help the individual to work with unraveling negative repetitive
patterns of behavior and thinking that causes difficulty and conflicts. Many people
think that Buddhism is depressing because it addresses the issues around suffering
and most people find it quite painful to look at the root causes of their mental
and physical malaise. But Buddhist thought presents practical advice for dealing
with the fundamental truths of our existence. By carefully looking at which attitudes
and behaviors bring more suffering into our lives, Buddhism presents helpful methods
for actually getting to the root of suffering and overcoming it. These techniques
are not austere but gradual and balanced so that the individual can eventually
achieve inner and outer harmony and can generate aspirations for the universal
well being for all that lives.
A Buddhist friend of mine, Evelyn Ruut, recently
responded to a question about whether Buddhism could offer any help in combating
depression: "There are a good many Buddhist practices that I know of which
seem to have a good effect on depression. I for one would recommend some of the
visualized practices such as that of Chenresig, or Avalokiteshvara, the Bodhisattva
of Compassion. Why Chenresig? Because, in particular, this practice removes the
focus from oneself. You are visualizing and sending out great compassionate love
and imagining that you are giving all living beings what they need. It is very
hard to remain self-focused and dwell upon your own miseries when you are seeing
to the happiness of all beings. This is a practiced, planned, specifically organized
time when you take the focus off yourself.
This practice contains a good many
other helpful things which can offset depression. First of all it is a purification,
in which you literally make yourself empty of all your negative characteristics,
everything that has depressed or stressed you, everything that makes you feel
bad about yourself, literally seeing it all pouring out, and leaving you transparent
like a rainbow. Just visualizing that helps you to forget that you are depressed.
Then
you see the bodhisattva sending you kindness and loving compassion and you acknowledge
it. Then after that, you, in turn, send that compassionate energy out to all living
beings, and imagine that everyone is sending out whatever everyone needs to everyone
else. It is actually a very wonderful mental exercise and what I am describing
here is only the smallest part of it.
Just think that somewhere there are tiny
babies who are hungry and wet, people who have no homes or food, animals who are
chained up in cages, people in horrible, inhumane prisons. There are those dying
in hospitals whose illnesses have no hope of cure. Victims of war who have lost
their families. As part of your visualization you can picture all of these beings
receiving food, shelter, healing, peace, whatever they need. You can be as specific
as you want; after all it is your mind and your practice.
The most important
thing is that at the end you dedicate any merit you may have gained from generating
this attitude to all living beings, and prays for this to continue to happen.
Also, for the rest of you day you envision that when people see or speak to you
they are speaking to the little bit of Chenresig that you carry in your heart.
When you are carrying that idea with you, you are also keeping that idea and the
memory of the attitudes you generated during the practice alive in your heart
and mind."
Buddhism is one of the world's major religions and was inspired
by the enlightenment experience of the son of a king, Siddhartha Gautama, who
lived on the border of Nepal and India from 557-477 BC At the age of 29, after
having been immersed in luxury throughout his life and prevented from seeing the
horrors of the real world by his overprotective father, he was devastated by seeing
the ravaging effects of sickness, poverty and death. He then renounced his princely
kingdom, became a wandering yogi and ascetic and dedicated his life to finding
a way to eliminate suffering.
After spending six years in extreme asceticism
he sat down under the famous Bodhi tree, conquered the maras (or human defilements
of ignorance, anger, lust, greed, jealousy, ignorance, etc.) and discovered the
"Middle Way," which found a place in the mind between extreme asceticism
and extreme self-indulgence. He developed techniques, which demonstrated to his
followers how to live a life of balance and compassion in the world.
There
are many schools of Buddhism but the three major branches are Hinayana, Mahayana
and Vajrayana. Hinayana, literally the narrow path, puts an emphasis on the enlightenment
and liberation of the individual through purification practices, meditation and
applying the original teachings of the Buddha. To this branch belong the practitioners
of the original Pali Canon, the teachings of the Buddha in its original language.
Most of the members of this school of Buddhism reside in Thailand, Ceylon and
Burma. This school puts an emphasis on following the original sutras or teaching
of the Buddha and slowly purifying one's body, speech and mind. Theravadin Buddhism
is part of this school, with an emphasis on monasticism. The individual or arhat
presents the inspiring example of one who attains liberation from birth and death
through his own personal efforts but is not necessarily imbued with the intention
to help liberate other brings through his realization.
The Mahayana or "wide
path" shifts the emphasis from personal liberation to the universal salvation
of "all sentient beings." Perhaps a better way of putting it is that
all beings already have Buddha nature and that it is just a question of shifting
their awareness to their intrinsic Buddhahood. At any rate, the Mahayana schools
gave birth to the concept of the Bodhisattva who declares his or her intention
to benefit all beings through his spiritual practice and eventual enlightenment.
By understanding that all beings have been one's mothers in a past life there
is an essential feeling of connection and unity of all that lives within the fabric
of life. Thus, the Bodhisattva realizes that if he attains Buddhahood for himself
alone it would be limited without extending it to everyone.
The third branch
of Buddhism, is Vajrayana, or the "Diamond Vehicle," which migrated
from India to China, Tibet and Japan, uses esoteric yogi practices to attain enlightenment
"in one lifetime." One Tibetan Buddhist teacher, Khenpo Karthar Rinpoche
abbot of the Woodstock, NY Karmatriyana Dharmachakra Tibetan Buddhist monastery,
said that the difference between the sutrayana (Hinayana) and the tantrayana traditions
are that in one you are trying remove the mud around a gem in order to be able
to reveal it and in the other you leave the mud there and just reach in and grab
the gem. Tantric practice entails visualizations of oneself as a deity who is
the embodiment of such enlightened qualities as compassion, wisdom, healing and
so on. By meditating on the deity, you come to understand yourself as being the
deity. You then understand the ultimate purity within yourself and that in fact
there are no defilements to be removed. In Tantrayana everything is transformed
into purpose, the outer realm is imagined as a pure heavenly realm, each being
is seen as a buddha, each sound is mantra and every object is seen as if emanating
the rainbow light of the sacred world. If you view all beings as being composed
of the constituent elements of Buddhahood then there is no need to develop anger
and you can develop effortless compassion.
These three paths or branches of
Buddhism are not to be regarded as different or "better" than each other,
they just represent varying interlocking levels or stages of development along
the path, all necessary for the evolution of Buddhist spiritual development. Inspite
of the many teachers, sects, and branches of Buddhism the ultimate emphasis in
all of them is on the capacity of the individual to be able to work with his or
her mind to achieve enlightenment. The Buddha said: "Be a lamp unto yourself"
and did not require his followers to have faith in him as some kind of savior.
Each
being is believed to have Buddhanature and the ability to attain nirvana or enlightenment
through spiritual practice. Even though the Buddha is definitely venerated through
art and images he is not worshipped as God or a Supreme Being but rather is seen
as one of three sources of "refuge" from the tribulations of life in
this world or samsara (the repetitive rounds of rebirth). The Buddha is understood
to have been a man who through his own efforts became fully "awake"
and was therefore able to guide others. The other two sources of refuge are the
dharma or the teachings that guide one along the path, and the sangha, or the
community of fellow Buddhist practitioners.
Another helpful tool for working
with the mind is meditation. One form of meditation is Shinay or calming the mind.
This is basically a meditation on the breath which allows the thoughts that arise
in the mind to be observed without interacting with them which causes the mind
to settle down so that the spaciousness or clarity of the mind can be experienced.
One teacher said Shinay meditation is like placing a muddy glass of water on a
table; eventually the silt settles to the bottom and the water becomes clear.
As
the practitioner goes deeper in working with the mind he can work with what arises
through Vipassana or Insight Meditation. When the practitioner starts to experience
the nature of impermanence-- an understanding that everything is constantly arising
and dissolving--the mind can start to soften and open rather than tighten and
grasp. One starts to understand, as Jack Kornfeld says: "The thought of a
friend is not the friend: it is a thought. How many life scenarios have we created,
directed, and starred in and, for those moments, taken to be the experience itself?
We
also may get carried away by the intense energy of our emotions, swept up in a
typhoon of the mind and body. To be lost in emotions is to not be mindful of their
energy; and when there is a strong identified involvement with them there is no
space in the mind for seeing clearly what is happening."
As wisdom starts
to replace suffering in the practitioner's life, compassion for others starts
to arise and one desires to help others to be liberated from their suffering.
Unless our hearts are open to feeling our own pain then we cannot be open to the
suffering of others. As compassion becomes a sincere response the Buddhist can
then start integrating spiritual practice and everyday life embarking upon paths
that are of service to others. As patience, kindness, sensitivity, generosity,
courage, integrity and perseverance arise then the practitioner can start truly
being of benefit to others. When those who practice Buddhism start to let go of
their egos and stop imposing their own personal agendas on the world they start
to realize the true interdependency of all beings which allows an essential healing
relationship with others and the very Earth itself to take place.
Many think
that Buddhism is depressing because of the emphasis that it puts on suffering,
but realistically acknowledging our suffering is the first step toward finding
a way out of our tendency to cling to the false materialistic hopes and dreams
propounded by our society that ultimately are ephemeral and leave us feeling disappointed,
empty and unfulfilled.
The Four Noble Truths state the Buddha's understanding
of our human situation:
1. Our existence is by its very nature filled with
unhappiness; disease, decay, death and separation from what is desired causing
continual pain and suffering (dukha).
2. This suffering is caused by selfish
craving. The blind demandingness of our nature leads us to act in ways that cause
suffering.
3. This craving or demandingness can be gotten rid of.
4. The
way to bet rid of these cravings is to understand the nature of the mind and to
practice dharma or "the true path" whose stages include: right view,
right aspiration, right speech, right conduct, right mode of livelihood, right
effort, right mindfulness and right concentration.
What the Buddha was telling
the world here was that the mere fact of being born restricts us to finite conditions
that cause problems and suffering. We only have to look at the news to be aware
of the immensely painful events in the lives of those around us and to understand
the misery that pervades existence. But the Buddha said that rather than be overwhelmed
by our continual problems and often self-created suffering that we need to recognize
the source of our sufferings: dualistic mind which causes us to cling to a false
sense of separate self. This mind gives in to the delusion of self-interest, putting
a priority of self over others and gives rise to the six "poisons";
ignorance, anger, attachment, greed, jealousy and pride which cause beings to
become lost in the ocean of repeated rebirths into what is called "samsara."
But
the good news is that every being also has the innate potential for Buddhahood
or "basic goodness", and can achieve liberation from samsara. The process
of achieving this liberation entails clearing away the obscurations of the mind
and recognizing the absolute and omniscient nature of the mind which is beyond
any concept of self or other. We can eliminate the capricious promptings of our
minds by gradually reorganizing our lives along the lines of the eight-fold path,
which re-orients the mind. The eight-fold path helps us understand the problem
of life, accept a purpose or goal toward which we are working, and builds upon
that by reinforcing moral conduct, careful use of words, ethically correct livelihood,
spiritual practice, consciousness of ourselves and others and ultimately enables
one to experience a sense of inner peace which emanates from the awareness of
the oneness of all beings.
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Integration
with the Soul
The EDGE Interview
with H.H. Tulku Buddha Maitreya Rinpoche
by Douglas Crandall
His Holiness
Tulku Buddha Maitreya Rinpoche was discovered and recognized beginning in 1984
by a series of Tibetan spiritual leaders as a Tulku, or a child born in perfection,
divinely awakened and a living saint.
In 1998, His Holiness was enthroned in a formal recognition ceremony in Kathmandu, Nepal, as Maitreya, the Buddha of this age, by Ven. Khenpo Khyenrab Gyatso. In November 2000, he was enthroned at the Dema Monastery in Kham Tibet, recognized as the Western-born reincarnation of the founder of Tibetan Buddhism, Padmasambhava Guru Rinpoche, by the Buddhist Master His Holiness Dema Choktrul Rinpoche.
H.H. Tulku Buddha Maitreya Rinpoche has been identified and acknowledged by multiple leaders of Tibetan Buddhism as the reincarnation of Gautama Buddha, Tsong Khapa, Atisha, Jesus the Christ "St Issa" and the Western-born Buddha Maitreya, the Living Buddha. The focus of His Holiness' work in the West is fundraising to support the Living Masters of Loving Wisdom in the East to ensure their well-being and healthy living. His projects include building, restoring and supporting monasteries wordwide.
The Edge spoke with H.H. Buddha Maitreya Rinpoche by phone on the topic of our soul and how we might better connect with it.
It seems like more
and more people have a sense that something is lacking in their lives, and they
seem to be searching for a more definitive sense of self and purpose. It all comes
down to the age old questions, Who Am I and What am I doing here. How do we re-establish
a connection and loving relationship with ourselves, with the innermost part of
who we are?
His Holiness: I think most of it has to do with reality, that there's
a lot of ability in people to be a little bit more psychic than they think. That
they have a certain psychic energy that is more aligned to fear, and the way that
they see life in a distrusting way. Or how they may trust the government, or how
they may trust a relationship. That comes from a lot of competition and other
things.
The process of humanity and our education and developing human rights and developing a little bit more ability to begin trusting people more and more than we ever did before is beginning to awaken people to a place to where they want to know more. Their heart is opening up more than what's known as the solar plexus or the energy of lower psychic energy -- or just negative thought forms and negative behavior.
It also includes wanting spiritual awakening within, and being able to sense that we're actually on the right path, doing the things we should be doing or able to actually express the virtues of love and receive love from other people. There's a shift that is waking people up just in the natural evolutionary course of things.
The best way to actually bring that about is to try and clean up what might be left over in a person's life that's actually holding a person down negatively. If a person cleans up negative connections, lets go of certain things in their life and allows it to grow a little bit more, that enhances a lot of the ability for that lower nature, that fear, that distrust to kind of be healed, to go away. Does that make sense?
Yes, it does.
His
Holiness: So there's a lot to that, as far as just cleaning up your environment,
cleaning up your relationships. The other thing is beginning to add meditation
to a person's life. If you want to get to know yourself, the best way is to relax
the mind and the emotions, and just take some time to get to know yourself through
meditation.
Every time a person meditates, they need to focus on breathing as a beginning step. Breathe deeply down into the stomach and realize that the breath needs to go that far down and not just into the lungs. Then breathe out slowly so the breath has a complete release. When a person does that, they're actually opening up energy of the lower body and releasing it out the upper body, which is an old yogi technique of purifying doubt and negativity. It's always beneficial to meditate, and breathe and learn how to breathe correctly when you're meditating.
Why
are people disconnected? And why have they chosen to be disconnected?
His Holiness:
I think the biggest problem with the inability for people to relate properly is
based on little innuendoes about the differences between men and women. Even today
there are books that say men are from mars and women are from Venus. It's separative.
There are cognitive ways of thinking that really are not true, but are based on
just a general perception. And we grow up with other innuendos in relationships,
that women are sugar and spice and everything nice, and boys are puppy dog tails
and all the negative things.
There are implications about women having more compassion toward children, and if you talk about children, you talk about women; you don't necessarily apply a relationship to children and men. Those connotations have moved through humanity and into society and still exist, and it is a form of prejudice. And when you have a prejudice like that going on, even unconsciously, it makes it hard on a psychic level to experience an intuitive level of loving and draw people to you that complement you.
So we need to be much more aware of the things that we listen to and that we agree with. If you go into a mall and go to look for clothes for a man, you'll find them in one small little section, but if you want to find women's clothes, you'll find an enormous selection. That's because there's an emphasis on the illusion that women are much more interested in having all these fine things. But I know a lot of men who would love to have a lot more variety.
It seems like
it's marketed that way purposely to continue encouraging women to think they are
the ones who shop all the time.
His Holiness: That's right, it's an innuendo,
and it is insinuating that men are this way. But we're not. Men are no less compassionate
than women, they're no less sensitive than a woman, they have no less desire to
communicate than a woman. But there are psychic underlying processes that tell
men and women that they are not like the opposite sex, and those ideas hit the
movies, the TV and became a part of the cultural understanding of how things are.
You find that same thing in caste systems in India. Propaganda is run to control
cultures that actually create separation in order to have a control over the relationships
of the people.
You mentioned earlier
that we need to trust more in certain things. How can do that when we seem to
be inundated with distrustful messages. How can a person who is not used to meditating
and trusting the silence, learn to trust it? And to trust that inner voice as
opposed to trusting the voices from outside ourselves?
His Holiness: It is
difficult. That's one of the reason's I offer tools for meditation, like an etheric
weaver, or pyramid or magnetic mat. These tools are amplified by the blessings
of Tibetan monks. When a person works with these tools and begins to meditate,
it actually helps to connect them in to a place of meditation that is very difficult
to do on their own when they're still connected at that lower psychic level, where
there's negativity and their mind is wandering and all those different types of
habits are still going through their body. By having this connection, it actually
releases that connection and inspires the person in a telepathic way to meditate
in a very high way, spontaneously.
So
in a sense, they wouldn't even be aware that they are letting go of those habits,
but they would be letting go of them?
His Holiness: That's right. Because it's
all happening so spontaneously that it just begins to integrate. Because of the
level of meditation they go into so quickly, they begin sensing and feeling the
healing process, like electricity and warmth and all kinds of physical things
that they feel. And they experience more emotional and mental spiritual clarity
during the process of meditation. Normally, it would take years to attain such
a meditative experience.
With the
hustle and bustle of everyday life, how can a person maintain the connection with
soul?
His Holiness: I'd suggest taking refuge by going out into the forest
every once in a while. Get away from city life, go off to the park, or go to the
ocean. Make an environmental stress-free space in your own home that adds to more
spiritual relaxation using different types of buddhas or whatever thing you want
to put around to make it much more spiritual, much more awakening, much more healing.
Add those things into the cycle of your mind, so that you get out and go for a bike ride in the mountains, or you get out and release your stress -- not just every once in a while on vacation, but at least every couple of days.
Then add meditation to that, as much as you can. Every time you eat, meditate. Every time you have a break to do anything, just sit there and take those deep breaths, learn how to do that more often and it'll happen so quickly and spontaneously you'll gain benefits from just being a practitioner of the meditative skills.
As
humans and souls, Who are We?
His Holiness: There's a great big leap between
the animal and the human being, and that's plagued man for quite a long time.
Ever since we started developing with science and started having the mind to wonder
about such a thing.
My belief system is that the human being is something that has jumped from a link of spiritual evolution, say the aboriginal man or the Neanderthal, where the mind was not so developed, senses were not developed, the ability of emotional control was not developed. At a certain point of time, once that development began to develop, a certain psychic level of development leaped forward into creating the next level of man, the next level of human beings. From that point on, we've been building monasteries, induced religions and ceremonies, and evolving very quickly.
And now here we are. Now we're at the point where those sensory abilities are actually integrating the personality of more intelligent, emotionally stable human being that can create the technologies and advance the world, and help with medicine and understand religion to a less fanatical point to where we're actually going to leap into another evolutionary jump that gives humanity longer lives and much more attuned realities of the next level of human nature.
And
we're on that road right now?
His Holiness: Right now we're in that period
of integrating science, technologies and spirituality. A leap of reality is going
to take place where metaphysical, spiritual and different miraculous events will
take place due to a leap of faith. There will be an evolutionary jump in our DNA
and our make-up as a whole.
So in
a sense, the act of searching for who we are in itself is impelling us to find
the answers?
His Holiness: That's right. By searching for who we are, we find
out things that we don't like about "that" person, the one we don't
really want to be, and we begin to be the person that we really are -- the person
that we really are in our own true virtues. And as that develops, so too do we
begin to integrate a higher quality of soul rather than the lesser quality of
personality. It's an automatic integration of transforming personality into soul.
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Is meditation enough?
WE ALL HAVE PRECONCEPTIONS, we all have points of view. Not only do we have ideas but we have opinions and countless judgments, especially about other people. We may hope to free ourselves from such a tangle, but usually what we find is that we just exchange one set of preconceptions for another.
The practice of mindfulness-awareness meditation does not take place in a vacuum. It happens within a certain context and point of view. In the Buddhist tradition, meditation is often presented in the context of view, meditation, and action. View is like the eyes, which provide vision and perspective; meditation is like the mind, with its openness and clarity; and action is like the limbs that enable us to move about in the world. Each of these three is essential, as a system of checks and balances. So we cultivate all three of them together in order to overcome the prejudice and narrow-mindedness of our visions, the restlessness of our minds, and the ineffectiveness of our actions.
IF WE DO NOT understand the view, the practice of meditation can be more of a trap than a means of freeing ourselves from deception. Without an understanding of non-theism and the motivation to benefit others, meditation practice can degenerate into self-absorption and escapism. Rather than loosening our ego-clinging, it may further perpetuate our ignorance and grasping. Rather than connecting us to our world, it may draw us away from it. Meditation practice can even be a tool of aggression, a way of clearing the mind before going out to commit our next murder. Meditation in and of itself is no magical cure-all. Proper understanding and proper motivation are important. The view informs the practice.
Likewise, meditation balances view. Meditation practice is a way of loosening our solidity. Without practice, even the most inspired view can become rigid ideology. The practice of meditation brings out the futility and limitations of holding any rigid view. We see the nature of our attachment to particular viewpoints, and the simplicity of letting such views dissolve. The irony is that the proper motivation and view are essential-and at the same time, it is also essential not to grasp any view.
Action, the third component, is a balance to both view and meditation. Meditation does not matter that much if it has no effect on the rest of our lives. Likewise, we could be filled with empty words that do not lead to any change whatsoever in our lives or our relationships with others. We need to act on our understanding and our awareness.
Action, like view and meditation, does not stand alone. Action without clarity of view is blundering and apt to cause more harm than good. And action without meditation tends to be speedy and complex, rather than spacious and simple. But if these three factors are in balance, clarity of view and meditative awareness permeate all our activities.
In the Buddhist path we are bringing together our actions, our view, and our practice. It is a balance of awareness, insight, and action, working harmoniously together. In that way our energy is no longer divided or scattered, and we are fully present in whatever we do. That is what it means to be a genuine human being.
In Buddhism, the point is not simply to be accomplished meditators but to change our whole approach to life. Meditation is not merely a useful technique or mental gymnastic; it is part of a balanced system designed to change the way we go about things at the most fundamental level. In this context, it is a way of exposing and uprooting the core problems of grasping and ego-clinging that separate us from one another and cause endless pain.
Within the Buddhist tradition there are many varieties of meditation and many differences of opinion as to what meditation is all about. Wherever it occurs, it is colored by one set of preconceptions or another. Nowadays, people pluck techniques such as meditation from their traditional contexts, mix and match practices from very different traditions, and apply them in new settings. Meditation practice is often presented in a secular way, free of religious trappings and increasingly separated from any spiritual dimension. In the United States, this tends to place it in the general category of self-help techniques. As a result, meditation has been demystified for many people, who see it as one aspect of a healthy lifestyle, like working out or eating healthy food.
Meditation is used as therapy, to calm people down, as healing to lower blood pressure, for instance, or deal with pain, and even as a way to get ahead in business, or win at sports. It is gradually becoming part of the mainstream. This is not unlike what has happened to the practice of yoga, once viewed as a sophisticated system of spiritual training, and now offered regularly as a class at neighborhood health clubs. The technique may be there, but without heart. There is a danger that the practice of meditation could be similarly reduced. The very technique designed to undermine the power of ego-fixation could become another feather in our ego-cap. But if we keep in mind the broader context of view, meditation, and action, we are constantly challenged to look at what we are doing and why. By doing so, we discover that there are no limitations to our practice apart from those that we ourselves impose.
Judy Lief is a senior student of the late Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, who authorized her as a teacher in the Buddhist and Shambhala traditions. She has edited many of Trungpa Rinpoche's books, and is the author of Making Friends with Death.
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Joyful
Aspiration
Sweet Melody for
Fortunate Ones
By the 17th Gyalwa Karmapa, Ugyen Trinley Dorje
Om
Swasti. The right-turning conch of pure compassion in body, speech, and mind
Pours
forth a stream of good intentions that never change.
Thereby, may a sweet,
resonant melody beyond compare, such music for the ears,
Open the lotus petals
of virtue, excellence, and goodness.
It has the supreme name of the Wish Fulfilling
Tree, the ambrosial one.
Musical tones of this stainless tree, granting every
wish, are dulcet and pleasing.
Throughout its branches the gems of lasting
happiness nestle among their leaves.
Sovereign in our realm, may the world
be resplendent with the beauty of this tree.
Aspiration for Tibet
A chain
of fragrant flowers, these snow mountains are tranquil and fresh.
In a healing
land where white incense rises sweet,
May the gracious beauty of luminous moonbeams,
light of the spiritual and temporal world,
Conquer all strife, the darkness
of the shadow side.
Aspiration for the Dalai Lama
Inspiring festivals
of merit in the Land of Snow,
You are the Supreme One holding a pure white
lotus.
With the beauty of all good qualities, a treasure for eyes to behold,
May
your life be long, steadfast as a diamond vajra
Aspiration for Culture and
Knowledge
The most excellent virtue is the brilliant and calm flow of culture:
Those
with fine minds play in a clear lotus lake;
Through this excellent path, a
song line sweet like the pollen's honey,
May they sip the fragrant dew of glorious
knowledge.
Aspiration for the World
Over the expanse of the treasured
earth in this wide world,
May benefit for beings appear like infinite moons'
reflections,
Whose refreshing presence brings lasting welfare and happiness
To
open a lovely array of night-blooming lilies, sighs of peace and joy.
Conclusion
Descending from a canopy of white clouds, the gathering of two accumulations,
May
these true words, like pearled drops of light or pouring rain,
Falling in a
lovely park where fortunate disciples are free of bias,
Open the flowers of
friendship so that well-being and joy blossom forth.
These words of aspiration,
sprung from a sincere intention, were written down by Ugyen Trinley, the one who
bears the noble name of the Karmapa, while he was escaping from Tibet. One night
in the illusory appearance of a dream, on a lake bathed in clear moonlight and
rippled with blooming lotus flowers serving as a seat for three Brahmins who appeared
wearing pure white silk and playing a drum, guitar, flute and other instruments.
Created in pleasing and lyric tones, their melodious song came to my ears, and
so I composed this aspiration prayer with a one-pointed mind, filled with an intense
and sincere intention to benefit all the people of Tibet. Within a beautiful and
auspicious chain of mountains, this land of Tibet, may the sun rays of the supreme
aspiration for awakening swiftly appear.
This song and the yig chung that
follow it were written by the 17th Karmapa, Ugyen Trinley Dorje. Translated under
the guidance of Khenchen Thrangu Rinpoche by Michele Martin, © 2000; headings
inserted based on commentary of Khenchen Thrangu Rinpoche.
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Karma
cup
Sydney Morning Herald
18/04/00
It
wasn't until she was in her late 30s that Sherry Marshall met a
Tibetan lama.
She wasn't looking for a guru, or for a spiritual path.
But the night she went
to a Balmain dinner party and met His Holiness
Gyalwang Drukpa, one of the
great teachers of the Tibetan lineage, the
effect was electric.
"I'd
never met anybody who so absolutely embodied what they were talking
about,"
Marshall recalls.
"Love
and compassion was just beaming out of him. I couldn't take my
eyes off him
all night."
She
admits, in retrospect, that it was odd that she'd never read
anything about
Tibetan Buddhism and its compassion and compelling
philosophy of cause and
effect (karma) training the mind. She was only
vaguely aware of the Dalai Lama,
and had never heard about the healing
and inner transformation that are almost
natural byproducts of a
Buddhist's practice.
Marshall
is, after all, a psychotherapist, and had spent 15 years
working with people
with emotional wounds and families crying out for
connection.
"I'm
not a religious person, and when a lot of people said to me,
'Sherry, why have
you got involved with Tibetan Buddhism?' the only
answer I could give them
was that when you've met someone - an actual,
living person - who is so pure
and radiates such love, it is impossible
to turn away."
You
don't have to meet a lama or even be interested in Buddhism to
appreciate the
tremendous appeal of its philosophy, especially in the
West.
In
a culture which so admires the man who pushes his way to the top, and
in which
materialism and neuroticism are so prevalent, the quiet credos
of Tibetan Buddhism
have been a clarion call to millions of Westerners.
Just under 2 per cent of
the Australian population are Buddhists,
according to the Australian Bureau
of Statistics, but there is little
doubt the values and culture of Tibetan
Buddhism are capturing
imaginations in the Western world.
Dzongsar
Khyentse Rinpoche's filmmaking debut, The Cup - (he is also a
revered lama)
- which follows the trials of a novice monk who is crazy
about soccer, follows
a recent flowering of Buddhist-inspired films,
such as Seven Years in Tibet,
The Little Buddha and Kundun.
In
January Hazel Hawke and her daughter Sue attended a weekend retreat
on the
Central Coast with Sogyal Rinpoche, the Buddhist meditation
master who wrote
the spiritual bestseller, The Tibetan Book of Living
and Dying.
Part
of the philosophy's appeal is probably that it is led by the Dalai
Lama, who
almost everyone in the world - apart perhaps from the Chinese
Government -
would recognise as about as fine an example you can get of
what a human being
can be like.
The
fact that you don't have to give yourself over to a deity but rather
use processes
such as meditation to undertake inner transformation also
holds great appeal
in the West.
Ross
Mackay is a very busy man. He's a dentist with two practices, and
confesses
to being "pretty much an Australian male" in the sense that
he's
usually uncomfortable expressing his feelings. Ask him about
Tibetan Buddhism,
though and he'll tell you about some extraordinary
events that have occurred
in his life as matter-of-factly as if he were
describing a new filling technique.
Such as the time he was out jogging
in Centennial Park and saw 1,000 Buddhas
in front of him.
"I
was doing a practice where you visualise your teacher. I called out
to Rinpoche,
asking, 'Please, tell me what to do', and he came to me in
a profound vision,"
he said.
"I
was running and running, and then suddenly I wasn't there in the park
anymore.
In front of me was Rinpoche and all these other great teachers
of Tibet with
a golden light around them. I was asking him this burning
question. I really
wanted to know the answer, but Rinpoche just looked
at me, a big smile on his
face, and he said, 'It's not so serious.
Loosen up.' Something just clicked
in me. It's true - I was making it
out to be life and death, and I'd blown
it out of all proportion."
It's
this aspect of being a Buddhist - opening your heart to a teacher,
as Mackay
did - that is so often misinterpreted as giving yourself over
to a guru, he
said. The teacher is merely a representation of the Buddha
nature in us all.
"The
term 'devotion' can press buttons in people, particularly if you've
been brought
up a Christian," Mackay said. "There is a fear of a loss of
self,
a loss of identity ... almost intelligence. The word devotion
connotes something
mind numbing, or dumb. You picture people prostrating
in front of their teachers.
"That
vision that came to me in Centennial Park was not what being a
Buddhist is
all about. To me, it was just a signpost that I was on the
right path. All
I can say is there is a power there, an energy."
Mal
Watson, the co-producer of the film and one of Dzongsar Rinpoche's
students,
says one of the greatest misconceptions about Buddhism is that
meditation acts
as a "placebo" by inducing states of bliss, or rapture.
Although
being blissed out is part of regular practice, the Buddhist
philosophy doesn't
mean you can "hide out" emotionally. Sitting down on
your meditation
cushion every morning usually results in practitioners
confronting the aspects
of themselves that they most dislike. "A lot of
people thought once I
got into Buddhism I should become a 'good person',
but it doesn't work that
way. Often you become worse because you are
unravelling your psyche, and you
start to see some of its ugly
tentacles," Watson said.
One
of the ways Buddhist teachers work with people is to tease them,
Watson said.
Emotions inevitably rise.
"If
you have an animal you want to catch and it lives in a comfortable
hole in
the ground, what do you do? You have to get it to stick up its
head if you
want to catch it. To get your ego to come out of its hiding
place, you have
to tease it," he said.
"Then, if you are stable enough, you can put it to the death."
Understandably,
facing the aspects of behaviour that limit you can be
painful. "But that's
what you find a teacher for," Watson said. "It's
like going to a
dentist and asking to have a tooth extracted without
feeling any pain. Having
your ego extracted is the same. You only get to
feel compassion for others
when you understand your own psyche."
His
dedication to such a philosophy was born during his first meditation
retreat
in northern NSW with Sogyal Rinpoche.
Rinpoche
had been teaching solidly for five hours, mainly about
emptiness, when he felt
the Earth spin on its axis.
"Rinpoche
had been teaching about emptiness for days and days, but my
mind was in a fog.
Then suddenly I had this image of being in a long
corridor with a whole series
of doors, and there was a cool, clear
breeze flowing right through my mind.
It was like all the dullness of my
ordinary mind evaporated and was replaced
by something spacious and ...
well, it blew my socks off," he says.
One
of the delights of The Cup is the way audiences get a voyeuristic
peep into
the everyday lives of a group of young Tibetan monks. Tibetan
Buddhists are
renowned for their light-heartedness. Here in the West, it
is this "everyday
magic" as some people call it - the humorous way
Buddhism can be entwined
in everyday life - which is so appealing
Many
who spoke to Marshall in her book, Devotion, Following Tibetan
Masters, were
keen to describe how Buddhism can transform humdrum
moments into something
deeper - even driving through the city's gridlock
of traffic. Instead of blowing
his horn and turning into a road nazi
when someone tried to run him off the
road, for example, Rod Lee, a
former marketing executive and now stress management
teacher, explained
how he realised that the man didn't really want to kill
him.
"He just
made a mistake," Lee said in the book. "Instead of driving up
to
him and shaking my fist angrily, I let the situation go. A kilometre
further
on, we pulled up alongside each other at some lights. I just
looked across
and he turned his head and waved his hand. From that act
of non-aggression
came an act of compassion."
Marshall's
first life-changing meeting with a lama led to a lifelong
passion, which saw
her later making a pilgrimage to a monastery in the
Himalayas. "I was
so nervous."
As
she made her first steps up the mountain, monks in red robes came
running towards
her. "It was wonderful. There I was in my jeans and
anorak, and all my
doubts and scepticism, and they took care of me in
every way. I remember thinking,
'Here I am, in a monastery, in Tibet,
and I feel completely at home.'"
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Living
and Dying:
A Buddhist Perspective
by Carol S. Hyman
Recently I had the chance to put 25 years of Buddhist
study and
practice to the test. After driving to Boston to attend the funeral
of a friend, a dear man who died in the prime of life, I flew on to California
because my mother was dying.
Regular contemplation of death is part of Buddhist
training. Various schools of Buddhism take different approaches based on the Buddha's
insights, among which one of the most fundamental is that existence is marked
by impermanence: everything put together sooner or later comes apart, including
our precious lives.
The word buddha means awakened one. One of the things
the Buddha woke up to was the fact that most of us spend our lives trying to avoid
reality--especially the grittier aspects of it such as sickness, old age and death-or
manipulate it to get what we think we want, which often doesn't bring us the satisfaction
we had hoped for anyway. The Buddha also woke up to his true nature, which is
the same as that of every human being-open, compassionate, intelligent, self-existing
energy-and saw that our sense of being separate from the world is an illusion.
Having seen all this, the Buddha taught a technique, a tool for uncovering our
basic nature, exploring experience and facing our lives. This tool is mindfulness/awareness
meditation, and with it we can make a direct connection with the facts of life,
including death.
Meditation is a practice in how to let go, first of our thoughts,
emotions and opinions; later, as we settle down and are able to be simply present,
we let go of each moment, constantly moving into the next. Paradoxically, such
relaxation, rather than spacing us out, brings us more directly in contact with
what actually is, which might be called nowness or being awake in the eternal
present. For this reason, the symbol for meditation is an endless knot, also called
the knot of eternity. Training in such a way is, in effect, training for the ultimate
surrender human beings encounter, letting go of this body at the time of death.
My mother, having been raised a Southern Baptist, would certainly not have
called herself a Buddhist. But she had to face her mortality more often than most
of us ever will. Three heart attacks, two coronary by- pass operations, breast
cancer, diabetes: these were some of the physical challenges she met with courage
and grace. She also had, as a friend of mine put it in a eulogy poem about her,
"the strength to raise three willful girls." This willful one, having
given her a world of trouble, was delighted when she told me, after I had been
practicing meditation for a number of years, that Buddhism seemed to be good for
me. Could I recommend something she might read about it?
Wanting something
that made Buddhist teachings seem applicable to life in America and not just some
exotic foreign philosophy or religion, I suggested several books by Chogyam Trungpa,
Rinpoche, my teacher and the founder of Karme-Choling in Barnet. My mother read
them, incorporated from them what made sense to her, and even did some meditation
practice. In the end, she taught me more about letting go than I ever taught her.
When we die, according to Buddhist doctrine, the energy of our being continues,
going into an intermediate state before reincarnating. If, during life, we have
remained completely self-absorbed, caught up in our beliefs, concepts and habitual
patterns, then according to the laws of cause and effect, or karma, we will be
swept into a rebirth based on our karmic momentum.
But if we have learned
to rest in nowness and have realized our true nature, which is awake, then what
continues is awareness, and we have some choice about what happens. Just as, when
meditating, one can experience the continuity of discontinuity, or impermanence,
directly, so it is possible, if one is aware and present at the moment of death,
to understand what is happening, to rest in that basic nature which is not different
from that of the universe and thus short-circuit the karmic cycle. However, as
Trungpa Rinpoche said in a 1972 seminar in Barnet, "The basic impact of the
experience is the same whether you believe in reincarnation or not: it is the
discontinuity of what you are doing." Life as we know it stops.
The Buddha's
final instruction to his followers before he died was that they should diligently
work out their own liberation. In the 2500 years since then, Buddhists have sought
to follow that advice in ways as diverse as the cultures into which Buddhism has
spread, such as India, China, Japan, Tibet, and Southeast Asia. Now these ancient
teachings, transplanted again, flourish in the Northeast Kingdom; it was these
teachings that I found myself remembering as I flew west.
It is hard to let
go of what we love. It is hard to live with uncertainty.
Yet we have no real
choice if we are to face reality, for we will inevitably let go of all that we
love, including our bodies, and the time when that will happen is uncertain. Whether
my mother believed in heaven or reincarnation, I do not know. What I do know is
that she recognized what was happening to her and she was ready for it. Talking,
on the day before she died, to my sister whose five month old baby was the joy
of her last days, my mother said, "I kind of hoped we'd have a little more
time, but I guess we just get greedy."
If we learn to let go into uncertainty,
to trust that our basic nature and that of the world are not different, then the
fact that things are not solid and fixed becomes, rather than a threat, a liberating
opportunity. Then we are free to savor what life offers, to taste the texture
of each moment fully, whether the moment is one of sadness or joy. There is a
story of an awakened person who, chased off a cliff by a ravenous tiger, saved
himself from immediately falling by clutching on to a cherry tree that had taken
root on the side of the rocky precipice. Realizing the hopelessness of his situation,
he picked a cherry and tasted it. "How sweet," he said, before he fell.
You weren't greedy, Mom. You just had an appetite for the sweetness life offers.
And as I sat with my sisters around your chair in your living room watching you
while your generous heart finally gave up beating, as we encouraged you to let
go of your ravaged body and assured you we would all be fine, I found myself savoring
the sweetness of that situation. It was then that I was grateful for my Buddhist
training.
Text copyright © 1999 Carol S. Hyman
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Medicine
Buddha, Healer of Outer and Inner Sickness
Medicine Buddha is a fully enlightened being. To understand who he is, what
his nature is, what his function is, and so on, we first need to understand what
an enlightened being is. Generally, 'being' means any being who experiences feelings
- pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. Thus we are beings, and animals are beings;
but houses and plants are not beings because they do not experience any feelings.
There are two types of being: sentient beings and enlightened beings. A sentient
being, or living being, is a being whose mind is afflicted by the darkness of
ignorance. An enlightened being is a being who is completely free from the darkness
of ignorance.
Just as sentient beings have many different aspects, so do enlightened
beings. Enlightened beings emanate countless different forms for the benefit of
living beings. Sometimes they appear as Deities, sometimes as humans, sometimes
as non-humans. Sometimes they appear as Buddhist Teachers, sometimes non-Buddhist
Teachers, sometimes as crazy people or evil people, and sometimes even as inanimate
objects. Emanations of enlightened beings pervade the whole world, but because
our mind is covered by ignorance we do not recognize them. We cannot say who or
what is an emanation of a Buddha.
Medicine Buddha is an enlightened being
who has unbiased compassion for all living beings. He protects living beings from
physical and mental sickness and other dangers and obstacles, and helps them to
eradicate the three poisons - attachment, hatred, and ignorance - which are the
source of all sickness and danger. He is a Buddha Doctor.
At one time Buddha
Shakyamuni was staying at a place called Vaishali with thirty-six thousand Bodhisattva
disciples. At that time, Manjushri was appearing as a Bodhisattva disciple. Through
his compassion, Manjushri realized that in the future the Buddhadharma would degenerate,
and the beings of this world would find it very difficult to practise pure Dharma
and gain pure realizations. He understood that it would be very difficult for
those beings to control their minds, and so they would naturally engage in negative
actions such as killing, stealing, and holding wrong views. As a result they would
experience horrific illnesses and unbearable mental pain. The world would be full
of problems, dangers, and adversity. Finding the thought of all this suffering
impossible to bear, Manjushri asked Buddha:
In the future when your Dharma
and general spiritual practice are in decline, when the human beings in this world
are spiritually impoverished, when their attachment, anger, and ignorance are
so strong and difficult to control that they experience continual physical suffering,
mental pain, fears, and dangers, and especially many incurable diseases, who will
release them from this suffering and protect them from danger? Who will help them
to overcome the three mental poisons?
In response to Bodhisattva Manjushri's
question, Buddha expounded the Sutra of Eight Thousand Verses Principally Revealing
the Instructions on Medicine Buddha. Many beings heard this teaching. In addition
to the thirty-six thousand human Bodhisattva disciples, millions of other Bodhisattva
disciples came from many Pure Lands, together with beings from other realms such
as nagas and givers-of-harm, or yakshas. To this vast assembly of disciples Buddha
explained all about Medicine Buddha - his special qualities, his Pure Land, and
how in the future by relying upon this Buddha and just hearing his name, living
beings could be cured of heavy mental and physical sickness, especially the sickness
of delusions. He also explained how to make a connection with this Buddha, the
benefits of relying upon him, and how to practise the Medicine Buddha instructions.
While Buddha was giving this teaching, Manjushri realized with his clairvoyance
of knowing others' minds that some of the humans and gods in the audience were
developing doubts, finding it difficult to believe the Buddha's explanation about
the existence of Medicine Buddha. Therefore, again he rose from his seat, respectfully
circumambulated Buddha three times, made three prostrations, and then with his
left knee on the ground according to tradition, requested Buddha:
To remove
doubts from the minds of disciples, please show clearly how this Buddha exists,
where he exists, and what his good qualities are.
Buddha immediately entered
into an absorption of concentration, and from his heart emanated light rays inviting
the seven Medicine Buddhas to Vaishali so that everyone could see them. Medicine
Buddha came with his two main disciples, Radiance of the Sun and Radiance of the
Moon, as well as a vast retinue of thousands of other disciples. The other six
Medicine Buddhas also came with their retinues. Everyone could see the seven Medicine
Buddhas with their retinues directly, and their doubts were immediately dispelled.
Buddha introduced each of the Buddhas, saying for example "This Buddha is
Medicine Buddha. He comes from the eastern Pure Land called Lapis Jewel Land.
This Buddha Land is the nature of wisdom with the aspect of lapis lazuli. The
entire ground of that Pure Land is illuminated by this Buddha's light," and
so on.
Buddha then gave instructions on how to recite the mantra for oneself
and for others, for sick and dying people, and so forth, and how to perform many
different healing rituals. Everyone rejoiced and developed deep, unchangeable
faith. It is said that through hearing these instructions seven million non-human
givers of harm gained a direct realization of ultimate truth and promised to help
future followers who sincerely relied upon the practice of Medicine Buddha. Twelve
chief givers-of-harm who were present later attained enlightenment, and are included
within the fifty-one Deities of Medicine Buddha's mandala.
The practice of
Medicine Buddha is a very powerful method for healing ourself and others, and
for overcoming the inner sickness of attachment, hatred, and ignorance. If we
rely upon Medicine Buddha with pure faith we shall definitely receive the blessings
of these attainments.
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'Mens
Sana In Corpore Sano' - The Buddha Way - Sound Mind, Sound Body
In Roman times the Latin term "Mens Sana In Corpore Sano', which means
a sound mind in a sound body, was well known and understood.
This implies
the notion that a healthy mind is a function of a healthy body.
To a very large
extent this notion is still predominant in western cultures, given the extraordinary
emphasis given to sporting activities, physical fitness and body culture.
The
reason for this is that in the process of identification with their body, people
derive the notion of who they are.
In Buddha Dhamma the emphasis is shifted
in favour of the mind, since the body is considered to be a tool of the mind.
The Buddha taught that if progress in 'mind cultivation' was to be achieved
it is important to maintain a healthy body, without becoming fanatical about it.
In
psychosomatic medicine there is a notion that the body reflects the state of your
mind, which to a certain extent equals the Buddha's Teaching.
The Buddha taught
that the mind is chief.
In Dr. W.F. Jayasuriya's Introduction to the Abhidhamma
(The Psychology and Philosophy of Buddhism, 1976): mind is conceived of as being
different from matter. At the same time it is superior to matter because you can
control or determine features of the material body. (1)
He emphasised that
modern psychosomatic medicine is based on this very concept of mental states,
such as anxiety, causing physical disorders like gastric ulcers.
In Bhikku
Khantipalo book's 'A Bag of Bones - A Miscellany On The Body', he introduces the
anthology 'relating to the body in various ways' as:
'The body which is thought
to be most obviously 'me', what I regard as the most tangible part of myself.
Around it, therefore, are constructed many views, all of them distorted to some
extent, which prevent insight arising into the body as it really is.' (2)
The
image people hold of themselves as a person is essentially that of a body.
In
today's western society the body has been increasingly venerated as a 'temple',
the idea of which comes from the culturally ingrained notion that the body is
a temple of the creator god.
Inherent in this notion is the idea that the
body is a perfect machine.
However, when you strip from this notion its religious
underpinnings you can see that a more accurate analysis reveals that the body
cannot live up to the cultural expectation.
In reality the natural state of
the body is to be unhealthy.
The level of sickness determines how much you
can perform.
Let us compare then the performance of the human body with the
most efficient engine in the world which happens to be the transformer having
a 97% efficiency.
In contrast the human body is only .1% efficient (and this
only when the body is in a high state of health). This comparison underlines the
precarious nature of our existence.
In truth the state of health of the human
body varies from instant to instant.
A popularly held belief maintains the
view that the preservation of a youthful body will help achieve some sense of
spiritual balance or well-being. This reinforces the false notion that blinds
us to the reality that the body deteriorates and eventually dies - in Pali this
is anicca or impermanence.
This is the cult of youth.
Some of the underlying
elements of this popular western culture are its increasing affluence, longer
life span and increasing number of older persons, who some how think they can
stop the clock by seeking in retirement to recapture the vitality of their youth.
This
attempt to recapture the lost vitality of their youth, is in many cases the only
area where they can get a sense of engagement in a culture that has idealised
this cult of youth, since it does not appear that there is an outlet for society
to utilise their accumulated experience and knowledge.
Most of the established
cultures of the world have placed high value on the older generations, the practice
of which is still evident in eastern cultures.
However, in the last forty or
fifty years there has been a shift away from holding our older generation in such
a high regard, and while this trend has been particularly evident in English speaking
countries, it is gradually creeping into non-English speaking nations.
In contrast
to this, the Buddhist practice regarding older persons is one of venerating those
who have kept up the cultivation of their mind throughout their lives according
to the Buddha's teachings.
From the Buddhist viewpoint life can be broken into
3 parts:
--The first 30 years you live burning vast amounts of merit and making
little.
--In the second 30 years you live starting to generate enough merit
to match that being used, and
--If you are fortunate to live a third 30 years
and have created the right causes you have the opportunity to create more merit
than you have burnt.
The reason why older age is highly valued is because
you can make more merit than you can consume.
Buddhist practitioners actively
seek the advice and guidance of wise and Noble older persons, tapping into this
wealth of knowledge and experience accumulated over the years.
The Buddha taught
that there are 4 sure things in life:
1. You are born
2. You get sick
3.
You get old
4. You die
In the Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry -
The Diamond Healing author Terry Clifford notes "the Buddha himself described
his role and his teachings in terms of a fundamental medical analogy that runs
throughout all forms of Buddhism." (3)
In his own lifetime, the Buddha
was known as "the great physician" since the purpose of his teaching
is to cure suffering.
In the Mahaparinirvana Sutra, there are four basic motivations
stated as necessary for the practice of Dharma. These are:
--To consider the
teacher as a doctor
--To consider oneself as sick
--To consider the teaching
as medicine
--To consider the practice of the teaching as treatment
These
four motivations are the key attitudes you need to adopt if you are to cure the
symptoms of this ill health, which is characterised by a runaway imagination.
Buddha
Dhamma allows you to build a life which is not full of empty promises but is firmly
built on reality.
The Buddha Path enables you to see clearly what is reality
and what is a projection of your own mind - a fantasy.
At the level where this
is functionally relevant to you it cannot be communicated by concepts, it can
only be experienced and for that you need a Teacher.
In the Sutta 'The Lotus
of the Good Law' the Buddha is regarded as a great physician; and all beings must
be regarded as blinded by error, like the man born blind. (4)
The Buddha is
the 'great physician' and teacher - the shower of the way.
His advice is to
develop awareness in the present. It is with awareness that you can watch the
mind and see what it is doing to create its own happiness or unhappiness. Which
has an effect on the health of the body.
When pain in the body arises it is
a response to a defilement in the mind. The reaction is the arising and grasping
of an unwholesome cettasika.
When the body is tired it is important to rest.
Tiredness is a conditioned response from the mind to the body. The mind reacts
through habit which are sankaras. Sankharas are one of the five groups of constituents
making up a human being, and are the mental formations karmically determined and
motivate behaviour.
He pointed out to his disciples 'Look and see for yourselves,
can you find anything permanent? - investigate! Look into things. Be the one who
observes, who is aware. Don't be the blind one, the one who just follows his or
her habits', which Ajahn Sumedho described as winding up like a mechanical toy
and then running down. (5)
The reality for so many people is that when they
are young, they have the notion that their whole life is ahead of them and do
not see or understand the need to cultivate their mind.
When they reach middle
age or older, suddenly they look back at youth with nostalgia, a time when life
was exciting and full of promises.
The reality is that life will not live
up to those promises. This is the reason why youth is looked upon with nostalgia
and regret by most people.
The problem with the culture of youth minutes is
that it wrongly believes that life is anything but suffering or in Pali dukkha.
When suffering arises the inexperienced believe that it can be subdued by looking
to the next after next excitement.
Buddha Dhamma does not allow you to take
refuge in such an escape mechanism because it gets you to face unequivocally the
reality that life is suffering, and it shows a rational way out of it.
This
rational way out of suffering is what is taught and practiced at the Buddhist
Discussion Centre (Upwey) Ltd. At our Centre we learn how to cultivate a healthy
mind while looking after the body.
One of our Centre's key priorities is the
preservation of our body of knowledge, accumulated over many years, and we have
identified the process of documentation as a key element in the preservation of
our Buddhist Cultural heritage.
Our core values approach is more complex than
popular culture because we have inserted columns and rows of determinants left
blank in the popular versions of postindustrial culture.
These determinants
include such actions as keeping refuge in Buddha, Dhamma, Sangha; holding sila
or morality by keeping precepts; paying respect to the Sangha and Dhamma teachers;
being of service to others and following the Noble Eightfold Path.
The logical
outcome of the processes just outlined may be to have a good human birth in your
next life.
We have identified the use of higher orders of thought as key factors
required to enable us to skillfully operate in the complex and multi-layered facets
of reality. These skills are increasingly needed in a Dhamma-ending age.
We
have now moved on from first order thinking through 2nd, 3rd and 4th to 5th and
progressively higher levels as our modus operandi. The Members who seek to maintain
a first order level of thinking are finding the going hard because that is a mind
that is confused and relies on habits, refusing to acknowledge or even know other
modes of living or thinking.
In our operating model, 2nd, 3rd and 4th order
thinking deals with a series of precepts and factors in a 500 year time line.
To operate internationally, we must operate on 3rd order or better. Many of the
World Fellowship of Buddhist Secretariats and delegates operate on 6th or 7th
order thinking.
Since we are a Regional Center of the World Fellowship of
Buddhists we have an added motivation for our Members to develop to an equivalent
level of thinking in order to be able to lend a helping hand.
The first order
thinking mind is inflexible and lacks a heart or consideration of others. It seeks
only to deal with the current task and does this ineffectively. It is not conducive
to developing perfection of energy.
The mind which knows Perfection of Energy,
or in Pali Viriya Parami, knows how to look after the body.
Someone operating
on higher orders of knowledge, particularly at 5th or above, can see how important
it is to their own well-being to create the causes for long life and health by
selflessly helping others.
They
have learned to guard themselves against the attacks coming from lower order thinking
minds.
In general, people who do not practise Buddha Dhamma hold the false
belief that the body is the self, and this belief causes the body to become sick
because of the inability to see that unwholesome states of mind arise only as
a result of past kamma.
The theory of kamma espouses the notion that happiness
and unhappiness in the present arise out of wholesome or unwholesome actions of
body, speech and mind done in the past. Therefore they unskillfully link such
states with the concomitant circumstances they happen to experience in the present.
Psychosomatic
diseases which affect the body arise out of unwholesome mental states.
In 1967
Herbert Hyman, using a wide range of data from opinion polls and sociological
surveys, argued that the value system of the lower classes created a "self
imposed barrier to an improved position".
However, a sizeable minority
of the working class did not share these limitations and identified more with
the middle class, and as a result tended to have higher aspirations.
Speech
patterns are an important medium of communication and learning. The English sociologist
Basil Bernstein distinguished two forms of speech pattern which he termed elaborated
code and the restricted code.
Members of the working class are limited to the
use of restricted codes, whereas members of the middle class use both codes.
Those
conversing in restricted codes do not make meaning explicit in speech due to the
common conversant culture.
The meanings conveyed by the code are limited to
a particular social group, they are bound to particular social context and are
not readily available to outsiders.
At the Buddhist Discussion Centre (Upwey)
Ltd we use the Oxford English Dictionary as the standard to convey meanings of
concepts which are related in one form or another to the cultivation of the mind,
or bhavana in Pali.
Self imposed cultural barriers or limitations of our Members
which have tended to keep them functioning at 1st order thinking are being removed
each for himself or herself in a systematic way.
We have earlier discussed
the limitations of first order thinking and the inability to be taught the universality
of suffering and what it takes to escape from it.
In Je Gampopa's classic handbook
of Buddhism, 'Gems of Dhamma, Jewels of Freedom' (5) one section deals with the
suffering of the higher states of existence which includes the human world. In
this Je Gampopa notes that humans have eight principle sufferings, described in
the Garbhavakranti Sutra they are:
"Likewise birth is suffering, ageing
is suffering, sickness is suffering, death is suffering, to be separated from
what one likes is suffering, to encounter what one dislikes is suffering, striving
after and obtaining what one wants is suffering and also the difficulty involved
in maintaining what one has is suffering".
Without the capacity for analytical
reasoning, inherent in the processes of practicing Buddha Dhamma, people accept
and follow uncritically the belief system which they have learnt from their parents
or from the general culture they happen to live in.
At our Centre, our Members
are encouraged to change their culture: that is implied in the lemma "Lifetimes
of Learning". It is through scholarship practised in one lifetime that individuals
can learn and do what is needed to overcome the limitations of earlier cultural
conditioning.
For those without that have not been exposed to this type of
practice, one outcome is they have maintained the nonacceptance that they are
going to die, even though they might not deny it at an intellectual level. Inherent
in this belief resides the view of the culture of youth and focus on the body,
which can only produce suffering.
The Buddha says that no enemy can harm one
so much as one's owns thoughts of craving thoughts of hate, thoughts of jealousy
and so on....these all lead to suffering.
In Je Gampopa's explanation on the
sufferings of ageing, he notes they are immeasurable and are summarised as tenfold.
He explains as follows:
Sufferings are caused by one's marked change in physique,
hair, skin, complexion, abilities and faculties, prestige, quality of life, good
health, mental capacity and sufferings caused by reaching life's end when one's
time is up.
He expands on each
of the ten sufferings, for example, there are the sufferings caused by marked
physical change - that the body which was previously strong and robust, holding
itself erect, changes and becomes bent, twisted and having to support itself with
a stick.
The hair formally jet black changes to become white or one becomes
bald, the skin once fine and smooth becomes coarse, lined and wrinkled.
The
complexion once filled with brightness and luster like a freshly opened lotus,
fades, becoming bluish or grayish like an old withered flower.
And with ageing
comes the marked change of health, once stricken by the greatest of illnesses
- old age itself - one suffers, for it brings on all the other diseases.
The
idea of long life from a Buddhist perspective is not for long life itself but
so that a person may practice during this human birth which is so rare.
In
K. Sri Dhammananda's work titled "How to Overcome Your Difficulties "(1980)
(7) he noted that the mind can influence the body profoundly. He describes this
effect noting that if the mind is allowed to function in an unbridled manner and
if it is allowed to play with unwholesome thoughts, it can cause disaster, it
can even kill a being.
The reverse is also true - it can cure a sick body.
He said when the mind is concentrated on right thoughts with right effort
and understanding, the effect it produced can be remarkable: it can liberate the
human mind from countless lifetimes of suffering.
When a being has enough merit
to be born as human, by necessity that being has to take the form of a human body,
with which he or she is able to accumulate meritorious activities which are the
fuel for the progress along the Buddha Path.
From the Discourse on Old Age
the Buddha said:
Short indeed is this life-
within a hundred years one dies,
and
if anyone lives longer
then he dies of decay
And yet even though human life
is so short it provides a rare window of opportunities to practice for the benefit
of self and others, seen and unseen, with the potential to end the cycle of suffering
which has no beginning, but can have a conclusion.
In a discussion titled
Insight Knowledge, Khantipalo explains that 'this my body consists of four great
elements, is procreated by mother and father, is built up out of boiled rice and
bread, is of the nature of impermanence, of being worn and rubbed away, of disillusioned
and disintegration, and this my consciousness has that for it's support and is
bound up with it.'
As we grow older, the earth element begins to dominate and
the body starts to deteriorate leading towards death.
Meditating on the body
is a good method in determining which element is dominating so balance can be
restored.
Wise people create the correct causes for keeping their bodies healthy.
When
the heat element is dominant, it is caused by one or more of the unwholesome minds
(akusala cetasikas). These are:
1. Ignorance ( Moha)
2. Lack of moral shame
(Ahirika)
3. Lack of fear of unwholesomeness (Anottappa)
4. Restlessness
(Uddhacca)
5. Attachment (Lobha)
6. Wrong view (Ditthi)
7. Conceit (Mana)
8.
Aversion (Dosa)
9. Envy (Issa)
10. Stinginess (Macchariya)
11. Regret
(Kukkucca)
12. Sloth (Thina)
13. Torpor (Middha)
14. Doubt (Viccikiccha)
In
contrast to the 14 unwholesome minds, here are 19 of the Wholesome Minds. These
wholesome minds or (in Pali: kusala cetasikas) are thus described as they are
common to all wholesome or kusala moments of consciousness.
1. Confidence (Saddha)
2.
Mindfulness (Sati)
3. Moral shame (Hiri)
4. Fear of unwholesomeness (Ottappa)
5.
Disinterestedness (Alobha)
6. Amity (Adosa)
7. Equanimity (Tatramajjhattata)
8.
Composure of mental states (Kayapassadhi )
9 Composure of mind (Cittapassadhi)
10.
Lightness of mental states (Kaya-Lahuta)
11. Lightness of mind (Citta-Lahuta)
12.
Pliancy of mental states (Kaya- Muduta)
13. Pliancy of mind (Citta-Muduta)
14.
Adaptability of mental states (Kaya- Kammannata)
15. Adaptability of mind states
(Citta- Kammannata
16. Proficiency of mental states (Kaya-Pagunnata)
17.
Proficiency of mind states (Citta-Pagunnata)
18. Rectitude of mental states
(Kaya-Ujukata)
19. Rectitude of mind states (Citta-Ujukata)
Development
along the Path is characterised by a progressive display of wholesome cetasikkas
or mental states, as per the list just outlined, and systematically moves the
person through the four foundations of mindfulness which are:
1. the effort
to strengthen the wholesome states already arisen
2. the effort to bring forth
the wholesome states which are yet to arise
3. the effort to stop the unwholesome
states of mind already risen
4. the effort to prevent from arising the unwholesome
states of mind yet to arise
This development enables a person to understand
more clearly the nature of existence and impermanence or in Pali Anicca is one
of the main tenets of Buddha Dhamma.
Anicca points to the essentially evanescent
nature of human existence. This is in contrast to the feeling that we will live
forever that is commonplace especially in the young. A young person takes for
granted the energy that the youthful physical body normally has.
Whilst you
are living, it is important to create the causes to be born as human next life
with the conditions favorable to practice.
When you come close to dying, some
of the most unwholesome cetasikkas which habitually rooted deep in the mind become
concentrated at the point of death. This can results in the a person having a
glimpse of their future birth in a lower state of existence, becoming terrorised
and become a self fulfilling prophesy.
We practice in order to be able to produce
wholesome minds at the moment of death.
Since this is difficult we need to
practice wholeheartedly in this life.
The range of events constructed by a
person's consciousness during one lifetime produce a constructed 'own-being'.
If to this 'own-being' we impute an inherent fixed existence, then a constricting
suffering-inducing effect is produced.
In other words the Buddha is saying
that suffering is centered around this wrong notion that we exist inherently as
a self.
While some will identify themselves with a body, as it is our materialistic
belief system which has become the dominant driver of values in our main stream
culture, others would identify this notion of self with the notion of an eternal
being or creator god.
These views are regarded by Buddha as extreme and identified
as two wrong views of nihilism and eternalism.
Vasubandhu was a great Abhidharmika.
Abhidhamma is the ancient Buddhist phenomenology of moment-events, and the
reduction of psychological processes to such moments. (1) The five aggregates
or 'five groups' are really all the changing states which 'make up' an 'individual',
and there is no central entity underlying these aggregates.
Effective
translation of the Pali or Sanskrit words expressing the five groups should include
a consideration of the commonly accepted 'Western' notion of a healthy person
as an 'active individualist' whose achievements are constantly growing.
Effective
translation should cover traditional 'Eastern' notions, which emphasize such terminal
values, as, for example, Moral Self-restraint, which are not seen as order associated
with progress and domination, but rather conservation of stability and inner control.
The intra personal confusion of
'Eastern' and 'Western' values may result in a conflict of values because there
is no superior stance available for sorting out the value conflicts.
There
are no shortcuts to mental health because cultivation of wisdom is a slow process.
The aim of the one of our past
Bhavana Courses held at our Centre was to provide a superior stance to enable
persons to sort out intra personal value conflicts of the type described earlier.
In some sense, the Teachings might be classified as Abhidhamma based.
It is
Dhamma Teachers who keep the memory of Lord Buddha alive and can make the Dhamma
relevant to the students' lives.
The Students' own set of trusts and beliefs
are the root causes of their suffering.
It is only in an environment of Metta
or loving kindness and compassion that the Students are able to look at their
root causes, enabling them to confront themselves without feeling under attack.
This
is the skillful means of the Teachers.
This process was described effectively
in a Dhamma talk given by Venerable Arcok Rinpoche at Melbourne University in
1989.
He taught that the Teachers or Bodhisattvas have great compassion, and
through their Teaching, Practitioners can understand and develop compassion.
All
people have some compassion and this is increased step-by-step until it extends
to all beings in all realms.
When Practitioners have a base of great compassion,
the six Paramitas (Perfections) of morality, generosity, patience, perseverance,
concentration and wisdom can be practiced.
All six points should correspond
with great compassion. Your practice will then be more helpful to beings who are
suffering.
You will realise self-discipline.
When compassion increases,
attachment and desire reduce little by little. His Holiness The Dalai Lama teaches
with great compassion, not with attachment, and so the effect is greater.
The
relationship of the Teacher and student is important. Rules of conduct have developed
to maximise benefit of the Teachings.
It is normally difficult to calm the
mind, but through concentration comes wisdom. Great patience and concentration
which lead to wisdom are needed for your deeds to be more effective. With wisdom
you will understand how to deal most effectively with situations in everyday life.
Teachers have great patience. Teachings are explained many times and repeated
over and over. Teachers have great wisdom and use the text method for students
to understand.
Students are taught how to develop compassion.
In the beginning
students are taught to develop compassion for themselves, and then to develop
compassion for others. They discover that when they have compassion for others,
others will show compassion to them, and this creates goodwill towards neighbours.
Normally people don't compare which actions are more beneficial to others.
Feelings don't usually follow reason, even if reasons are good, so when you can
see what is more beneficial to others, love and compassion can be developed.
Feelings
you don't like can arise, but these can be changed because of values and good
qualities seen in other people.
How can we change feelings towards enemies?
If a patient did not want an operation which would cut the body, the doctor
would explain the benefits, and after a time, the patient would accept the idea
of the body being cut.
Feelings are not permanent and can be changed.
When
a Practitioner has short periods of compassion, these can be extended for longer
periods depending on practice and knowing the disadvantages of not practicing.
Compassion
is defined as 'to care' or 'to protect others from harm'.
Action follows the
feeling.
Compassion and wisdom are most important. When these are complete
you will have all six points. Generosity comes first, but all six go together,
and with this basis, the Bodhisattva Path can be practiced.
In another five
day Bhavana Course held at our Centre in 1989, our resident Teacher and then President
John D. Hughes focused students learning toward the development and cultivation
of the seven factors of enlightenment (satta bojjhanga) in association with the
Bojjhangaparitta (the Enlightenment-Factor's Protection).
The first part of
the Teachings was to encourage Course Members to write their present organised
beliefs, trusts and values which support their present goals. These frames of
mind, when discovered, could be seen to help or hinder practice of the Buddha
Dharma.
The cultivation of various enlightenment factors, strongly practiced,
either prompted or unprompted, brings about the super-knowledges (abhinnya).
From
this position, prescience arises which has the power to change former unwholesome
(unwise) beliefs, trusts and values matrices. Prescience, a form of bodhi, could
be described as a type of internal synergy: being free from any partiality or
dualism; it "overcomes the extremes of emphasizing subject or object".
This mental quality is powerful enough to 'break' former misconceptions and
incorrect beliefs, trusts and values, providing clear reasons for the wisdom of
such an action.
Normally, this profound change of beliefs, trusts or values
occurs within a second or two. It occurs with an experience of relief and gratitude
that the former 'error of view' has been discovered and corrected.
New useful
'insights' are formed at this time. These can endure for many lifetimes on the
matrix. By way of example, it might be mentioned the irony that many persons who
had been practicing meditation for over a five to ten year period discovered (to
their chagrin) their beliefs, trusts and value system matrix did not include meditation.
Upon
the appearance of the prescience mental factor, meditation entered their matrix
system of beliefs, trusts and values. Certain types of questions simply disappear
at that point and cease to be problems.
The Tranquillity factors include the
wholesome factors of consciousness, described in Pali as kayapassaddhi and cittapassaddhi
(which may be glossed as body and mind tranquillity).
By investigation, it
becomes evident how these two factors (in the Buddha's Discourse, of the Seven
Enlightenment Factors) could result in the curing of fever of Phra Moggallana
and Phra Kassapa as described in the Bojjhangaparitta.
Under
these rare-to-find circumstances; with the evocation of White Tara (by the internal
method of visualization), Members participated in a long life puja for the great
benefit of their Teacher John D. Hughes and many beings.
The doctrine of animism
or anima mundi (Stahl 1720) is the notion that inanimate objects and natural phenomena
have a 'soul' or 'spirit' apart from matter as the incorrect basis to seek "protection"
from objects, such as, for example, "protection arrows".
A proper
analysis at all levels would be lengthy; but the correct basis should be summarised
by noting the effect on Mara. ASURAKAYA (Demons) should be distinguished from
Mara. Mara, the Evil One, is referred to many times in Buddhist Scriptures.
According
to Buddhist tradition he sought to deflect the Buddha from the attaining of Enlightenment.
Mara is shown as entirely powerless to influence Buddha in any way.
Mara appears
again and again in the course of Buddhist history, sometimes assuming human or
animal forms in disguise. Mara is experienced directly by any Buddhist when engaged
in advanced meditation.
Mara literally means 'the killer' or the death-agent.
Mara can be overcome by following the Buddhist Way.
Since "Maric
attacks" are to be expected at some stage of a Buddhist Meditators Path,
the question to be asked is what wholesome Buddhist Protection Methods are valid
in view of the Buddha's Teaching on morality.
Our Teacher, John D. Hughes,
has had the benefit of hearing many methods used by Noble Persons in many Countries
and has been fortunate in accumulating many Blessings during this process.
Simply,
it is a matter of employing skillful means to defeat Mara and to realise that
powerful Protectors of the present Buddha-Sasana can help you.
According to
T.O. Ling, the Pali word Sasana carries sense of both 'doctrine or teaching and
also rule of life' .
The Dhammapada advises that entering the Eightfold Path
'will be the bewilderment of Mara' and that the meditative ones, who enter upon
the Path 'are released from the bonds of Mara'. (2) Therefore, the first need
is to develop Confidence (Saddha).
Confidence is one of the beautiful cetasikas
(sobhanasadharana).
Regard Mara as your examiner.
If your Saddha is incorrect,
it must fall to Mara.
Try again and again till you know, without doubt, that
your saddha or confidence in Buddha is correct. It should not be based on some
condition that is time dependent, which falls to pieces as a function of time.
Saddha should not depend on other persons or particular locations.
Dhammo
Sanantano is endowed with universal values and contains no self-contradiction.
Saddha
views all worldly possessions, things, ideas and views, even if they seem useful
in the world, as essentially fleeting and unreal (Asara) when judged from the
standpoint of Ultimate Reality.
The Real (Sara) is the Noble Eightfold Path
of Morality (Sila) Mental Concentration (Samadhi) and Wisdom (Panna) leading to
Nibbana. The knowledge of Deliverance and the Realisation of the knowledge of
Deliverance - these are real from the standpoint of Ultimate Truth. Saddha is
concerned with the Real.
The Buddhist approach to the body is to firstly begin
to understand it's nature. Through understanding it's nature the correct view
of how to look after it follows.
The process which enables a clear understanding
of body (rupa) to arise involves various Buddhist meditations (kayanupassana).
Of the forty different types of Buddhist Meditation eighteen involve meditation
on our body. This is because we do not begin Buddhist practice with a clear view
of our body. It takes a lot of practice to actually to see how it really is.
The
view of our body which we have grown up with often involves an egotistical view
of our athleticism, bodily beauty or lack of it.
So many sufferings arise
in our life because of our incorrect view of our body.
The Buddha said "when
an uninstructed ordinary person experiences painful bodily feeling, he or she
grieves, is afflicted, laments, beats his or her breast, cries out load, and becomes
distraught. So it is said the uninstructed ordinary person has not emerged from
the bottomless abyss, has not obtained a firm foothold."
"But, Bhikkhus,
when an instructed Noble Disciple experiences painful bodily feeling he (or she)
does not grieve, is not afflicted, does not lament, nor beat his (or her) breast,
nor cry out load, nor become distraught. So it is said, Bhikkhu, the instructed
Noble Disciple has emerged from the bottomless abyss and has obtained a firm foothold."
The
Buddhist Path teaches that the problems and fears and sufferings associated with
our body "are not overcome by pretending they do not exist"'
From
CliffordÅfs discussion on the medical analogy in Buddhism and the three
jhanas, he notes the understanding of the Four Noble Truths. Buddha suggested
a sequence of the disease and a prescription for its cure.
The cause of the
disease is rooted in basic ignorance which produces hate and craving.
There
are 84,000 defilements summarised by Buddha into the three poisons of hate, greed
and ignorance.
The cure for this disease is the Eightfold Path which can be
briefly expressed as the threefold training of morality, which cures greed, desire
and lust and uses as a means of treatment, the meditation on revulsion, the ugliness
and disgust towards the object of attraction.
Concentration reduces anger,
hate and revulsion by the means of meditation on compassion.
Wisdom eliminates
ignorance by meditation on dependent origination.
The most important of them
is the development of wisdom because it cures the root poison of ignorance from
which all other poisons arise.
Clifford concludes therefore that wisdom or
prajna is considered to be the ultimate medicine that cures all disease and all
suffering.
Over three years and three moons, from February 1999, our
teacher is teaching the Prajna Paramitta each Tuesday evening. This teaching is
one way of expressing the Bodhisattva Path which aims to develop wisdom by recognising
the emptiness of self and others and to generate active love and compassion as
an expression of that wisdom.
The Mahayana path as detailed in the Tibetan
Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry - The Diamond Healing, is grounded in awakening
the "thought of enlightenment", the Bodhicitta, the aspirations to perfection
for the sake of all beings, since Buddhahood, that is, the full enlightenment,
is said to exist inherently in all sentient beings but to be obscured by their
defilements.
The process of Buddhist practice also involves developing mindfulness
of the body in each of the four basic postures; standing, sitting, walking, lying
down.
You cannot exercise mindfulness without an object.
But mindfulness
can also be mindfulness of the various activities of the mind.
It is mindfulness,
ultimately, that is the key to a healthy mind and a healthy body.
MAY ALL BEINGS
BE WELL AND HAPPY
This script was written and edited by Vince Cavuoto, Julian
Bamford, Maria Pannozzo, Philip Svensson, Frank Carter, Evelin Halls, Lisa Nelson,
Anita Svensson and Leanne Eames.
References:
1. Jayasuriya Dr. W.F.
" The Psychology and Philosophy of Buddhism - An Introduction to The Abhidhamma".
Buddhist Missionary Society Publication, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 1976.
2. "Bag
of Bones - a miscellany on the body" Compiled by Bhikkhu Khantipalo. Author's
Introduction, The Wheel Publication No. 271/272. Buddhist Publication Society,
Kandy, Sri Lanka 1980.
3. "Tibetan Buddhist Medicine and Psychiatry -
The Diamond Healing" by Terry Clifford - published by Samuel Weiser incorporated
- York Beach - 1984
4. Sutta "The Lotus of the Good Law"
5. Teachings
of a Buddhist Monk - Ajahn Sumedho - 1999.
6. Reference from book: The Wisdoms
Series No: 21 "How to Overcome Your Difficulties" By author K. Sri Dhammananda
(1980)
7. "Gems of Dharma, Jewels of Freedom", by Je Gampopa, pulbished
by Altea Publishing, Forres, Scotland, 1995.
?. Anguttara-nikaya. 1. 43, trans,
Ven Nyanamoli.
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Michio Shinozaki
Buddhism Rissho Kosei Kai, Japan
Today, I am very honored to have this opportunity to present a Buddhist prayer
as a source of peace at this international Meeting "War and Peace: Faiths
and Cultures in Dialogue." I would like to express my gratitude to the people
of Aachen and the Community of Saint Egidio for making this gathering possible.
Rissho
Kosei-kai has participated in the annual Week of Prayer for World Peace for seventeen
years. This event has been supported by thirty-seven religious organizations-Christian,
Hindu, and Buddhist-and nonreligious groups. Last year, our prayer for this event
incorporated the words from the Dhammapada that are emphasized by Rissho Kosei-kai's
president, Reverend Nichiko Niwano: "Hatred is never conquered by hatred;
hatred can only be conquered by nonhatred." Buddhist prayer embodies the
noblest healing power, coming from the Buddha's heart and the wishes of all living
beings. In Buddhism, we speak of prayer as the great vow of the Buddha. In the
Lotus Sutra, a Mahayana Buddhist sutra of the greatest importance to us, the Buddha
makes a vow of his wish that all living beings attain buddhahood, awakening to
a state of perfect freedom and work for helping other beings. This wish is something
that everyone possesses deep inside. Thus, the Buddha's vow is the same as the
wish that springs forth from one's innermost being.
How, then, is the Buddha's
vow related to peace? The Buddhist ideal state of perfect freedom, Nirvana, is
interpreted as harmony or peace. In this sense, the Buddha makes a vow that all
living beings shall live in a harmony. Reverend Nichiko Niwano says, "Harmony,
or peace, is essential for human life. The existence of all life depends on the
crucial notion of harmony. Harmony is a hope that all human beings hold deep in
their hearts."
The Buddha vows to make all living beings become aware
of the fact that all beings on earth are given life by the same great life-force.
In other words, the Buddha wants us to awaken to the fact that each of us is "a
child of life," who is supported in being alive, at this moment and in this
place, by a single great life-force, even though we vary in race or religion.
In this sense, all people are brothers and sisters; we are all one family. We
are essentially interdependent in all dimensions of life.
The Buddha's great
vow is expressed in chapter sixteen of the Lotus Sutra. The Buddha says:
"I,
ever knowing all living beings,
Those who walk or walk not in the Way,
According
to their needs for salvation
Expound their every Law,
Ever making this my
thought:
"How shall I cause all living beings
To enter the Way supreme
And
speedily accomplish their buddhahood?"
The Buddha constantly teaches us,
leading us to become aware of our own buddha-nature. Even though we are not aware
of the fact, the Buddha always keeps us in his mind, watches over us, and sends
his message to us directly. We should humbly receive the voice of the Buddha in
the midst of this troubled world. When we view the reality of the present world
situation, we recognize our distance from the Buddha's vow. We ignore the sacredness
of each life, though every person is "a child of life," and deny the
single world of harmony on which all living beings essentially depend.
When
we reflect upon this reality with the wisdom of religion, we are forced to bow
our heads humbly before all gods and buddhas. As religious people, we come to
repent our misdeeds, arrogance, and ignorance through reflecting on this miserable
and inhuman reality. Thus, our prayer must begin with this repentance for being
away from the gods' will and the buddhas' vow. We tend to be too arrogant to listen
to the voices from the gods and buddhas in the place where we are. Once we reflect
upon ourselves deeply with humility, we come to the awareness that we ourselves
are really creating this evil that hinders peace.
Second, our payer must be
our commitment to nonviolence. The model of nonviolent action is expressed in
the story of Never-Despise Bodhisattva in the Lotus Sutra. It is a story of a
previous life of the Buddha. There was a wandering religious practitioner known
as Never-Despise. Whenever he encountered people, he paid them respect, saying
"I deeply revere you, because you are all to become buddhas." Some people
were irritated, and got angry and muddy-minded, reviled and abused him. Some people
tried to beat him with clubs, sticks, potsherds, or stones. But while escaping
to a distance, he still cried aloud, " I dare not despise you. You are all
to become buddhas." Even though he was abused by others, he did not return
the abuse. This bodhisattva devoted himself only to this practice of revering
the buddha-nature in others, even under hostile conditions. Never-Despise Bodhisattva's
way of life was the practice of revering, through nonviolent action, the child
of life in others. In this sense, we pray for our commitment to nonviolence leading
toward peace, saying, "I dare not despise you. You are all to become buddhas."
This prayer means that each of us reveres others because they are all children
of life and someday will be aware of the preciousness of all life. This is the
way to attain peace. Reverend Nikkyo Niwano, the founder of Rissho Kosei-kai,
saw Mahatma Gandhi as one who exemplified this spirit of keeping a gentle and
forbearing heart for the sake of the truth. We, the followers of the Lotus Sutra,
have a prayer that we may become Never-Despise Bodhisattvas as apostles of peacemaking.
Third,
our prayer must be a prayer for overcoming of hatred and violence. With nonviolent
attitudes, we should have reverence for our neighbors, even those who seem wicked,
as in the case of enemies. I have already quoted the verse of the Dhammapada saying
that hatred will cease only when we overcome hatred by nonhatred, or love. That
is the way to cut off the chain of hatred. How do we overcome persecution and
hostile actions toward us? It is easy to say, but difficult to practice. One of
the ways for overcoming hatred really comes from deep and firm faith in the worldview
that both self and others are children of life and interdependent, so acting in
violence toward others is also acting against oneself. Another way of overcoming
hatred comes from a Buddhist way of forgiveness by means of wiping away past bad
karma. We must repent our hatred to the bottom of our hearts. In Buddhism, repentance
is an act of expiating our sins and cleansing our minds and hearts. It can be
construed as an action of repentance to the Buddha. A way to cut the chain of
hatred among individuals, races, and nations is needed now in this troubled world.
This is the most important vision that Buddhism can possibly contribute to this
modern world.
It is of great importance that we religious people, coming together
from different traditions and countries, repent our past misdeeds that have been
contrary to the gods' will and the buddhas' vows, so that we can pray for peace
together. We are standing this moment at a starting point to attaining real peace
on earth.
Finally, I would like to close by expressing my gratitude for this
opportunity to speak at this forum and by assuring you that we as religious workers
will continue to pray for a more peaceful world to be realized in the eyes of
the gods and buddhas.
Thank you very much.
Copyright© 1999-2003
Comunità di Sant'Egidio
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Mustard
Seeds and Tiger Whiskers: The Medicine of Emptiness
by Stephen Silverton
: s.silverton@virgin.net
Introduction
As psychotherapists we experience
various pressures to arrive at theoretical clarity. Some of these come from external
sources, and some from internal sources. As we engage with the capitalist consumer
culture which forms the context for our work, those who fund psychotherapy increasingly
demand SMART * objectives (and it is hard to set out where you are aiming to get
to without also knowing something about how you are going to get there). Equally,
regulatory pressures drive professionalisation, and with that a push towards the
kind of status accorded the 'hard' sciences. There are also competitive pressures
among psychotherapy 'brands', which create the need for distinctiveness in theory
and practice. And then there is internal pressure: as we deal with the uncertainty,
and anxiety, of helping complex human beings in difficult life situations, we
need to form judgements about what their predicament is and how we might help
them move through it.
Although some are tempted to resist engaging with the
theoretical questions, on the grounds that the art of psychotherapy is a purely
intuitive one, this is of course still a theory! As Hill (2002, pp 20-21) suggests,
it is impossible to practice without some underlying theory, even if that theory
is implicit:
Every clinical practice - of whatever school - has an attached
theory. It is not possible to use a clinical technique without there first existing
a specific theory that the clinician actively relies on, even if that theory is
hidden, intuitive or unconscious. By analogy think of the English language, which
you probably read and speak without having to consciously worry about our highly
complex rules of grammar.[
] Some clinicians try to hide away their theory
so as to gain immunity from criticism. Others try to rely on their 'feelings'
rather than 'theories' in their clinical work. This is a misguided and potentially
problem making approach, and in any case, is itself a theory. It is a theory that
says that 'your feelings inform your clinical interpretations and interventions'.
But the push for theoretical clarity brings with it the danger of dogma: if
we hold too tightly to our theory, we may lose sight of what is in front of us
as we try to fit the client into our pre-existing framework. The theory may start
to dictate what we can observe, and how we can respond. This would then limit
our capacity to be helpful, since every client, every life, is unique
In any
case, most experienced practitioners have learned to be extremely humble about
what can be known. As Jung says, 'One could as little catch the psyche in a theory
as one could catch the world' (CW16, para 198)
Jung even goes so far as to
suggest that theoretical 'clarity' is an actual hindrance to good psychotherapeutic
work:
Generally speaking, the less the psychotherapist knows in advance, the
better the chances for the treatment. Nothing is more deleterious than a routine
understanding of everything (CW 16, para 195)
This paper suggests that Buddhist
thought - in particular the concept of sunyata, usually translated as 'emptiness',
but perhaps better rendered as 'the open potential of being' [1] - and practice
may provide a path between naïve theoretical nihilism and a doctrinaire fixity
of view, offering practitioners rigorous philosophical support for retaining open-mindedness
about the client and his situation, whilst meditation practice resources the practice
of such 'negative capability'. In this way of thinking and practising, theories
about the client remain fluid and provisional. Their therapeutic function is not
to 'explain', but to enable and sustain dialogue, both the inner dialogue of the
therapist and the outer dialogue between therapist and client. As such, theory
functions as a kind of placebo, which is part of all that which enables the therapeutic
encounter. In more explicitly Jungian terms, we might say that theory forms part
of the structure of the alchemical vessel of therapy.
The argument is illustrated
with two tales of healing from the Buddhist tradition, those of the Mustard Seed
and Tiger's Whisker. I suggest that the attitude which flows from this kind of
thinking permits a wide variety of interventions on the part of the therapist.
It is therefore an argument for an integrative approach, which preserves the place
of mystery and grace at the heart of the change process, and which resists pressures
to 'scientise' the art of psychotherapy.
Finally, Jung's writings on the theory
and practice of psychotherapy and on Buddhist thought, suggest that this flexible
and non-dogmatic attitude is one Jung himself favoured.
The ideas presented
here have been strongly influenced by the work of Watson (1998), Batchelor (1983,
1990, 2004) Sills (1999) and Ekeland (1997). What follows is largely a response
to their contributions, although any misunderstandings and misrepresentation are
of course my own.
The Buddhist Way
For those without any background in
Buddhist thought and practice, I would first like to sketch a brief outline of
these.
'Balham, Gateway to the South' is the title of a famous Peter Sellers
sketch in which the late comedian hymned the delights of that South London district
with the words 'Balham, city of ever-changing lights. Red, amber, green, then
red
'.. I would like to begin this exploration of the Buddhist vision in
what some might see as a similarly prosaic setting: Camberwell, South London,
on a grey Sunday morning in January at about 8.30 a.m. I am in my car, waiting
at traffic lights. The roads are quiet. My attention is caught by the sight of
clouds blowing across the sky and the scene suddenly takes on a strange and unexpected
beauty. The wisps of cloud cross the pale sky. The traffic lights go through their
sequence. Cars stream across, rear lights glowing red in the greyness of the day.
It is a kind of South London haiku.
It is easy to see impermanence - termed
anicca in Pali, the earliest written language of the Buddhist canon and one of
the three 'marks' of existence. Everywhere we look, we need only intend to become
aware of change and we can find it. The sound of traffic outside my window, rising
and falling as the vehicles approach and disappear. The feeling of my breath inflating
my stomach; my heartbeat; the pulse in my left hand as it pauses above the keyboard.
Less easy to appreciate experientially is anatta - insubstantiality or selflessness,
the second mark. At the traffic lights there was a sense of what Natalie Goldberg
(1991)calls 'wild mind' , that all of us were participating in a larger dance,
or exchange of meaning. The cold Sunday January morning, the quiet roads, the
sets of traffic lights, the small queues and flows of traffic, the clouds across
the sky - all 'interbeing', the word Thich Nhat Hahn (1988) uses to describe the
web of relationship in which the entire universe is involved. I can only glimpse
this experientially. I have to resort to conceptual thought and imagination to
deepen my sense of it.
I know that every object no matter how apparently solid
is in a process of change. My car - as I am sometimes only too aware - is rusting,
has had many components replaced, is burning petrol and using oil. It is in fact
in a process of interaction with the environment, which given another few years
will see it making its final journey to the scrap yard and , hopefully, its parts
recycled into other Peugeot 205s of 1990 vintage, and its metal perhaps smelted
down and recycled into other objects. Though apparently solid and reassuringly
permanent as it sits in the street outside my window, my car will occasionally
and inconveniently remind me of its impermanence and the way it dynamically interacts
with its environment. For example, breaking down because water has got inside
its distributor cap.
In what sense then, ultimately, can my car said to exist
as a separate object? Its components change. It cannot run without petrol and
oil, which require more or less continual replenishment, as my credit card bills
testify. The body is vulnerable to all kinds of change via the hazards of water,
air, vandals, and other cars. The 'engine' is in fact a (to me) mysterious array
of components, themselves combinations of sub-components, and all of these, too,
are subject to more or less frequent obsolescence. The tyres, mirrors, exhaust,
wipers, windows, seats
all of it is impermanent. In fact, its materials are
only temporarily shaped into the form 'car'. The closer I look, the less I am
able to see any solid entity I can define as essentially 'the car'. In fact, painful
as it is, I have to admit that 'my car' is no more than an fiction.
So from
impermanence we can start to impute insubstantiality, lack of ultimate self-hood.
Though we see and experience the world as consisting of separate and discrete
entities this is true only on a relative basis. Looked at from a longer term perspective
(or from far enough away in space) the perception of solid and separate entities
is no more than a pragmatic device to get us through the day.
Anatta cuts
the ground from under our cosy and habitual assumption of a self 'in here' looking
out on a world 'out there'. The experience of a separate perceiver is in fact
a kind of mirage created in the perceptual process. The colours I see look different
depending on the light in which I see them. And of course certain light is invisible
to the eye - infrared for example. Colour then, is contextually created, rather
than an inherent property of the object. It depends on an interaction between
the eye and the environment, which creates the 'perceptual situation'. Not just
colour, but all perception, is like this. Bateson explains this with the metaphor
of an electrical switch [2] . A switch is only 'visible' to the circuit as a difference.
When in the 'on' position the circuit is complete and current flows all around
it. When in the 'off' position the circuit is broken and no current flows. The
switch is only 'perceived' in the act of switching. All our perception proceeds
in the same way, is in fact perception of the 'news of difference'. A perfectly
camouflaged object is not perceived.
So all perception is profoundly contextual
and relational. The very perception of an 'I' is created by the dynamic interaction
of the sensory apparatus, including the mind, with the environment. But here we
run into the limitations of language and conceptual thought, because the very
concept of environment implies something purely objective and somehow independent
of the process of perception. In fact, as we have seen with colour, the I/ environment
experience is an interactive process, recursive, and self-reinforcing, resulting
from the complex web of relationship between knower and known, where each creates
and re-creates the other precisely as 'knower' and 'known'. (This is explored
in depth in Varela et al, 1991). Self and world, subject and object appear somehow
'solid', but this solidity is something we invest them with. In the words of Nagarjuna:
Just as due to error the eye perceives
A whirling firebrand as a wheel
So the senses apprehend
Present objects as if real
(Hopkins (ed and
trans) 1975, p 164)
Our attempts to live our lives on the basis of the fiction
of a permanent self are founded on an illusion, and leave us only with an anguished
sense of hollowness and dissatisfaction. As long as we are stuck in this consciousness,
we live like Tantalus and Sisyphus combined, eternally reaching for what is beyond
our grasp, working forever to slake an unquenchable thirst. This what the Buddha
called dukkha the third mark of existence. The word is often translated as 'suffering'
but the etymology suggests the image of an 'ill fitting chariot wheel'. The sense
is of an all-pervasive unsatisfactoriness stemming from a misalignment with reality.
[3]
The Buddhist vision is not dryly philosophical in an abstract sense, but
profoundly soteriological. That is, it provides a means not only for understanding
our existential situation but for transforming our relationship to it, from one
of anguish to one of liberation. In that sense it is not a theory, but a path,
or 'way'. If we can let go of our need to grasp - to 'solve, satisfy and set unchangeably
in order' (the phrase comes from Larkin's poem 'Love Songs in Age') the universe
is revealed in its beauty - as Indra's Net of mutually reflecting jewels, or Blake's
'World in a grain of sand' [4] Beauty, mystery, wonder and the everyday are interweaved,
as in the haiku.
The contention is that when we fully accept this reality,
wisdom and compassion arise, with release from the anguished clinging to the fictitious
notion of a self which characterises dukkha. The path of meditation, ethics and
wisdom mapped out in the traditional teachings provides a set of principles and
practises for transforming consciousness, eventually releasing us from the illusion
of self/other duality in which we remain trapped. Meditation provides a method
for quieting and clarifying the mind so that it may perceive the way things really
are. In a traditional metaphor, the mind is a lake and the truth of interbeing
is the moon above. When the surface of the lake is not blown around by thoughts
and emotions, the water becomes less and less choppy, more and more still. This
still surface can then reflect the moon more and more clearly. Actions of speech,
body and mind which are more and more aligned with the reality of deep interconnection
between all beings bring greater stillness to the mind, enabling clearer perception
of the way things are. So meditation and ethics act in tandem to produce wisdom,
and the three operate together in a kind of positive feedback loop.
This is
the Path or Way leading towards wisdom or insight, a process of gradually deconstructing
the fiction of a permanent, distinct and separate self and the fear and craving
to which this illusion, and the need defensively to sustain it, give rise. As
practitioners progress along the path they realise at deeper and deeper levels
the true nature of self and world as sunyata - empty. This does not imply non
existence (the nihilistic pole of the erroneous and habitual dualistic view) nor
existence (the eternalist or substantialist pole at the other extreme of the duality)
but tathagata, usually translated as 'suchness'. This has the sense of both uniqueness
and relatedness. The consciousness which sees tathagata sees the wonder and mystery
of all beings in their being here at all, in all the poignancy of their transience.
As such, that consciousness is imbued with penetrating wisdom, profound compassion,
a deep and unshakeable freedom and equanimity. This consciousness sees the 'Buddha
nature' at the heart of all beings. All beings share in the universal process
of coming into and out of form, and all have the potential to become as deeply
conscious of the nature of this process as a Buddha, or fully awakened consciousness.
It is in this sense that the Buddhist path offers a 'medicine' of emptiness.
Buddhist principles and practises can offer psychotherapists a potent resource
to 'rest in emptiness', and so to create therapeutic relationship which becomes
the vehicle for changes analogous to the liberation which is the fruition of the
Buddhist path. As Gaye Watson suggests, the change which therapy aims at is different
in quantity, not quality, to the goal of the Buddhist path. Whereas the latter
aims at a total liberation from all attachment, the former aims at greater freedom
and flexibility:
The healthier the human being, the more they are wholly available
for free response[
]. In terms of Buddhist epistemology [
] ideal cognition
means ideal and fresh cognition, free from subsequent conceptuality. In a somewhat
similar way, the more areas of the personality are bound by rigid defensive and
cognitive structures, the less is available for spontaneous and open response.
The very work of psychotherapy is to bring awareness to these structures and in
exploring them, loosening them, freeing the energy bound up therein, allowing
moment to moment free response to events, in contrast to being confined within
a pre-determined script written with fear or resentment or whatever, often relevant
to a time now past. (1998, pp147-8)
As Watson suggests, the Buddhist concept
of sunyata radically undercuts our habitual view of reality as substance, replacing
it with 'reality as emptiness'. However, far from leaving us stranded on an existential
'road to nowhere', the medicine of this emptiness opens up a path, a possibility
of recovering the potential for creative change. This path was always there, but
may have become obscured by developmental factors, compounded by an ordinary daily
living which entails 'a gradual thickening of the psyche's arteries as layers
of patterned responses deposit themselves on the open potential of being' [5]
Two Tales of Healing
I would like to explore how the therapeutic relationship
can promote the recovery of the open potential of being, and the role of the therapist
and his theory within that, by examining two stories of healing. Here, then, are
the stories.
The Mustard Seed [6]
Some 2500 years ago at the time of the
Buddha in Savatthi in India, near where the Buddha had established himself with
his followers, there lived a woman by the name of Kisa, or 'Skinny', Gotami. She
was from a poor family and unable to raise much in the way of dowry for a potential
husband. Eventually she did marry but even then her in-laws treated her with disdain,
calling her a nobody's daughter. Then one day she bore a child and their attitude
towards Kisa changed. And Kisa herself found a new joy in this child, whom she
loved dearly. But one day when the child was just old enough to run about and
play, he became ill. The illness worsened and Kisa Gotami could only watch with
desperation as, despite all her efforts, he weakened and died. Hysterical with
grief, she clung to the child's body and would not let her relatives take it away.
Taking the corpse on her hip she went from door to door in the village pleading
for medicine for her child. 'Medicine? What's the use?', she was told, as people
responded with bewilderment or confused embarrassment, or else tried to reason
with her. But she could not accept that the child was dead. Eventually she came
upon a man who saw that her mind was unbalanced with grief for the child. This
man sent her to the Buddha, saying that he was reputed to have all kinds of powers,
and maybe he would have some medicine for her child. With renewed hope she ran
off to seek out the Buddha. Finding him, bedraggled and tearful, she stood before
him and urged him to give her medicine for the child.
The Buddha looked kindly
at Kisa Gotami and the dead child in her arms. 'Yes, I can help you', he said.
'But to make the medicine I will need a mustard seed'. Overjoyed, Kisa Gotami
was about to run off to find one, knowing that this would be easy, since every
home at that time had a pot of mustard seed in the kitchen. 'There is just one
condition, though,' the Buddha added. 'It must come from a home where nobody has
died'. Without giving this a second thought, Kisa Gotami ran off on her quest.
At the first house she asked for a seed and they were happy to give her one.
But when she asked if anyone had died there, she heard that only last month they
had lost a grandparent. At the second house, the third and the fourth, it was
the same story. Everybody she met was happy to give her a mustard seed, but everybody
had lost someone: a father, a mother, a sister, a brother, a beloved child - no
family was untouched by death.
After just a few houses Kisa Gotami broke down
and wept. She had accepted that her child was dead. Taking his body to the funeral
ground, she bade him farewell, weeping with all her heart. After a time, she felt
her natural being restoring itself. Breathing deeply, she thought of the Buddha
and was deeply moved by the wisdom and compassion he had shown her. She realised
that death comes to all, that she was not alone in her loss, and that the Buddha
had sought to show her just this. She went to him.
'Did you find the mustard
seed?' asked the Buddha.
'The work of the seed is already done', replied Kisa
Gotami, and she asked the Buddha to accept her as his disciple. This he did and
later, whilst meditating in the forest, she gained enlightenment.
The Tiger's
Whisker [7]
A long time ago in what is now Korea, there lived a young woman
called Yun Ok. One day she arrived at the door of a famous and venerable sage
who lived as a hermit in his mountain hut. He was famous for his magic charms
and potions.
Yun Ok entered and found the sage looking into the fire. Without
raising his eyes from the fireplace, he asked her 'why are you here?'.
'Oh
famous sage,' said Yun Ok, 'you must help me. I am desperate! Please make me a
potion.'
'Yes, everybody wants potions. But can we cure a sick world with
a potion?'
'Please Master, you must help me'.
'Well, what is your story?'
'My husband, who is very dear to me, recently came home from the wars where
he was away fighting for three years. Since he has come back he is much changed.
He hardly speaks to me, or to anyone at all. If I speak he does not seem to hear.
When he talks at all, it is roughly. If I serve him food which is not to his liking
he pushes it aside and angrily leaves the room. Sometimes I see him, when he should
be out working in the rice fields, sitting on a rock just staring at the sea.'
'Yes, it is like that sometimes when young men return from the wars,' said
the hermit. 'Go on'.
'There is no more to tell,' said the young woman. 'I
want a potion to give to my husband to make him loving and gentle, like he used
to be.'
'Ha, so simple is it?' replied the sage. 'Very well. Come back in
three days and I will tell you what we shall need for such a potion'.
Yun
Ok returned three days later. 'I have looked into it, said the sage. 'Your potion
can be made but we need one vital ingredient: the whisker of a living tiger. Bring
me this tiger's whisker and we will make the potion'.
'A tiger's whisker!
But how can I possibly get it?', said Yun Ok, incredulous.
'If the potion
is important enough, you will succeed,' replied the sage, and returned his gaze
to the fireplace.
Yun Ok went home and thought carefully about how she would
get the tiger's whisker. Then one night whilst her husband was asleep she left
the house with a bowl of rice and meat sauce in her hand. She went to the place
on the mountainside where a tiger was known to live and called to him, holding
out the bowl of food. The tiger did not come.
The next night, she did the
same thing. This time she approached a little nearer to the tiger's cave. Every
night she went there, each time getting a few steps closer, until the tiger was
accustomed to seeing her there.
One night, Yun Ok went to within a stone's
throw of the tiger's cave. This time the tiger came a few steps toward her and
stopped. The two of them stood looking at each other in the moonlight. The night
after, the same thing happened. This time they were so close that Yun Ok could
talk to the tiger in a soft, soothing voice. The following night, after looking
for a long time into Yun Ok's eyes, the tiger ate the food that she had brought.
It was now six months since she had first come to the tiger's cave. The next night,
she found the tiger waiting for her. After he had eaten, she was able to stroke
his head very gently with her hand. At last, one night, after softly stroking
his head, Yun Ok spoke to the tiger.
'Oh tiger, generous animal, I must have
one of your whiskers. Please do not be angry with me'.
And she snipped off
one of his whiskers.
The tiger accepted this calmly and Yun Ok went back down
the trail, now breaking into a run, the whisker clutched tightly in her hand.
The next morning, as the sun rose over the sea, she was at the door of the
mountain sage. 'I have it! I have the tiger's whisker! Now you can make the potion
for my husband to make him loving and gentle again.'
The sage took the whisker
from her and examined it carefully to make sure that it was indeed the whisker
of a living tiger. Satisfied that it was, he dropped it into the fire.
'Oh
sir, what have you done?' cried Yun Ok.
'Tell me how you obtained it,' said
the sage.
' Why, I went to the mountainside to where the tiger lives, taking
a bowl of food with me. Each night I approached a little nearer to the tiger's
cave, holding the bowl of food and calling out to him. I spoke gently and soothingly
to him, to make sure he understood that I wished him only good. Each night I brought
him food, knowing that he would not eat. But I did not give up. I came again and
again, always speaking gently to him. Gradually I won the tiger's confidence.
At last came a time when he would meet me on the trail and eat from the bowl I
held in my hands. I stroked his head and he made happy sounds in his throat. Only
after that did I take the whisker.'
'Yes,' said the hermit. 'You tamed the
tiger. You won his confidence and love'.
'But it is all for nothing!' exclaimed
Yun Ok. 'You have thrown the whisker into the fire'.
'I do not think it is
all for nothing,' said the sage. 'The whisker is no longer needed. Let me ask
you, Yun Ok: is a man more dangerous than a tiger? Is he less responsive to love
and kindness? If you can win the trust of a wild tiger through gentleness and
patience, surely you can do the same with your husband?'
At this Yun Ok was
speechless. She stood there for a long time, reflecting on the sage's words. Then
she started out back down the trail.
Reflections
on the Stories The Placebo Effect and Emptiness
Not the least striking aspect
of these stories about healing is that they both concern potions which are ineffective
as potions. In fact, they do not get as far as coming into existence as potions
because they do not get made in the first place: all the healing takes place in
the quest for the missing ingredient. The potions act as non-ingested placebos!
So, what is happening here?
Tor -Johan Ekeland (1997) has written perceptively
of the placebo effect in psychotherapy. Ekeland borrows the terms pleroma and
creatura from Bateson, who in turn borrowed them from Jung. He explains that pleroma
refers to matter, the physical universe consisting of particles and energy, whilst
creatura refers to the mental, the meaning system created by human beings.(1977,
pp 82-83). Placebo is a phenomenon of creatura, the bodily reactions being effect
rather than cause:
When taking a pill, the input is both the pill as chemistry
(pleroma) and the pill as information (creatura). As chemistry the pill is digested
through a metabolic process - biochemical communication. As a symbol the pill
is taken perceptually and 'digested' as a mental process. The pill as a symbol
is not in an inner way related to the pill's materiality, but to its meaning as
creatura - in the same way as it is not the quality of material in a flag that
creates the feeling of national pride. In the same way that the energy that the
feeling of national pride demands is not in the flag, neither is the energy that
produces the placebo effect in the pill itself. It is there already as potential
in the body, released by something the body finds meaning in.(1977: 83)
In
these 'cases', the potion is not even ingested. This is because the vital and
missing ingredient is either not found at all, or found but now seen to be superfluous.
It is superfluous because, as Kisa puts it, 'the work of the seed [or whisker,
or pill] is already done'. But in what does this work consist? What actually happens?
Initially what happens is that there is an act of faith. The act of faith
consists in going to the sage (or psychotherapist) in the first place. What animates
both Kisa and Yun Ok is the belief that things can change, that 'It can be different'.
What enables this is their trust in the sage, and this in turn is initially dependent
on a trust in him at the level of pleroma, as a maker of magical potions. The
sage is perfectly happy to go along with this, yet he already knows that the potion
will be absolutely without healing potential on the level of pleroma. So in what
does the sage trust? He trusts in his client's 'self-healing capacity', that 'potential
in the body' to which Ekeland refers. And on what is that trust based? My contention
is that it is based on the perception of Buddha nature. And what is Buddha nature?
No nature! Yet this 'no nature' is not a collapse into nihilistic negation, but
a groundedness in universal process, in the web of interbeing, in emptiness -
'the open potential of being'..
Emptiness, Therapeutic Presence and Negative
Capability
In the words of the original text, The Buddha 'sees the promise'
in Kisa Gotami, and the sage in the Tiger's Whisker trusts that Yun Ok's determination
will be the decisive factor. If the sage sees the potential in his clients, this
seeing comes out of his ability to rest in the open potential of being and to
sense this in his clients. That is, his ability to sense the Buddha nature of
the person before him comes from his capacity to be alive to and resonate with
their being, his capacity for therapeutic 'presence'. As Ekeland reminds us, most
research on outcomes in psychotherapy suggest that 'therapist variables, and relationship
variables, are more important than therapy theory variables' ( Ekeland, 1997,
p78). Jung himself asserted that
The great healing factor in psychotherapy
is the doctor's personality, which is something not given at the start; it represents
his performance at its highest and not a doctrinaire blueprint. (CW 16, para 198)
My sense of what Jung means here by 'the doctor's personality
his performance
at its highest' is the capacity of the practitioner to be alive to the open potential
of being. Perhaps this is why it is 'something not given at the start; it represents
his performance at its highest', and has nothing to do with any theoretical framework.
Another way of describing this capacity for openness, but from Western literature,
is the phrase 'negative capability' The term comes from a letter by John Keats:
That is, when a man is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries and doubts
without any irritable reaxhing after fact or reason [8]
While Keats suggests
that this ability distinguishes great creative artists like Shakespeare, it also
succinctly describes that fundamentally alive and receptive frame of mind, centred
in the present moment, which captures the therapist's 'performance at its highest.
In 'The Mustard Seed' the Buddha, 'seeing the promise' in Kisa gives her his
instructions. The sense is that he not only takes in her life situation but her
potential for wisdom, which in Buddhist terms is her potential to embrace the
reality of emptiness. He does not try to reason her out of her current state of
mind. Unlike the other people she has encountered as she goes through the village
with the corpse on her hip begging for medicine for her child, who have responded
with words like 'Medicine! What's the use?', the Buddha sees that in her current
mental and emotional state she is unreceptive to the bald truth. He feels the
anguish of her state of mind and meets her just where she is, offering the prospect
of a cure through the mustard seed. But he knows that the quest he sends her on
is bound to end in a disillusion, but in the positive sense of a dis-illusion
which, paradoxically, will begin to effect the true healing she needs.
The
Buddha's action has been all-important, although he has done nothing directly
to alter Kisa's consciousness. What he has 'done' is to be absolutely present
and responsive to her and her situation, responding to her just as she is, with
just the perfect 'intervention' to catalyse this change in consciousness. It is
informed by a genius of presence, wisdom and kindness which is both perfectly
appropriate to her current emotional state yet also speaks to 'the promise in
her'.
In 'The Tiger's Whisker' the 'client' is a young woman who 'presents'
a relationship problem. Her husband has been traumatised by his war experiences.
He is depressed and irritable, prone to angry outbursts and often unable to work.
He is unrecognisable as the loving and gentle man she married and all her efforts
to communicate with him meet with failure. She does not know what to do, or if
she can go on for much longer. In her desperation, she seeks some kind of miraculous
drug, some magic bullet of an anti-depressant which will bring back the man she
married. We might say that she too is stuck with an impossible wish: that her
husband be restored miraculously to his former self, as if his war experiences
had not happened.
Our sage takes some time to reflect on her and her situation.
We can imagine him listening carefully, then for three days just sitting with
the case, waiting contemplatively ('gazing into the fire') until the right course
presents itself. He knows from the start that no potion can work this magic. We
might suppose that his contemplative holding of the case in his consciousness
then leads to the inspired suggestion of the quest for the tiger's whisker. His
reflection has led him to the intuition that only immense patience, kindness and
love will heal the husband's war trauma sufficiently to enable him to love and
trust again. The key will be the depth and extent of Yun Ok's love, expressed
through immense patience and persistence. Since she has requested a potion she
has no clue as yet that she must find these resources within herself. Her consciousness
and her self-image must change to accommodate a new picture of her own courage,
strength, resourcefulness and patience - her own capacity to respond.
But
the sage knows that words alone will not effect this change in consciousness.
Like the Buddha, this sage meets the client where she is, at her own level of
consciousness. He initiates a quest for the potion's missing ingredient. And so
Yun Ok seeks the tiger's whisker, taming him with precisely that enduring patience
and love that will be required in her marriage. It is her quality of presence
with the tiger which ends in her being able to take the whisker. Just as Yun Ok's
presence, her quality of paying kind, patient attention, of waiting and waiting
with no expectation ('Each night I brought him food, knowing that he would not
eat. But I did not give up. I came again and again, always speaking gently to
him.') is what tames the tiger, so she needs to bring these same qualities of
presence to her relationship with her husband. And it is the sage's quality of
meditatively waiting from which the 'intervention' of the quest springs forth
in the first place.
Calculative Mind and Meditative Mind
Another way of
defining therapeutic presence might be as the ability to meet 'calculative mind'
with 'meditative mind'. The terms come from Heidegger and are discussed at greater
length in both Batchelor (1990) and Watson (1998). The calculative attitude is
the habitual approach we bring to problem solving, involving linear, conceptual
thinking. This, of course, has its uses but has no creative element to it. A computer
performs calculative 'thinking' brilliantly, but of course can only perform operations
on the information already contained in it. Nothing new or surprising can emerge
from calculation.
The same distinction is expressed pithically by DH Lawrence:
Thought, I love thought.
But not the jiggling and twisting of already
existent ideas
I despise that self-important game.
Thought is the welling
up of unknown life into consciousness,
Thought is the testing of statements
on the touchstone of the conscience,
Thought is gazing on to the face of life,
and reading what can be read,
Thought is pondering over experience, and coming
to a conclusion.
Thought is not a trick, or an exercise, or a set of dodges,
Thought is a man in his wholeness wholly attending [9]
This is precisely
the kind of attitude which informs meditative thinking, which relies on a broadening
of attention so as to be receptive to how the whole situation touches the body-mind.
The hermit sage asks to hear Yun Ok's story, and while hearing it, continues
to gaze into the fireplace. This is a beautiful symbol for the meditative attitude.
As Batchelor points out, such an attitude might be better described with metaphors
of listening rather than seeing:
If we draw an analogy with sense-consciousness,
a meditative attitude listens rather than looks. Listening is more receptive than
looking. In attuning our ears we sharpen our attention so that it opens up to
the vast and subtle range of sounds that constantly surround and assail us. Even
when we select and concentrate on a particular sound, we do so in such a away
that the sound is allowed greater ease of access to enter us. Looking, however,
is often characterised by a narrowing of the attention and an almost acquisitive
focusing upon its object. It is not that the form of the object is being allowed
to enter consciousness; rather, it is we who seize and invade it. (1990, pp 47-48)
[10]
The sage does not look at Yun Ok whilst she talks. (Of course there are
parallels with the classical psychoanalytical setting here.) He turns his gaze
to the fire and enters a state of contemplation.
What Kisa and Yun Ok bring
is not solvable through calculative thinking. They both have problems which require
a change in consciousness, which can only come through a meditative attitude.
This is perhaps true of all psychotherapy clients. Each one is wrestling with
his own 'koan'. This word has been popularised in our culture and is often taken
to mean a quaintly puzzling oriental riddle such as 'what is the sound of one
hand clapping?'. Batchelor points out that the word comes from 'kung an', meaning
'public case'. Koans were instructive in the sense that they gave the student
a feeling for the breakthrough made by previous students but these could only
act as clues and cues for the kind of completely open, authentic, individual and
spontaneous engagement with the question which each practitioner must make for
himself. Each life situation, each moment, is unique and unrepeatable. No pre-figured
or 'ready-made' formulaic, calculated approach will untangle the knot of each
individual's own dilemma. What is required is un-knowing, a radical quest-ioning
where the quest is everything and quest is pursued by staying very quiet and waiting,
listening, with no expectations.
The breakthrough, if it is to come at all,
must be won by the student herself, spontaneously, in the moment, by fully embracing
the actuality of her life situation in its fullness and complexity as she meets
it in the now. In therapy this may not be the sudden flash of sartori or Zen style
enlightenment. It is more likely to be the analogous step or shift in the direction
of 'freeing up'. By analogy, the therapist can perhaps do no more than provide
the conditions for this forward movement.
In my experience, many clients begin
with a calculative attitude. One of my own clients suggested to me in all seriousness
that therapy should be like fixing a car. If the therapist cannot be like the
mechanic then why should he get paid? In our culture, with its emphasis on targets
and measurable outcomes, this attitude is pervasive. The therapist's art is then
to find the equivalent of the mustard seed and tiger's whisker which will satisfy
or distract the calculative ego while the real work of transformation happens
at a deeper level and over a longer period, probably, than we might wish it to.
This leaves scope for all kinds of approaches to be used, as long as they are
informed by the presence which ensures these responses are appropriate to that
client in that moment.
Form and Emptiness
The process of meeting calculative
mind with the spacious, waiting, contemplative attitude which informs meditative
presence is a way of meeting 'form' with 'emptiness'. These are really two aspects
of one reality, form being the aspect of impermanence which emphasises the 'suchness'
or 'isness' of phenomena, and 'emptiness' that which emphasises their transience
and non-essentiality. In the words of the Heart Sutra, a key text of Mahayana
Buddhism:
Form is emptiness and the very emptiness is form (Conze, E (trans),
1988)
In meditation, one cultivates an attitude which holds both of these
aspects. John Welwood draws an analogy between psychotherapy as practised with
this kind of presence and meditation practice:
In the therapy situation, the
client's problems or emotions are like the thoughts that arise when you are sitting.
You, the listener, provide the space which coming back to the breath allows in
meditation. You have to fully respect and bow to the form - the client's real
problem- listen to it and take it in. If you don't do that there isn't a connection
between the two of you that can effect healing. The transformation that happens
between two people in therapy is similar to what may take place inside a single
person in meditation. In mindfulness practice, as painful thoughts and emotions
arise, we note them, bow to them, acknowledge them, then let them go and come
back to the breath, which is a concrete manifestation of open space. The process
of going into and out of form in meditation is what allows transformation to take
place
the great challenge of working on oneself is in bringing our larger
open awareness to bear on our frozen karmic structures and transforming them.
That is the core of practice, I believe, in both psychotherapy and meditation.
[11]
In these stories, the medicine that is promised is equivalent to meeting
the form of the problem in the form it is originally presented by the client.
But in the end this medicine turns out to be unnecessary because the original
form of the problem has dissolved, as it were, into emptiness and a new perspective
dawns, from which the original problem now appears misconceived.
Transformation
What does this transformation which Welwood describes look and feel like?
How would someone who has recovered the open potential of their own being feel
and behave? Colloquially, it looks and feels like a 'loosening up', like a gaining
of 'spaciousness' around archaic psychic and emotional patternings. The transformation
can be described in terms of a move away from a literalistic, dualistic and predominantly
'masculine' attitude towards a more metaphorical, non-dual and androgynous one.
Going back to our stories, both Kisa and Yun Ok begin with the wish to find
a cure from outside themselves for a situation which appears as an objective one.
The 'I' 'in here' wants a potion to act on a piece of the world 'out there' and
change it. The subject here is polarised from the object and both are reified.
But the result of the quest in both cases is a bringing together of subject and
object in inter-relationship. Kisa is changed by her quest, and in changing she
comes into a new relationship with her reality. She accepts her loss and is able
to begin mourning it, symbolised by her taking the child to the charnel ground.
She is restored to the reality of process, and also finds a new relationship to
that process wherein she starts to see herself as process, interconnected with
the whole of life, which is the seed of her later enlightenment.
Yun Ok is
also transformed by her quest, finding a new sense of empowerment and response-ability
which connects her to the world in a much more creative and inter-active way,
which renders the tiger whisker itself unnecessary. Before, both seekers are separate
from the world. Afterwards, they are inter-connected with it in a way which is
closer to the reality of non-duality of subject and object.
Another way of
characterising this change in consciousness is to speak of it as a move from a
literalistic perspective to a metaphorical one. My Collins English Dictionary
defines the first three meanings of the word 'literal' as follows:
1. in exact
accordance with or limited to the primary or explicit meaning of a word or text.
2. word for word. 3. dull, factual or prosaic.
The
root is the Latin littera, letter. This is a kind of consciousness that sees the
surface of things, which perceives the world in terms of separate and discrete
objects or persons, each sharply distinct one from the other. It is a perspective
limited to the 'primary and explicit', ignoring the deeper resonances of the implicit.
In contrast, for the word 'metaphor' we have:
a figure of speech in which
a word or phrase is applied to an object or action that it does not literally
denote in order to imply a resemblance, for example he is a lion in battle.
The
root is the Greek metapherein, to transfer. It is all about linkage, connection,
three dimensions rather than two. Again this a potentially rich avenue of exploration,
which can be only touched upon in the present discussion. Some of the many possible
links which suggest themselves are Piaget's (1969) work on the development of
thinking in children, Searles' writing on concrete and metaphorical thinking in
relation to schizophrenia (1996), archetypal psychology with its emphasis on the
imaginal (for example, Hillman, 1997), and theories of art therapy (see for example
Levine (1992))
As Watson suggests, the realisation of sunyata entails a seeing
through the metaphoricity of metaphor itself . Analogously, our potion seekers
see through their own literalism, the kind of consciousness which sees only surfaces
and discrete objects to gain a new perspective, one which has a far deeper appreciation
of relationship and process.
Lastly, there is the perspective of masculine/feminine.
In both the stories a female 'client' approaches a male sage for help. But the
kind of consciousness that both approach with is 'masculine' in the sense that
it is informed by a sense of separation and seeks mastery over events. The 'therapist'
in both stories brings a 'female' consciousness to bear: open, receptive, spacious.
They meet the clients' urge to fix the problem by doing something, but finally,
as we have seen, what they offer is a meditative way of holding the problem which
enables another kind of resolution. Their attitude and the 'therapeutic field'
it helps to create is something like the Taoist bowl, the usefulness of which
is the emptiness inside.
The outcome of these 'interventions', for both clients
is a better balance of masculine and feminine. Kisa Gotami gains the beginning
of an identity based not on the fragile foundation of her social role as a mother
and wife, but on the open potential of her being, a step which will eventually
lead to her towards enlightenment, which we can understand as an unrestricted
embodying of this open dimension of being. Yun Ok leaves behind her sense of helplessness
and starts to experience her own authority, heading back down the mountain trail
to meet her husband with (we imagine) a new sense of her power to influence the
relationship, and perhaps much more beyond this.
The re-initiation into presence
(re-initiation because this was never lost, only obscured) which this change in
consciousness promotes is beautifully described by Huntingdon:
The Madhyamika
[Buddhist tradition] is radically deconstructive, pragmatic philosophy designed
to be used for exposing, defusing and dismantling the reifying tendencies inherent
in language and conceptual thought.
All it does is dissolve the old questions
which are seen to have been misguided from the start, leaving behind nothing other
than a dramatic awareness of the living present - an epiphany of one's entire
form of life. No form of conceptual diffusion remains, and no questions begging
for answers that reinforce a deep-seated resistance to acceptance that this life,
as it is now lived, is the only arbiter of truth and reality. [12]
Analogously,
a psychotherapy which offers the 'medicine of emptiness' can help clients to free
themselves of efforts to defend and sustain archaic identities and to re-ground
themselves, through a process of healthy dis-illusion, in the community of interbeing
- which, paradoxically, they never left. The experience is conveyed beautifully
by these words of William Carlos Williams:
I have had my dream-like others-
and it has come to nothing, so that
I remain now carelessly
with feet
planted on the ground
and look up at the sky-
feeling my clothes about
me,
the weight of my body in my shoes,
the rim of my hat, air passing
in and out
at my nose - and decide to dream no more. [13]
A Core of Mystery?
Of course the quest for new and better theories goes on. Indeed, I have spent
the last many pages expounding my own variety! Here I am tempted to paraphrase
the Zen master Shu - an, who counselled that 'When one happens on a [paper] of
this kind, he is well advised to throw it away'.
In a culture of SMART objectives
and cost-benefit analysis, the psychotherapy profession needs to engage in dialogue
with the culture's collective 'calculative mind' and it is right that it does
so. But perhaps we should do so whilst also knowing that we do not know. The two
tales which I have recounted here may suggest a way of holding that paradox and
at the same time of making room for a rich and diverse range of therapeutic interventions.
Psychotherapists have many mustard seeds and tiger's whiskers to offer, whether
of Cognitive- Behavioural, Experiential, Psychoanalytic, humanistic, Buddhist
or other varieties. As we do so, however, we need to avoid that rationalistic
pride which might take our medicine too literally, and give space to the possibility
of a 'medicine of emptiness' which preserves the place of mystery and grace at
the heart of healing. Such an approach would, I believe, have been favoured by
Jung himself:
Theories are to be avoided, except as mere auxiliaries. As soon
as a dogma is made of them, it is evident that an inner doubt is being stifled.
Very many theories are needed before we can get even a rough picture of the psyche's
complexity. It is therefore quite wrong when people accuse psychotherapists of
being unable to reach agreement even on their own theories. Agreement could only
spell one-sidedness and desiccation. One could as little catch the psyche in a
theory as one could catch the world. Theories are not articles of faith, they
are either instruments of knowledge and of therapy, or they are no good at all.
(CW 16, para 198)
© Stephen Silverton 2004.
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Sour Grapes, The Four Seas Company
* Specific, Measurable, Realistic and Timebound
[1] See Watson (1998)
for a very thorough discussion of Western understandings of 'sunyata'
[2]
See Waldon, 2002, p141-160
[3] See Analyo, 2003, p244
[4] 'Auguries of
Innocence' in (ed) Erdman, 1997
[5] James Low, 'Buddhist Developmental Psychology',
p120
[6] This version of the story comes from Saddhaloka (2001) and the original
text from Rhys Davids (trans) 1980.
[7] This version of the tale is from Courlander
(1995)
[8] Gittings (ed), 1970
[9] Thought' in Lawrence, DH, 1932
[10]
Interestingly, the word 'theory' comes originally from the Greek theorein, 'to
gaze upon'.
[11] Welwood, J 'Principles of Inner Work: Psychological and Spiritual'
in Journal of Transpersonal Psychology. Vol 16, no.1 1984, quoted in Watson
[12]
Huntingdon, CW 'The Emptiness of Emptiness', p136,quoted in Watson, 1998,
[13]
'Thursday', in 'Sour Grapes', The Four Seas Company, 1921
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Pain:
The Way of Pain
By Howard Beckman
Excerpt from Halfway up the mountain: The Error
of Premature Claims to enlightenment (pgs. 448-454) by Mariana Caplan
The
Way of pain
The sanskrit word saha means "to endure, to go patiently through
hardships without rebelling."1 The process of disillusionment is an unquestionably
painful process at times. Genuine spiritual life has never been popular, and never
will be, because most people are unwilling to open to and accept pain.
Reggie
Ray says that the first time he ever heard his teacher talk, Trungpa Rinpoche
spoke about suffering. "He was the first person I ever heard who acknowledged
how bad things really are. And I thought to myself, 'That's it! That's what I
want! I want to find out what is going on here and to explore it.'" According
to Ray, their tradition places a great emphasis on the buddha's first noble truth
that life is suffering not because anyone wants to suffer, but because suffering
is what is true of life.
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell
that encloses your understanding," writes Kahlil Gibran. It is quite conceivable
that not only is pain a necessary aspect of the spiritual process, but that to
consciously enter into and experience suffering is the doorway to a more profound
understanding of reality, something to even be sought after.
"The
thing that many people would consider to be pain," says Ray, "...the
thing they want to get rid of, that's demonic, that's the devil, that's their
downfall...that's actually the only way out. There's no other way out." He
suggests that the quality most people think of as pain is actually heat, a heat
that is not pleasant but that represents reality.
In any situation or
any state of mind your are in, there is always a point of heat, and we experience
that as pain. But actually it's just heat, and that's what Trungpa Rinpoche calls
the 'Great Eastern sun'. It's the place where reality is coming up above the horizon
where it is dawning, and that becomes our point of orientation. So I'm not saying
to look for suffering, but i am saying that you have to look for the heat. There's
a huge area of self-satisfaction and then there is an area where there is a crack
in the door of ego. And there is a bright light coming in and it's very irritating
and it's not pleasant, but that's what you have to look for. You are looking for
it not because there is anything great about suffering, but because that's the
way out.
I had a friend who was in a plane crash a number of years ago
and she said that when the plane crashed it was pitch dark and the whole thing
was on fire, and then somebody saw a crack of light and said, 'The light is over
here!' and that is how they saved themselves, because somebody saw this light.
That's what we have to do. We have to look for the crack in the shell of ego
where there's a bright light coming through. It is too bright and it's irritating
and it's painful, but that's the way out.
The very thing that spiritual
aspirants, as well as all other people, seek to avoid is the exit which they so
desperately claim to want to locate. "If you sit with an open mind,"
says Ray, "all of your shit is basically going to come up. And then the idea
is not to go get out your broom and sweep it away, but to actually live through
it. You have to live through your pain."
This pain is so crucial
to one's spiritual understanding that Ray goes so far as to say that if one is
not in touch with it their practice should be to intentionally look for and relate
to the pain in any situation.
If you're in an environment that is ninety-nine
percent bliss and one percent pain, the pain actually represents reality to you.
You need to look for it and need to find it. Most of the time, we're in so much
pain that that's not an issue, but sometimes things go really, really well. In
our tradition, we say that when you are in that kind of situation, you need to
be aware of the whole situation and not fixate on the bliss or try to perpetuate
it, but actually to relate to the pain in the bliss. It is said that there is
no one-hundred percent happiness, that even in a so-called bliss state there is
always a shadow. I know that anytime I've experienced something like that, that
there is at least the fear of losing it somewhere on the periphery of that experience.
In buddhism you have to pay a lot of attention to the shadows in any situation
you're in - not because you're torturing yourself, but because that represents
the earth, that's the ground. In our tradition, pain is the vanguard of enlightenment.
pain is ego's response to Reality.
pain is not only the way out, but the
way in and down. spiritual life can easily become imbalanced and fixated at a
certain point if the bright aspect of truth or god is not balanced with its shadow
aspect. St. John of the cross says that the principal value of the 'dark night
of contemplation' is to know one's own misery, which brings balance and humility
to the exalted states of communion and abundance.
This is the first and
principal benefit caused by this arid and dark night of contemplation: the knowledge
of oneself and of one's misery. For, besides the fact that all the favours which
god grants to the soul are habitually granted to them enwrapped in this knowledge,
these aridities and this emptiness of the faculties compared with the abundance
which the soul experienced aforetime and the difficulty which it finds in good
works, makes it recognize its own lowliness and misery, which in the time of its
prosperity it was unable to see.
St. John of the cross, dark night of the soul,
76-77
In his writings, St. John of the cross eloquently describes how,
once the student has experienced the sweetness and pleasures of meditation and
prayer and found some degree of strength in their connection with god, "god
desires to lead them further..wherein they can commune with Him more abundantly."
He says that often when one is amidst the greatest pleasures, and when they believe
that "the sun of divine favour is shining most brightly upon them,"
god sets them down into darkness and shuts the door to the "source of sweet
spiritual water which they were tasting in god whensoever and so long as they
desired."
For as I have said, god now sees that they have grown a
little, and are becoming strong enough to set aside their swaddling clothes and
be taken from the gentle breast; so He sets them down from His arms and teaches
them to walk on their own feet which they feel to be very strange, for everything
seems to be going wrong with them.
St. John of the cross, dark night of the
soul, 62-63
The pain that god gives is His gift, and not His curse, as
it is so often felt to be. The practitioner earns the privilege of being placed
down from the safe arms of communion with god into unbuffered reality so that
he or she can learn to be held and to move from within.
One cannot have
a full spiritual life if one has not come to terms with one's pain. Life is painful
anyway. pain can be temporarily evaded or drugged or resisted, but it cannot ultimately
be avoided. There is pain in "neurotic suffering," which is the way
we ordinarily think of pain, and there is also the pain of "suffering for
god," or suffering with humanity. They are very different types of suffering,
but both are suffering; and whereas neurotic suffering only perpetuates itself,
suffering for god, or enlightened suffering, serves all of humanity.
In
order to serve humanity, one must know humanity. Ray explains that students in
their tradition are encouraged to explore great depths of suffering so they may
know it as an important aspect of the totality of life. He shows how, through
his teacher's example and guidance, he was shown the value of suffering.
You
have the god realm, jealous god realm, human realm, animal realm, hungry ghost
realm, and hell realm. The full range of possible human experience is included
within those six realms. With Trungpa Rinpoche as a teacher, what we did was we
explored the realms, and we're still exploring them. It's almost like he put a
time bomb in us to explore those realms - all of them. Why? Because of the Boddhisattva
vow to help sentient beings. We have to go through all of those experiences in
order to be helpful to other people. If you can't be in a hell realm, if you've
never been there, then you really can't help someone else who is there because
you yourself are resistant to it. You are not willing to go there and so you can't
be helpful. Trungpa Rinpoche was a very demanding teacher in that way. If you
were looking for some kind of state of mind, or bliss state, or spiritual high,
or charisma, or to be "zapped" in a certain way, he wasn't the teacher
for you. Somebody once asked him, "Have you ever been in the hell realm?"
"Of course," he said. "What did you do when you were there?"
they asked him. "Tried to stay there," he told them. Now that is very
different from the average guru, who is basically promising some kind of escape
from reality.
Jai ram Smith says, "You can attain liberation, and
you can live there for an almost indefinite period of time through the grace of
that experience. You can earn that kind of karma. But sooner or later you have
to come back to reality. So E.J. gold's work with us was to take us into the hell
realms and the bardos, because if you can awaken in hell, then you can work anywhere."
traveling in the hell realms is certainly different from what the average
guru promises, but most extraordinary teachers and practitioners do value the
full spectrum of life, no matter what they call it, and encourage their students
to do the same. Joan Halifax says that although divine mothers and saviors can
be lovely and helpful, "that doesn't happen to be my job. I'm sort of a 'chop
wood, carry water type.'" She then adds, "I like going to the hell realms.
My job is the hell realms." Because Halifax has taken her decades of sadhana
and brought them to high security penitentiaries in order to serve prisoners on
death row, one can believe that she means what she says.
Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee:
So Few Things Really matter. It's such a relief. You know, so few things really
matter - only to be with your Beloved, as He wills, not as you will. It's really
all the grace of god, the experiences you are given. It's all because He wants
to reveal a part of Himself, And sometimes you are allowed to witness a little
bit of it, but mostly not. Mostly it would be too difficult. "There"
there is so much love, so much intimacy, and then you wake up in the morning,
and you have to go to work you have to do your everyday things, to look after
the kids, to be on time. "there" there is no time. "There"
everything is given, you don't have to work for anything.
It's often funny
that when you get too far in that direction, the world comes and knocks on your
door. suddenly you get a speeding ticket or something, just to bring you down.
You are also an ordinary human being who has to accept that you live in this world
with all of the limitations of this world. "There" you are so free,
it is so limitless, and here if you get on an airplane you get jet lag, you have
to rent a car, all of that business. It's not always easy.
If you're in
an environment that is ninety-nine percent bliss and one percent pain, the pain
actually represents reality to you. You need to look for it and need to find it.
Most of the time, we're in so much pain that that's not an issue, but sometimes
things go really, really well. In our tradition, we say that when you are in that
kind of situation, you need to be aware of the whole situation and not fixate
on the bliss or try to perpetuate it, but actually to relate to the pain in the
bliss. It is said that there is no one-hundred percent happiness, that even in
a so-called bliss state there is always a shadow. I know that anytime I've experienced
something like that, that there is at least the fear of losing it somewhere on
the periphery of that experience. In buddhism you have to pay a lot of attention
to the shadows in any situation you're in - not because you're torturing yourself,
but because that represents the earth, that's the ground. In our tradition, pain
is the vanguard of enlightenment. pain is ego's response to Reality.
bahai
Sahib: When you come to a spiritual teacher you have to be naked.
Annick
D'Astier: There is an idea that with the spiritual life that there will be an
increase in the amount of happy experiences and a decrease in the amount of unhappy
experiences. The difference is in the way in which we live those experiences.
Chogyam Trungpa: Sudden enlightenment comes only with exhaustion.
Chuang-Tzu:
All men know the utility of useful things; but they do not know the utility of
futility.
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Paraphrase
of Gungtang Rinpoche's
Advice from an Experienced Old Man
(Nyams-myong rgan-po'i 'bel-gtam yid-'byung dmar-khrid)
Geshe Ngawang
Dhargyey
written from notes taken by Alexander Berzin
from the oral translation
by Sharpa Rinpoche
Dharamsala, India, September 5 - 12, 1975
[The paraphrase
of the text is flush with the margin. Geshe Dhargyey's comments are indented
These
teachings on suffering are from Advice of an Experienced Old Man by the precious
master Gungtang Rinpoche (Gung-thang-bzang dKon- mchog bstan-pa'i sgron- me) (1762-1823).
Containing many parables, they flow as a story in verse form, based on scripture.
The main point of the teaching is to help us to develop renunciation and the determination
to be free, and in general to lay the ground for bodhichitta to attain enlightenment
for everyone's benefit.
Homage to the untainted Buddha who has abandoned the
seeds of rebirth uncontrollably recurring from the force of karma and disturbing
emotions and who, consequently, does not experience the sufferings of old age,
sickness, and death.
In the middle of the vast, lonely, wild plain of samsara
lives an old man visited by a young lad, proud of his youth and health. They have
this discussion.
"Hey old man, why do you act, look, and speak differently
from others?"
To that, the old man replies, "If you say I act, walk,
move, and speak differently, do not feel you are flying in the sky above. Land
back down on the same earth as me and listen to my words."
Some youth
feel that old age is only for the aged and that it will never come to them. They
are very arrogant and have no patience to have anything to do with old people.
The old man continues, "A few years ago, I was much stronger, more handsome,
and more vigorous than you. I was not born the way I am now. If I ran, I could
even catch up with flying horses."
Most
old people speak like this. The present is never as good as the old days were.
"If I caught something, I could even catch bare-handedly yaks of the
nomad lands. My body was so flexible, I could move like a bird in the sky. My
body was so fit, I looked like a youthful god. I wore the brightest colored clothes
and loads of ornaments of gold and silver, ate tons of delicious food and sweets,
and rode mighty steeds. I hardly ever sat alone without playing, laughing, and
enjoying myself. Hardly any happiness exis ts that I have not experienced.
"At
that time, I never thought of the impermanence of my life or about my death. Nor
did I expect to go through the suffering of old age as I am now."
Once
there was a young person the region where I lived, who led a luxurious life and
always indulged in pleasures. Slowly he became old, his body bent, his income
decreased. He said to his friends, "I never thought old age would come so
suddenly."
"Living with the distraction of involvement with friends,
parties, and having a good time, old age sneaks up and overcomes you in the midst
of the sound of your laughter."
Geshe Kamapa said, "We should be
grateful that old age comes slowly. If it came all at once, it would be unbearable.
If at thirty years old we went to sleep and woke up looking eighty, we could not
bear seeing ourselves. We do not comprehend our own old age. How we grew old is
a total mystery to us. When all of a sudden we realize our old age, it takes a
while to accept it. Then it is too late. Although it is said that the practice
of Dharma for a few hours before death is helpful, to engage in tantra we need
a physically fit body. Therefore, it is important to start tantric practice while
still young.
"When we become very old, we dislike our own selves when
we look in a mirror. At that time, our bodies and minds become weak. Our bodies
begin to degenerate from head to toe. Our heads are bent as if always receiving
a vase initiation.
"The white hair on my head, with no black left, it
is not a sign of purification. It is the arrow of frost from the mouth of the
Lord of Death, which has landed on my head. The lines on my forehead are not the
creases on a pudgy infant drinking milk from his mother. It is the count by messengers
of the Lord of Death of how many years I have already lived. When I squint, it
is not because smoke is in my eyes. It is a sign of being helpless with the degeneration
of my sensory powers. When I try to make a big effort to hear with my hand by
my ear, it is not because I am making a secret communication. It is a sign of
the degeneration of my hearing.
"When I dribble and snot comes from my
nose, it is not a pearl adornment on my face. It is a sign of the thawing of the
ice of youthful vigor by the sunshine of old age. Loosing my teeth is not a sign
of cutting a new set like a young child. It is a sign of the wearing out of the
tools of eating which the Lord of Death is putting away. When much saliva comes
out and I spit when I talk, it is not like sprinkling water on the earth to clean
it. It is a sign of an end of all the words I shall say. When I speak incoherently
and stumble over words, it is not that I am speaking a strange foreign language.
It is a sign of my tongue being tired with a lifetime of idle chatter.
"When
my appearance becomes ugly, it is not that I am trying to hide behind the mask
of a monkey. It is a sign of the total degeneration of the body that I have borrowed.
When my head shakes a lot, it is not that I am disagreeing with you. It is a sign
of the overwhelming power of the stick of the Lord of Death that has hit my head.
When I walk bent over, it is not that I am trying to find a needle I have lost.
It is a clear indication of the degeneration of the element of earth in my body.
"When I get up rising on my hands and knees, I am not imitating a four-
legged animal. It is because the support of my feet is no longer sufficient. When
I sit down, it is like dropping a bag of something. It is not that I am angry
with my friends. It is the loss of control of my body.
When I walk slowly,
I am not trying to walk like a great statesman. It is because I have lost the
complete sense of balance in my body. When my hands shake, it is not that I am
waving my hands out of greed to get something. It is a sign of the fear of everything
being taken away from me by the Lord of Death. When I can eat and drink only a
little, it is not because I am miserly or stingy. It is a sign of the degeneration
of the digestive heat at my navel. When I wear light clothes, it is not an attempt
to imitate athletes. It is because the weakness of my body makes any clothes a
burden to wear.
"When breathing is difficult and I get out of breath,
it is not that I am healing someone by blowing a mantra. It is a sign of weakness
and exhaustion of the energies in my body. When I do very little and have few
activities, it is not from intentionally controlling my activities. It is because
of the limit of what an old man can do. When I am very forgetful, it is not because
I think others unimportant and look down on them. It is a sign of the degeneration
of the consciousness of my memory.
"O young man, do not tease and make
fun of me. What I experience now is not exclusive to me. Everyone experiences
this. You wait and see; in three years, the first few messengers of old age will
come to you. You will not believe or like what I say, but you will learn from
experience. In this time of the five degenerations, you will be lucky to live
to be as old as I am. Even if you live as long as I have, you will not be able
to speak as much as I can."
The young man replies, "Instead of being
able to live as long as you and become as ugly and ignored as you are and put
in the ranks of dogs, it is better to die."
The old man laughs. "Young
man, you are very ignorant and stupid to wish to live long and be happy, but not
to have old age. Death may sound simple, but it is not that easy. To be able to
die peacefully and happily, you need to be someone who has not accepted wrongly
obtained offerings or broken the morality of the ten positive actions, and who
has accumulated much listening to the Dharma, contemplation, and meditation. Then
death is simple.
"I do not feel this way, however. I have no confidence
of my having done anything constructive. I am afraid of death and am grateful
for each day I can stay alive. My strong wish is to stay alive each day."
The young man changes his mind and says, "Old man, everything you say
is true. What others have told me about the suffering of old age agrees with what
I have seen in you. Your demonstration of old age to me has been very beneficial
to my mind. I am amazed at the suffering of old age. O wise old man, if you have
heard of any methods to escape old age, do not keep them a secret; share them
with me and tell me the truth."
The old man pleasingly says, "There
definitely is a method. If you know it, it is easy to follow. With little effort,
we can quickly be liberated from this suffering. Although everyone who is born
dies, very few die after growing old. Many die young without having the opportunity
to reach old age. The methods are in Buddha's teachings. They contain many methods
to gain liberation and enlightenment, in other words not to be reborn, get old,
sicken, or die; but we have not practiced them."
Once in a monastery
house there was a self-made lama. He was a junior member in the monastery, and
most of the monks did not pay attention to him. They had a meeting to discuss
the future of the house. He said to prepare ropes and sheets to bind corpses.
Everyone said this was a bad omen and got angry with him. They then discussed
what everyone should do to help the monastery. He said to meditate on impermanence.
In saying this, he gave them a great teaching. Many later Dalai Lamas have praised
him. To prepare for the future, one needs to prepare for death.
"Everyone
wants immortality and the methods to attain it. But to be born and not to die
is impossible. Even thousands of Fully Enlightened Beings, including Sakyamuni
Buddha, have passed away. And as for the bodhisattvas and great gurus of the past,
only their names remain. The same is evident in the history of the world. All
great historical figures have died and only ruins are left. Thus, we must not
forget the reality of our impending deaths. Even the great gurus of the present
will pass away. Babies born today will all be dead in a hundred years. So how
can you, young man, expect that you alone will live forever? Therefore, it is
advisable to prepare yourself spiritually for death.
"A long lifespan
cannot be bought with money or gained through physical comfort. If you have spiritual
confidence and know what you want out of life, then the older you grow physically,
the more happiness and youth of mind you will have. If you enjoy great physical
comfort but have led an empty life, then the older you grow, the unhappier you
become. You have to travel as a tourist to distract your mind from worrying about
death. On the other hand, even if you have just a little spiritual confidence,
the closer you approach death, the more you feel like a son returning to a happy
home. You are not repelled by death, but look forward to continuing lives of happiness."
Once a great spiritual master said, "Because I have complete confidence
in my future births; I have no worry. Death can come at any time, and I welcome
it."
"Since the suffering of death is inevitable, we must do something
about it. We cannot just sit and be depressed. As humans we have the wisdom to
try many methods. Even Buddha cannot give you more explicit teachings, young man.
I have spoken from my heart. Although this is my true heartfelt advice, do not
rely only on my words alone; analyze them for yourself. Do practices concerning
impermanence on your own. There is a proverb, 'Ask for the opinions of others,
but make the decision yourself.' If you let many make decisions for you, many
will give you different advice."
The young man says, "All you say
is very true and beneficial. But, for the next few years I cannot do these things.
I have other work to do. I have a large estate, wealth, and so on. I must do much
business and tend to my property. After a few years I must meet you again, and
then I shall do the practices."
The old man becomes very unhappy and
says, "Everything you have told me now turns out to be empty words and meaningless.
I have had the same thing, the wish to do something meaningful after a few years;
but I never did anything and now have grown old. I know how vain what you say
is. Things to do in a few years time will never end. You will always put them
off. Things to do in a few years time are like an old man's beard; if you shave
today, you will grow more tomorrow. After procrastinating until tomorrow and tomorrow,
soon you will find your life is over. This procrastination of Dharma practice
has fooled everyone. I have no confidence in you that you will ever practice Dharma.
Therefore, it is a total waste for us to talk. Go back to your home and do whatever
you want, and let me say some mani's (mantras)."
The young man becomes
very surprised and feels a bit hurt. He says, "How can you even think of
saying such things to me? Tell me, how quickly can material things be accomplished
in this life?"
The old man laughs, "You ask me these questions,
so I guess I have to answer how long it takes to accomplish anything. In the southern
direction lives the Lord of Death who cares not at all whether you have finished
your work or not. He does whatever he wants. If you can have friendly relations
with him and get his permission to accomplish something in life, then you can
relax. Otherwise, you can never relax. People die in the middle of a cup of tea,
while food is on the table, while walking, before they can finish taking a whiff
of snuff.
"This happens to everyone, even great masters. Many of their
teachings are incomplete, because they died before they finished writing them.
So when the Lord of Death comes, you cannot say, 'I have a big estate and much
work to do.' You cannot boast of anything to him; you have to leave everything.
In this respect we are completely powerless. We cannot determine out lifespan.
Therefore, if you are able to do anything, start practicing now. That will be
meaningful; otherwise, your estates alone are meaningless. But nowadays there
are few people who tell the truth about what will benefit you. What is even more
rare is someone who will listen to sincere advice."
The youth is deeply
moved and, having built up great respect for the old man, takes a few steps back
and prostrates to him. He says, "No other lamas surrounded by golden banners,
Geshes, or yogis have more profound teachings that what you have said. You have
the appearance of an ordinary old man, but you are actually a great spiritual
friend. I give my word of honor to practice all you have said, to the best of
my ability, and in the future, please give me more teachings."
The
old man agrees and accepts. He says, "I do not know much, but I have experienced
a great deal. I can teach you from that. The most difficult thing is to make a
beginning and establish yourself in the Dharma. To begin practicing Dharma after
you are already old is more difficult. Therefore, it is important to start at
a young age."
"When young, your memory is fresh; you have dynamic
intelligence and the physical strength to build up positive force by prostrations.
In terms of tantra, the strength and vigor of your energy channels are very good
when young. If at a young age, you can break through the barrier of greed and
attachment to material possessions and involve yourself in spiritual activities,
it is very valuable. Once you have accepted the Dharma, understood its essential
points, and gotten into its spirit, then everything you do, say, and think will
be Dharma."
Milarepa and Ra Lotsawa said the same, "When I eat,
walk, sit, or sleep - it is Dharma practice."
"There are no rigid
rules in Dharma. So, try not to have too many thoughts or a fickle mind. Start
now and keep up your interest in Dharma. Do not change your mind every minute.
From this moment on, dedicate your life - body, speech, and mind - to Dharma practice."
Now the old man tells the youth what Dharma entails, "First, find a well-qualified
spiritual mentor and devote yourself properly to him with your thoughts and actions.
How much you can benefit others depends on finding a proper spiritual mentor and
on your wholehearted committed relationship with him."
Atisha emphasized
this point. He often related that he had an equally wholehearted commitment to
all 155 of his gurus.
"Then, you need to observe your words of honor
and vows to practice the ten constructive actions. Safeguard them as you would
your eyes. Cut off your attachment to this life, like a wild elephant breaking
a chain. Then accumulate listening, contemplation, and meditation, and do the
three together. Support this all with the seven- limbed practice. This is way
to build up positive force, to accumulate merit. Having done this, Buddhahood
is at your fingertips."
The Fifth Dalai Lama said that if a qualified
mentor guides a qualified disciple, Buddhahood can be shaped in one's own hands.
Milarepa also said that if you have a qualified mentor and a qualified disciple
practicing his qualified teachings, then Buddhahood is not outside you; it is
within. One must always stress, however, that the guru must be properly qualified.
"This is happiness; this is joy. O dear son, if you practice in this
way all your wishes will be fulfilled."
These teachings are very beneficial
for taming the mind. They soften a tough mind. A proverb says, "Do not be
like a leather bag for containing butter. Do not be like a pebble in a stream."
A leather bag does not become soft no matter how much butter is inside. No matter
how long a stone stays in a stream, it too does not become soft.
From that
day on, the young man practiced pure Dharma unmixed with the eight worldly, childish
feelings.
We need to try to do the same. The more teachings we have heard,
the more we need to practice and cultivate ourselves through them, and not be
like pebbles in a stream that never get soft.
The old man says, "I have
heard these teachings from my spiritual mentors and they are also based on my
own experience. May this benefit limitless sentient beings for the sake of their
happiness."
The author ends: Although I have practiced little and
lack Dharma experience, yet because of the diversity of sentient beings' dispositions,
maybe these teachings will be of benefit to some. With the hope of benefiting
the minds of limited beings, I have written this with sincerity and pure motivation.
These teachings on impermanence are not just an interesting story I thought up
to tell, but are based on The Four Hundred Stanzas by Aryadeva.
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Questions
& Answers with Venerable Chanmyay Sayadaw in South Africa
Dhamma
Talk with Q&A at the Lam Rim, Tibetan Buddhist Centre, Johannesburg, Sunday,
31st January 1999
Q. When suffering ends, do all emotions also fall away?
Is there still a state of joy?
A. In accordance with Buddhist abhidhamma /
Buddhist philosophy, there are two types of happiness. One is happiness which
can be felt, although we say the other is happiness, it's not happiness, it's
peace which cannot be felt but we get into it. Happiness which can be felt is
called vedethasukkha. The happiness or peace which cannot be felt but can be experienced
is called santisukkha, that's peacefulness. When the dukkha (suffering) ends there's
no feeling of happiness sensation, happy feeling but we experience peace because
there is no suffering at all. So when suffering ends, we experience peace, no
emotional states, no feeling, no sensation but there's peace when suffering ends,
that's called santisukkha.
Q. What happens when our physical body dies?
A.
When the physical body dies there's the mental state that arises after the disappearance
of the last consciousness of the previous life. After the disappearance of the
last consciousness of the previous life another mental state arises in the next
existence, though the body has died. We call that rebirth. The first consciousness
of the next existence is related by cause and effect.
Q. In psychology, dreams
are used to gain a fuller understanding of a person's being. Do dreams have a
role in Buddhism?
A. In Buddhism, there's no role for dreams.
Q. Who am
I? Please explain.
A. You are mental and physical phenomena.
Q. How does
Sayadaw suggest to approach the spontaneous arising of colours and visualisations
during meditation?
A. The colours are seen by the mind, a mental state which
must be observed until that mind has disappeared. When you see colours, the consciousness
of seeing is an absolute reality which must be realized , you must observe it,
"seeing, seeing, seeing", until that colour has disappeared, then that
consciousness of seeing has disappeared. Whatever you have in your mind while
you are meditating must be observed until it has disappeared.
Q. Sayadaw suggested
that we shouldn't analyse or think things through but the moment that we're trying
to work out what we're doing, an emotion or an activity or whatever, you are actually
analysing to an extent.
A. No need to analyse any emotional states or mental
states because you know what your emotion is, you observe it but you don't have
any word for the emotional state, just observe it, that's enough.
Q. Do you
have any advice for people who understand the meditation technique but they also
want to get some benefit from the meditation in their daily life at work, at home,
with their families? How can they apply the meditation to their daily life?
A.
They can have a general awareness of what they are doing. In a meditation retreat
or meditation centre, you have to slow down your actions and movements so that
you can be aware of each individual action very precisely. At home you need not
slow down, you can do all actions and movements normally and steadily but you
should be generally aware of what you are doing. I think that you may have, say,
about thirty or forty minutes of time for meditation, then you walk ten minutes
and sit thirty minutes. Walking first and sitting later. Every sitting should
be preceded by walking meditation because in the walking meditation the object
of meditation is very prominent to yor mind so you can concentrate better than
in the sitting. So you walk first, then sit. Suppose you have one hour for meditation,
then you should practise walking meditation for twenty minutes, another forty
minutes, you sit.
Q. We practice Loving Kindness meditation towards all sentient
beings. Are the algae in the swimming pool and the ticks on the dog sentient beings?
A.
In Loving Kindness meditation, there are two types; one is specific loving kindness,
the other is unspecific or general loving kindness. For specific loving kindness
meditation, you have to choose a person or a group of persons and say, "May
these beings be happy and peaceful", in that way you can concentrate on that
person (or persons) to a certain extent. But for unspecific meditation you have
to wish for the welfare of all living beings of the world then your mind is not
well concentrated on all these beings but you have developed the spirit of loving
kindness in you because you wish all these beings peace and happiness, then your
mind becomes calm and concentrated to a certain extent. Specific loving kindness
enables the meditator to concentrate better on the object of meditation than unspecific
loving kindness. Any being which is regarded as living is included in unspecific
Loving Kindness meditation.
Q. This meditation can remove our own suffering
but how can we remove the suffering of others?
A. In Buddhism, no-one can do
it for the other people. If he wants to be happy he must do it for himself. But
we can help the other people to get rid of sufferingto a certain extent by advising
them and giving them a hand but he must try himself to get rid of suffering. Now
you see we came here to teach you how to meditate, vipassana meditation so that
you can remove your suffering to a certain extent. So in this way, we are helping
the other people to get rid of their suffering.
Q. Can prayers help these people?
A.
Yes, there may be some help from the prayer of the other people because some people
have faith. If they hear the other people praying they feel happy. In this way,
the prayer of some people can help the other people to a certain extent.
Q.
Does the practice of morality (keeping precepts), kind and compassionate living
with good relationships lead to the reduction of suffering?
A. Yes. As you
know, in Buddhism we have five precepts to observe, that's morality. When you
observe the five precepts, you have to abstain from killing, taking what is not
given, any kind of sexual misconduct, telling lies and any kind of intoxicants.
If you refrain from harming any living beings, the other people are not hurt,
then you can reduce their suffering by observing your precepts.
Q. Is the Sigolavada
sutta of benefit to people today?
A. Yes, today too.
In Pretoria, being
interviewed by Ms Ufreida Ho of The Star newspaper, Monday, 1st February 1999.
Q.
Is meditation the easiest way to access Buddhist teachings?
A. Yes, I think
so. The easiest way to approach Buddhism is through meditation.
Q. Can anybody
do it?
A. Yes, anybody can do it, irrespective of race, religion or nationality.
Q.
Do you see Buddhism as a religion or a way of life?
A. What do you mean by
the word religion?
Q. Is it a fixed religion like Christianity or Judaism?
A.
We don't believe in any God, in any divine power or cosmic consciousness but what
we believe is in our own action, Kamma. So Buddhism is much more than a way of
life, it's a way of liberation from suffering.
Q. Why do you think that the
Western World has become so drawn to the Buddhist way of life?
A. I think,
in the Western World, the people have had much material development which cannot
satisfy their needs so they try to have their mind satisfied with their spiritual
development or mental development. Buddhism teaches all the people to develop
their mind into the liberation from all kinds of suffering. By practising Buddhism
one can liberate one's mind from all kinds of suffering. So it means that if we
practise meditation it enables the meditator to live in peace and happiness. That
peace and happiness of the mind, I think, attracts the Western World to follow
Buddhism.
Q. What are the first steps for the meditation?
A. To start the
meditation, you have to train, you have to observe the precepts, so that you speech
and deeds are purified. Purification of deeds and speech is the basic requirement
for a meditator to start with it. That's why you have to observe the precepts.
The Buddha laid down such precepts as five precepts, eight precepts, nine precepts
and the two hundred and twenty seven precepts for bhikkhus. First of all, you
have to observe these precepts so that you can purify your deeds and speech. Based
on the purification of deeds and speech you practise either samatha meditation
or vipassana meditation. We have in Buddhism two types of meditation, the first
is samatha meditation the other is vipassana meditation. Samatha or serenity or
tranquillity meditation is practised to attain a higher degree of concentration
which makes your mind calm and peaceful, not to realise any mental or physical
phenomena. Vipassana or insight or mindfulness meditation is practised to attain
some degree of concentration as well as the realisation of the true nature of
your bodily and mental phenomena. Through realisation of mental and physical phenomena
in their true nature, you can remove some mental defilements or negative mental
states which are the causes of suffering. In this way, you can attain the cessation
of suffering then you can live in peace and happiness. Both meditations should
be practised by a meditator based on the purification of deed and speech which
can be gained by observing the precepts.
Q. The goal of meditation then would
be to have that peacefulness or is the goal enlightenment?
A. The goal of peacefulness
can be attained through enlightenment. Unless one is enlightened, he can't achieve
the goal of peace, the goal of peace here means Nibbana - the cessation of all
kinds of suffering. It can be attained through enlightenment. This enlightenment
can be attained through the practise of this meditation, mindfulness meditation
or vipassana meditation.
Q. How often would someone have to meditate? Is the
meditation incorporated into your daily life?
A. Yes meditation can be incorporated
into daily life. Meditation is not for a person who stays in a meditation retreat
or meditation centre, it's for all the people at home, for daily life. This vipassana
meditation is called mindfulness meditation too, that means that you are mindful
of whatever arises in you body and mind as it really occurs. In other words, you
are mindful of any activity of your mind and body as it is from moment to moment.
So you can apply this mindfulness to your daily life, you should be mindful of
whatever you are doing as it really occurs. That is meditation. In this way your
mindfulness of all actions and movements becomes powerful, continuous and sustained
and everything you do is done mindfully. Then there's no wrong doing, false acts
or false speech because of mindfulness. But the benefit of mindfulness is not
only that but to liberate your mind from all defilements and all suffering. But
you have to practise it continuously and intensively at a meditation centre or
meditation retreat to gain the benefit.
Q. How long would you be in a retreat
for?
A. At least you should spend about one and a half months or two months
to gain this remarkable benefit from this meditation. Seven or ten days is just
the learning stage.
Q. So the meditation in that form is not something you
can do at home, you have to be in a retreat?
A. First of all, you should practise
at a retreat, say for about ten days or one month, so that you can get the correct
practice. If you practise at home you may take the wrong path. If you practise
at a meditation centre or meditation retreat, say for about ten days or one month,
you know the correct path or correct way of practice.
Q. So there's not really
an individual path to meditation?
A. There's an individual path, individually
you can practise it.
Q. But there's a right way to do it, not an individual
way?
A. It is individual work. So when you are at home and scrubbing the floors,
you observe the movement of your hand, that's meditation, that's individual work.
No-one need help you because you can do your observing of the movement of your
hands, that's mindfulness meditation, individual work. You see, the principle
of this mindfulness meditation is very easy; the principle is to see things as
they really are. So you have to see any mental state arising as it is, you have
to see any physical process that arises at that moment as it is, that's the principle,
that's mindfulness meditation, very easy, very simple and very much effective.
Q.
Do people actually come to the monastery?
A. Yes, people come to the monastery
and enquire about meditation and the teaching of the Buddha. Recently we have
built our meditation hall in Pietermaritzburg, anyone can come and practise meditation
there.
Q. Is this your first trip
to South Africa?
A. This is the third trip. 1995, first trip, 1997, second
trip, this is the third trip. In 1995, when I came here, I delivered some lectures
on Buddhism, especially to the Burmese people and also to the South Africans in
Ixopo and Durban. At that time, I told the Burmese people to try to establish
a meditation centre here, so that anyone who takes interest in meditation in South
Africa can meditate. The they bought a house on one acre, in 1997, we opened that
meditation centre in Pietermaritzburg. You have the address, it's called, "Dhammodaya
Myanmar Vihara". At that time also I delivered Dhamma talks (lectures on
Buddhism) at Ixopo, Buddhist Retreat Centre and in Cape Town too. This time, very
recently, I conducted a meditation retreat in Cape Town. Altogether twenty one
meditators took part in that 10 days meditation retreat.
Q. Is it important
to keep coming back to maintain that connection with your community?
A. Yes,
so that I can inspire them to go on with their work of the propagation of the
Buddha sasana. That's why I came here every second year. Every second year they
invited me. But I've visited not only this country, I've visited about twenty
eight countries form 1979 onward.
Q.
Are they countries in the Western World?
A. Yes, in Europe, the United States,
Canada and Asia too, Japan, Korea, Hong Kong, Philipines, Malaysia, Thailand,
almost all countries in Asia. I go abroad twice a year. Before I came here on
this trip, I went to Thailand, Malaysia, Borneo, Sabah, Sarawak, conducting meditation
retreats and after that I came here.
Q. Do you have a message for the South
African Community?
A. Yes to abstain from evil, to do good and to purify their
minds in any way.
Q. Are the needs
of South Africa quite different to the goals of other countries?
A. I don't
think so, South Africa is not very different from the other countries.
In Pretoria,
being interviewed by Ms Zelda Venter of the Pretoria News newspaper, Tuesday,
2nd February 1999.
Q. What is the purpose of your visit to South Africa?
A.
The purpose of my visit to South Africa is to deliver Dhamma talks on Buddhism
and to conduct meditation retreats. Also to ordain some Myanmar Doctors as bhikkhus
(monks) and some children as lower ordination novices. I arrived here on the seventh
of January and on the ninth of January we ordained eleven doctors as bhikkhus,
that's higher ordination and one South African gentleman was also ordained. Then
on the eleventh, we had the consecration of our Sima hall, ordination hall. If
we want to ordain anyone as a bhikkhu, we must first consecrate the Sima hall
and then anyone can be ordained as a bhikkhu in that ordination hall.
Q.
What is Sayadaw's message for the South African people at the public talks and
lectures?
A. Happiness through right understanding.
Q. Is this your first
time to South Africa?
A. This is the third time. 1995 was the first time, '97
second time.
Q. Do you like the
country?
A. Yes, I like every country.
Q.
Do you think that the average South Africans understand meditation?
A. Yes,
if they listen to the discourse on meditation they will be able to understand,
I think. Because the discourse of the Buddha is not very difficult to understand.
Q.
Do you think that meditation could be of value to South Africans with all the
problems that we have here?
A. Yes it would be very valuable, not only to South
Africans but all people in the world, if they practise this meditation.
Q.
Is it possible for South Africans to find inner peace with violence around them
everyday?
A. Yes
Zelda Venter
wrote in Pretoria News Wednesday February 17 1999.
Visiting Buddhist monk says
more should practise the art
A message of peace using meditation
Washing
your hands could be meditation. You must just be aware of your every movements
Ven. Chanmyay Sayadaw Ujanakabhivamsa
South Africans should gain peace
of mind through meditation. Only then would they be a happier, healthier and peaceful
nation This is the message of visiting Buddhist master and monk Chanmyay Sayadaw,
Ujanakabhivamsa to South Africans who have to face crime daily.
While adding
that the need to bring serenity and calm to the mind was very important, Sayadaw
stressed that Buddhism did not have to be as a religion.
Anyone, including
Christians, could practise meditation. It was an open way of life without
any
secrets and also a very practical way of life.
Sayadaw is an intentionally
renowned meditation master who has been in a Buddhist monastery since childhood.
He is also the abbot of the Chanmyay Yeiktha meditation centre in Yangon (Rangoon)
and patron abbot of Myanmar Buddhist centres in London and in South Africa.
He
hopes to give inspiration to South Africans on his visit here. As part of his
programme in the country he also held a Dharma talk at the Theosophical Society
in Pretoria. He was part of a nine day meditation programme held at Nan Hua Temple
in Bronkhorstspruit that ended on February 13.
Sayadaw also paid a visit to,
among others, a group of Burmese doctors in Pietermaritzburg who arrived in the
country in 1996 as part of Health Minister Nkosazana Zuma's call for foreign doctors
to help in South Africa.
The master explained that meditation was part of daily
life.
"Washing your hands could be meditation. You must just be aware
of your every movement," he said.
He explained that the core of Buddhism
was to do good and to abstain from doing evil things.
Meditation could even,
in certain instances, help cure physical illness, because some illness were caused
by the mind, he said.
Meditation, he explained, could be practised by anyone
provided they had the desire to meditate. Insight meditation, one of the two main
types of meditation, was a simple technique that could be learned by any one.
A
Dhamma talk with Q&A at the Johannesburg Theosophical Society, Tuesday, 2nd
February 1999
Q. What are the benefits of meditation?
A. In the Maha Satipatthana
Sutta, the Buddha pointed out the benefits of this meditation. In accordance with
that discourse, the first benefit is the purification of being. That means, by
means of this meditation you can purify your mind of all undesirable, negative
mental states. When your mind is purified, you live in peace and happiness. The
second and third benefits are the overcoming of sorrow and worry. If you feel
sorrow, you can overcome it by means of this meditation because you have to be
mindful of it, when you are mindful of the sorrow then gradually you come to realise
the true nature of the sorrow, that sorrow has disappeared, in the same way, worry
and so-on. Then the fourth and the fifth are the cessation of mental suffering
and physical suffering. We call that grief and pain. The sixth is the attainment
of enlightenment which is path knowledge magga-nyana in accordance with abhidhamma
or Buddhism. The final benefit the experience of Nibbana the cessation of all
kinds of suffering. These are the seven benefits that a Vipassana meditator can
attain when he is able to practise fully.
Q. Have you or do you know of anybody
who has reached these states of bliss or enlightenment through meditation?
A.
Yes, some meditators have reached these stages of enlightenment when they have
practised intensively say for about two or three months incessantly, continuously.
We have to consult their experiences with what the scriptures said as to the quality
of the meditator who has attained enlightenment. Then we can say he has attained
such enlightenment.
Q. How do you discipline the mind while you're in pain,
physical and emotional, to accept the pain the pain and the suffering?
A. Mindfulness
of the pain is the best way of disciplining. When you are mindful of the pain
whenever it arises, first of all the pain seems to be more severe gradually, when
you are patient with it and observe it precisely then gradually the pain is decreasing,
sometimes it disappears.
Q. Can
you be a practising Buddhist, be able to let go of suffering, surpass it and be
happy?
A. Yes, Buddhism is the way of overcoming suffering by being aware of
it, by being mindful of it as it is, only when you are rightly able to understand
suffering, you can get rid of it and experience the cessation of suffering.
Q.
Why Buddhism in comparison to other faiths and religions?
A. We don't really
know the definition of the word religion. If the definition of religion is believing
in a God or creator, then Buddhism is not a religion. Buddhism offers a system
or a way of life so that you can reach the cessation of suffering by practice.
Q.
Does Reiki fit in with Buddhism and where? Reiki is a way of healing?
A. That
is not Buddhism.
Q. How did you
become a Buddhist and at what point were you able to say, "I'm a Buddhist"?
A.
When you believe in the Buddha, his teaching and the order of Buddhist monks,
you can be said to be a Buddhist.
Q.
What is the attitude towards donating organs or body parts, especially with regard
to allowing the body three hours or ten hours for the spirit / soul/ consciousness
to depart?
A. Even the Buddha in his previous existences donated his body parts,
his limbs, even he donated his eyes to some person who needs it. It should be
encouraged.
Q. What is your response to conversion or interest or investigation
of Buddhism?
A. We are not interested in conversion but we take interest in
anyone who takes interest in Buddhist meditation.
Q.
Are there any hints as to how one To what extent is one supposed to be mindful
throughout the day?
A. If you want to be a successful meditator, you have to
be mindful of any actions and movements throughout the day. In a meditation retreat
in a meditation centre you have to do that. At home too, you are able to do that
but then you need not slow down, you do all actions and movements normally and
you should apply general awareness to what your doing. When you are generally
aware of what you are doing, gradually that awareness becomes more and more sharper
and sharper and more powerful. The it will give you concentration to a certain
extent and some peace and happiness too.
Q. This was my first time to meditate
and while I was meditating I was conscious of my hands, palms and after a while
I felt that they were no longer there. Can you explain it?
A. You need not
pay any attention to the disappearance of the hands. You should be mindful of
the other mental or physical process which is predominant.
Q.
If one felt oneself lifting or departing from ones physical being during meditation,
is it something to be scared of or should it be controlled, or what should one
do.
A. When you have two or three or more objects arising at the same moment,
you should observe the most prominent object. So when you feel that your body
is lifted, then if you know the mind is going, you should observe the mind that
is wandering. If the feeling of the lifting is more predominant then that feeling
must be observed. Whatever is the most predominant object must be observed. In
accordance with the vipassana meditation, you must not control any mental states
or physical processes. What you should do is just see it as it is that's all.
Q. When I was meditating, I was
sleepy so I laid down on my side and I had that floating experience and when I
became more mindful of it I became very scared. Can you explain it?
A. When
your feel that the mind is drifting, that drifting mind must be observed until
it has disappeared, when you observe it it will disappear. If the fear is more
predominant it must be observed, "fear, fear, fear" until it has disappeared.
Q. Do you use mantras in the Theravadan
tradition?
A. In Vipassana meditation, you need not have a mantra as the object
of meditation, any mental states or physical processes that arise at any moment
are the objects of meditation, you need not find any other object.
Q. How do
you face fear and let go of it?
A. If you observe fear, then it will gradually
disappear. When you do it practically, you'll know it through practice because
the fear is overwhelmed by the mindfulness, the concentration, so the fear has
disappeared. But you need to observe it, you need to note it attentively enough.
A
Dhamma talk with Q&A at the Pretoria Theosophical Society, Thursday, 4th February
1999
Q. How to achieve balance between fulfilling one's duties and time for
meditation?
A. This mindfulness meditation is not only for a meditator in a
meditation retreat or at a meditation centre, it's for all people at home especially
this mindfulness should be applied to what you are doing at home. You can do it
because we have three aspects of practice; walking, sitting and awareness of daily
activities or general activities. When you do your work at home, whatever you
may do, you should be aware of what you are doing, generally not specifically,
without noting, without labelling. Say, when you stretch out your arms to do something,
you need not slow down, you do it normally, steadily but be generally aware of
it without labelling or noting. When you get accustomed to doing that, it will
give you some concentration and also you'll be happy with it. Suppose you walk
to any destination, you should not think about any other things, you should observe
the movement of the foot without labelling, being aware of each movement of the
foot normally, steadily. Then your mind will be concentrated to a certain extent
and you'll reach your destination without your knowledge, "Ah, I have arrived!".
Because your mind is concentrated on the movement of the foot, you feel happy.
First of all, you should train yourself at a meditation centre or at a retreat,
say, for about a week or ten days so that you can correctly practise this type
of meditation, after that you can apply it to your daily life.
Q.
How to achieve a balance between attachment and detachment?
A. Attachment and
detachment cannot be balanced....but if you rightly understand your bodily and
mental phenomena in their true nature, your attachment to your body and your attachment
to any other person becomes gradually decreasing. You see, attachment is the cause
of suffering. If you're attached to your car and it's stolen, then you're suffering,
that attachment is the cause of your suffering. That's why the Buddha said in
his four Noble Truths; the second Noble Truth is samuttaya sacca - the truth of
the cause of suffering. It refers to attachment, desire, lust greed, craving,
grasping, so attachment is the cause of suffering, the immediate cause of suffering,
the Buddha said. When you rightly understand your bodily and mental phenomena
in their true nature, that attachment will be decreasing gradually, then your
suffering will also be decreasing.
Q. Please explain again how to identify
the elements within the body.
A. When you are mindful of any phenomena which
arises in your body, gradually you'll be able to identify these characteristics
of the elements.
Q. Is it possible
to be attached to the concept of non-attachment?
A. It is impossible to be
attached to the concept of non-attachment because in non-attachment there's no
attachment at all just right understanding.
Q.
Ignorance is the cause of suffering. Are there things that should be ignored?
A.
You are ignorant of your bodily and mental phenomena, it is very obvious that
you are not able to rightly understand the true nature of your body and mind as
they really occur, these are the objects of ignorance.