"Don't chase after the past, don't seek the future; the past is gone,
the future hasn't come. But see clearly on the spot, the object which is now,
while finding and living in a still, unmoving state of mind." Buddha.
In human life, one encounters many vexations and perturbations. The worst vexations are usually brought about by oneself.
Words and actions are two manifestations of one's state of mind. But with most people, there are more words than actions, or even actions that contradict words.
In profound practice of a skill, the mind is like still water reflecting something. Such a mind uses the correct means to respond to any given situation.